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The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work Audiobook

The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country's Foremost Relationship Expert

Straightforward in its approach, yet profound in its effect, the principles outlined in this book teach partners new and startling strategies for making marriage work. Gottman has scientifically analyzed the habits of married couples and established a method of correcting the behavior that puts thousands of marriages on the rocks. He helps couples to focus on one another and pay attention to the small day-to-day moments that, strung together, make up the heart and soul of any relationship.
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Straightforward in its approach, yet profound in its effect, the principles outlined in this book teach partners new and startling strategies for making marriage work. Gottman has scientifically analyzed the habits of married couples and established a method of correcting the behavior that puts thousands of marriages on the rocks. He helps couples to focus on one another and pay attention to the small day-to-day moments that, strung together, make up the heart and soul of any relationship. Gottman has culled seven principles essential to the success of any marriage:

  • Maintain a love map
  • Foster fondness and admiration
  • Turn toward instead of away
  • Accept influence
  • Solve solvable conflicts
  • Cope with conflicts you can't resolve
  • Create shared meaning

Packed with questionnaires and exercises whose effectiveness has been proven in Dr. Gottman's workshops, this is the definitive guide for any couple who wants their relationship to realize its highest potential.

©1999 John Gottam, Ph.D. and Nan Silver (P)2011 Tantor

What the Critics Say

"Gottman comes to this endeavor with the best of qualifications: he's got the spirit of a scientist and the soul of a romantic." (Newsweek)

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    05-28-12
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    "Good information but very drawn out"
    Would you try another book from John M.; Nan Gottman; Silver and/or John Allen Nelson?

    No


    Would you recommend The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work to your friends? Why or why not?

    Yes but you need the paper copy to work through it


    Did the narration match the pace of the story?

    Yes


    Was The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work worth the listening time?

    It is worth the time but you have to be very committed to work through all the exercises


    Any additional comments?

    Buy the paper copy

    1 of 1 people found this review helpful
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    J. Howard SAVOY, IL, US 04-17-16
    J. Howard SAVOY, IL, US 04-17-16 Member Since 2015

    Say something about yourself!

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    "Real, practical advice"

    This book not only quickly gets to the core of martial issues, but also gives simple, doable ways to solve them. Though I did skip past many of the lists in the audio version, I plan to buy the paper version so my husband and I can't work through them together.

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    Alan A Kellerman 02-24-16 Member Since 2016
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    "Amazing Material not so well suited for audio."

    The content of this book is so worth mastering. I am usually a very good audio learner. However, with all the exercises and quizzes it's really helpful to have the written book. I bought the hard copy and use the two together. I think that works. Bottom line -master and internalize the wisdom of this book and your marriage will be miles ahead of where you were before.

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    Sean 02-21-16
    Sean 02-21-16 Member Since 2016
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    "Does not work well as audio book"

    So this book is good as a workbook and for the content but there is one major flaw that will make you want to bang your head on a table while listening to it. It's basically a workbook and the reader is so impractical and annoying in how they read it

    For example, he will list 20 questions that have answers of: not at all, a little, somewhat, a bout right, a lot. Now a normal person would say these are the answers for the following 20 questions and then read the questions. This author basically will read the question and then the 6 answers, then the next question and the 6 answers, over and over for all 20 questions. He does this dozens of times in the audio book. It's stupid and annoying. This audio book is probably only 4 hrs of real content but because of how poorly they planned the reading it will take you 20 hrs to get through it.

    It's good content that is presented so poorly that you will probably give up if you don't have amazing discipline.

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    Everyday You 02-15-16 Member Since 2015
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    "Best marriage book."

    I've read and reread this book since I was in my undergrad and unmarried. Now, two kids, careers, wed, and years later it is one I turn to consistently. It has helped to maintain a great marriage with my partner. Opposed to other "self-help" marriage books this one tells you what to do, in realistic terms.

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    Alexander 162 Bronx, NY 02-06-16
    Alexander 162 Bronx, NY 02-06-16 Member Since 2014

    Bronx book guy

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    "Marriage made clearer"

    I read the 7 Principles to Making Marriage Work in a group where we supported each other in improving our marital relationships. The exercises were helpful in giving voice to difficult topics and conversations. We learned how to avoid the 4 horsemen but also how to build intimacy and friendship. I recommend this book to any married couple that like us have tried many things before. This gives a research basis for trying one more time!

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    Tara Kamloops BC 01-27-16
    Tara Kamloops BC 01-27-16 Member Since 2014
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    "would be better in print"

    the content of the 7 rules us great, but listening to so many quiz questions was awful. Great book, but get it in print from

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    Lucy Guzman 01-12-16
    Lucy Guzman 01-12-16 Member Since 2014
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    "Don't buy this"

    It's a shame bc this book content is excellent but they did not give a pdf with the book so it's a complete waste of time. This book makes no sense if you cannot see the exercises. But the paperback.

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    EmmaLeeann 01-06-16
    EmmaLeeann 01-06-16
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    "Good book, strange voice actor"
    Any additional comments?

    The voice talent has a sort-of, folksy, country-type accent. It kind of reminds me of the voice giving safety instructions to this waiting in the line for Big Thunder Mountain Railroad at Disneyland.

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    Taylor 12-10-15
    Taylor 12-10-15 Member Since 2015
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    "Best book for marriage"

    This book was the best book I have read on marriage. It offers practical hands on exercises to do with your spouse. It's a must read for newlyweds to help divorce proof your marriage.

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