Straightforward in its approach, yet profound in its effect, the principles outlined in this book teach partners new and startling strategies for making marriage work. Gottman has scientifically analyzed the habits of married couples and established a method of correcting the behavior that puts thousands of marriages on the rocks. He helps couples to focus on one another and pay attention to the small day-to-day moments that, strung together, make up the heart and soul of any relationship. Gottman has culled seven principles essential to the success of any marriage:
Packed with questionnaires and exercises whose effectiveness has been proven in Dr. Gottman's workshops, this is the definitive guide for any couple who wants their relationship to realize its highest potential.
©1999 John Gottam, Ph.D. and Nan Silver (P)2011 Tantor
"Gottman comes to this endeavor with the best of qualifications: he's got the spirit of a scientist and the soul of a romantic." (Newsweek)
Yes but you need the paper copy to work through it
It is worth the time but you have to be very committed to work through all the exercises
Buy the paper copy
This is great in the sense that someone actually sat down and studies married couples. Not human alone but the interactions, they took that data (which dispels A LOT of advice and counseling out there) and put it into simple English for couples to have a blue print that is proven.
As the description says, "packed with questionnaires and exercises." So those do not translate perfectly to audible story but the info is there, you will have to pull out a pencil and write it out or get a different version.
But the info is solid and has already made a huge difference.
The material and presentation are excellent, but the audiobook format doesn't work well for exercises -- it turns into a long repetitive lists that you can't really use, just need to skip over. Still, if you prefer audio to paper, you'll get a lot out of this.
Brian is an avid reader. He is interested in great stories and human behavior. His job is as a behavioral specialist in public schools.
I am divorced. When I got engaged I and my fiancée both decided premarital counseling was a good idea. We both were interested in making it work and starting off strong. The counselor advised us to read this book. Not only has following this book helped both of us be closer, it has also revealed the mists we have both made in past relationships. It is amazing how much that this book reveals. I wish it were required reading.
Most of the book this guy is trying to say that men should be like women and that men should let the women be the boss. He thinks that in this day and age women are more Superior or just as Superior as men and today the best way to have a happy marriage is to just give her whatever the hell she wants. Anyone who reads this book and disagrees with me is either a woman or a gay man. However besides that fact this book has a lot of good information.
This book was recommended by my counselors and I'm glad I read it. I wouldn't say it's the sole book to read on marriage but I definitely learned some stuff! There were absolutely times where I had to stop what I was doing and take a bunch of notes.
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The true value of this book is in the insightful activities it provides for spouses and partners to do together. Unfortunately, in the audiobook format, that means someone reading dozens of items at you to take back to your partner. Make sure you write them down or you'll find yourself revisiting several parts, several times.
Say something about yourself!
This book not only quickly gets to the core of martial issues, but also gives simple, doable ways to solve them. Though I did skip past many of the lists in the audio version, I plan to buy the paper version so my husband and I can't work through them together.
The content of this book is so worth mastering. I am usually a very good audio learner. However, with all the exercises and quizzes it's really helpful to have the written book. I bought the hard copy and use the two together. I think that works. Bottom line -master and internalize the wisdom of this book and your marriage will be miles ahead of where you were before.
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