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The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work Audiobook

The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country's Foremost Relationship Expert

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Publisher's Summary

Straightforward in its approach, yet profound in its effect, the principles outlined in this book teach partners new and startling strategies for making marriage work. Gottman has scientifically analyzed the habits of married couples and established a method of correcting the behavior that puts thousands of marriages on the rocks. He helps couples to focus on one another and pay attention to the small day-to-day moments that, strung together, make up the heart and soul of any relationship. Gottman has culled seven principles essential to the success of any marriage:

  • Maintain a love map
  • Foster fondness and admiration
  • Turn toward instead of away
  • Accept influence
  • Solve solvable conflicts
  • Cope with conflicts you can't resolve
  • Create shared meaning

Packed with questionnaires and exercises whose effectiveness has been proven in Dr. Gottman's workshops, this is the definitive guide for any couple who wants their relationship to realize its highest potential.

©1999 John Gottam, Ph.D. and Nan Silver (P)2011 Tantor

What the Critics Say

"Gottman comes to this endeavor with the best of qualifications: he's got the spirit of a scientist and the soul of a romantic." (Newsweek)

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    mark linnett 05-28-12
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    "Good information but very drawn out"
    Would you try another book from John M.; Nan Gottman; Silver and/or John Allen Nelson?

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    Would you recommend The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work to your friends? Why or why not?

    Yes but you need the paper copy to work through it


    Did the narration match the pace of the story?

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    Was The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work worth the listening time?

    It is worth the time but you have to be very committed to work through all the exercises


    Any additional comments?

    Buy the paper copy

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    Laura Lopez 04-04-17
    Laura Lopez 04-04-17 Member Since 2017
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    "Excellent book for relationships"

    Great summary and exercises to unserstand the main problems of couple. Good information, excellent book if both people in the relationship are willing to complete exercises.

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    Rambo Houston, TX 03-24-17
    Rambo Houston, TX 03-24-17 Member Since 2016
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    "Must Read"

    Exercises and perspective are great in this book. This is a must read for every couple.

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    Seleena San Jose 03-24-17
    Seleena San Jose 03-24-17 Member Since 2016

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    "A MUST READ"

    I found this book very helpful. It got me to understand the point of view of the other person. It promotes healthy relationship building habits that are useful - not just with a significant other but also with any other person with whom I'm trying to establish a working relationship.

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    Kristi 03-03-17
    Kristi 03-03-17 Member Since 2015
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    "Best Marriage Book Ever"

    I read a lot, and this is by far the best marriage book I've read. Applicable concepts, worksheets and getting to the root of issues and strengths. So grateful this book exists!!!

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    Margit lister 03-01-17 Member Since 2016
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    "Information is quality, it is hard to do in a audible book."

    I enjoyed the book and I think the exercises are great though they are difficult to do in a audible book. It would be nice to be able to see the quizzes and the questions that you are supposed to use with your spouse. Otherwise I think the information is helpful and valuable to a healthy marriage

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    Ew 02-08-17
    Ew 02-08-17 Member Since 2013
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    "Relevant in 2017"

    This book hits a lot high points. Recommend getting the paperback to do the check lists.

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    Udai 02-01-17
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    "Insightful Book"

    Great content, but the long surveys are painful to listen to in the audio format.

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    Andy B. Ohio, United States 01-30-17
    Andy B. Ohio, United States 01-30-17 Member Since 2016

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    "One You Want to Have in Your Collection"

    I started listening to the audiobook and was hooked, so much so that I purchased a print copy to have on hand for reference. (Gottman includes lots of worksheet-type quizzes and exercises so you'll need the paper if you really want to dig into the material.)

    What makes the book so appealing is there's no additional effort required to begin practicing the principles. It all begins with awareness--how we think about ourselves and partner, how we speak to each other, what can we give ground on and gain harmony, and more. I find that this is less of a pull-you-back-from-the-brink-of-divorce guidebook; rather, it's a manual for functioning relationships and how to tune them up and keep them in shape. I think the advice is sound and will appeal to both 'feelers' and 'thinkers.' Better yet, the methods should be able to bring differing personality types closer together. All-in-all a great resource.

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    mali 01-11-17
    mali 01-11-17
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    "good book, not optimal for audio"

    great content. bad performance especially in exercises. it would have been much better if an PDF with all exercises was attached

    0 of 0 people found this review helpful

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