Straightforward in its approach, yet profound in its effect, the principles outlined in this book teach partners new and startling strategies for making marriage work. Gottman has scientifically analyzed the habits of married couples and established a method of correcting the behavior that puts thousands of marriages on the rocks. He helps couples to focus on one another and pay attention to the small day-to-day moments that, strung together, make up the heart and soul of any relationship. Gottman has culled seven principles essential to the success of any marriage:
Packed with questionnaires and exercises whose effectiveness has been proven in Dr. Gottman's workshops, this is the definitive guide for any couple who wants their relationship to realize its highest potential.
©1999 John Gottam, Ph.D. and Nan Silver (P)2011 Tantor
"Gottman comes to this endeavor with the best of qualifications: he's got the spirit of a scientist and the soul of a romantic." (Newsweek)
Yes but you need the paper copy to work through it
It is worth the time but you have to be very committed to work through all the exercises
Buy the paper copy
This book was very heteronormative and did not discuss cultural considerations including religion, sexual identity, or orientation. Although these issues were not discussed, I think anyone could read this book and gain a lot of useful information about improving their relationship with their partner. This book could also be helpful for therapists looking for tools for therapy sessions.
Gottman attempted to make his book amusing, but the voice over actor sounded pompous. A few people I know have read this book as opposed to listening and found it to be a different experience.
My favorite part of the book were the activities. They helped couples have fun while doing the work.
Great great book with TONS of helpful information. I would have given it 5 stars if, they would update the audio book to delete the reading of the material contained in the exercises that accompany the hard copy of the book (you can also find them online and print them) from the audio version of this book. That portion wastes a lot of time and takes away from the actual content in the audio version! Very distracting!
You learn what makes a marriage fail and what makes a marriage succeed. Audio is useful to familiarize yourself with the concepts, but you'll also want the e-book or paperback to do all the exercises.
It did meet my expectations. It is one of the best marriage audio books I've ever listened to (and I have read/listen to hundreds of books). Thank you!
Some of the best marriage counseling I've received, but perhaps not particularly well adapted to an Audiobook format. The advice is great, well structured, and scientifically based, but the format includes various quizzes and exercises that while well read are not well adapted to use by a listener. There's even an editor's note recommending use of paper an pen over these extensive sections. If I had it to do over again, of just get a hard copy. Perhaps they'll come out with an abridged version that could better adapt the content of quizzes to listeners.
I found it interesting that the author makes some really big claims right when he starts out the book, saying that he could determine if any marriage would work or fail with just five minutes. I'm not married, but I just thought that tips for marriage could probably be used in almost any relationship, including with my boyfriend.
He is pretty repetitive and goes through one principle pretty slowly, spanning a few chapters. I think maybe audio book format isn't the best for this because there are a ton of lists of questions and scenarios and it gets sort of boring listening to them. Might be better to purchase a paper copy and go through it with your spouse.
This guide provides a useful tool for relationships - even past a marriage. I highly recommend it and honestly wish I had read it 8 to 10 years ago.
Be ready to work. This isn't a novel but a guide for those who are ready to peer into themselves and their partner. It's a session to reveal and identify how you can truly enhance your friendship - together.
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