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The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work Audiobook

The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country's Foremost Relationship Expert

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Publisher's Summary

Straightforward in its approach, yet profound in its effect, the principles outlined in this book teach partners new and startling strategies for making marriage work. Gottman has scientifically analyzed the habits of married couples and established a method of correcting the behavior that puts thousands of marriages on the rocks. He helps couples to focus on one another and pay attention to the small day-to-day moments that, strung together, make up the heart and soul of any relationship. Gottman has culled seven principles essential to the success of any marriage:

  • Maintain a love map
  • Foster fondness and admiration
  • Turn toward instead of away
  • Accept influence
  • Solve solvable conflicts
  • Cope with conflicts you can't resolve
  • Create shared meaning

Packed with questionnaires and exercises whose effectiveness has been proven in Dr. Gottman's workshops, this is the definitive guide for any couple who wants their relationship to realize its highest potential.

©1999 John Gottam, Ph.D. and Nan Silver (P)2011 Tantor

What the Critics Say

"Gottman comes to this endeavor with the best of qualifications: he's got the spirit of a scientist and the soul of a romantic." (Newsweek)

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    "Good information but very drawn out"
    Would you try another book from John M.; Nan Gottman; Silver and/or John Allen Nelson?

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    Would you recommend The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work to your friends? Why or why not?

    Yes but you need the paper copy to work through it


    Did the narration match the pace of the story?

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    Was The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work worth the listening time?

    It is worth the time but you have to be very committed to work through all the exercises


    Any additional comments?

    Buy the paper copy

    1 of 1 people found this review helpful
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    malaz 07-01-16
    malaz 07-01-16 Member Since 2016
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    "this book is better as a paper version"

    too much questionnaires for an audio book. hard to follow, better get a paper version.

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    Taniqua 06-27-16
    Taniqua 06-27-16
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    "Great info. Great Book"

    This is great in the sense that someone actually sat down and studies married couples. Not human alone but the interactions, they took that data (which dispels A LOT of advice and counseling out there) and put it into simple English for couples to have a blue print that is proven.

    As the description says, "packed with questionnaires and exercises." So those do not translate perfectly to audible story but the info is there, you will have to pull out a pencil and write it out or get a different version.

    But the info is solid and has already made a huge difference.

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    Sarah Dopp San Francisco, CA 06-22-16
    Sarah Dopp San Francisco, CA 06-22-16 Member Since 2016
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    "Great book, exercises are difficult without book"

    The material and presentation are excellent, but the audiobook format doesn't work well for exercises -- it turns into a long repetitive lists that you can't really use, just need to skip over. Still, if you prefer audio to paper, you'll get a lot out of this.

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    Brian 06-07-16
    Brian 06-07-16

    Brian is an avid reader. He is interested in great stories and human behavior. His job is as a behavioral specialist in public schools.

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    "An Essential Book on Relationships"

    I am divorced. When I got engaged I and my fiancée both decided premarital counseling was a good idea. We both were interested in making it work and starting off strong. The counselor advised us to read this book. Not only has following this book helped both of us be closer, it has also revealed the mists we have both made in past relationships. It is amazing how much that this book reveals. I wish it were required reading.

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    Nathan Collins 05-25-16 Member Since 2016
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    "This guy must be gay or something"

    Most of the book this guy is trying to say that men should be like women and that men should let the women be the boss. He thinks that in this day and age women are more Superior or just as Superior as men and today the best way to have a happy marriage is to just give her whatever the hell she wants. Anyone who reads this book and disagrees with me is either a woman or a gay man. However besides that fact this book has a lot of good information.

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    steve estrada CALIFORNIA 05-20-16
    steve estrada CALIFORNIA 05-20-16 Member Since 2016
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    Would you recommend this audiobook to a friend? If so, why?

    This book was recommended by my counselors and I'm glad I read it. I wouldn't say it's the sole book to read on marriage but I definitely learned some stuff! There were absolutely times where I had to stop what I was doing and take a bunch of notes.


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    NerfHerder42 Illinois, USA 05-12-16
    NerfHerder42 Illinois, USA 05-12-16 Member Since 2015

    Guinness World Record Holder. 热中老古. Purveyor of LoL. Time Magazine's 2006 Person of the Year. Viking Warlord

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    "Bring along a pen and paper"

    The true value of this book is in the insightful activities it provides for spouses and partners to do together. Unfortunately, in the audiobook format, that means someone reading dozens of items at you to take back to your partner. Make sure you write them down or you'll find yourself revisiting several parts, several times.

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    J. Howard SAVOY, IL, US 04-17-16
    J. Howard SAVOY, IL, US 04-17-16 Member Since 2016

    Say something about yourself!

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    "Real, practical advice"

    This book not only quickly gets to the core of martial issues, but also gives simple, doable ways to solve them. Though I did skip past many of the lists in the audio version, I plan to buy the paper version so my husband and I can't work through them together.

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    Alan A Kellerman 02-24-16 Member Since 2016
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    "Amazing Material not so well suited for audio."

    The content of this book is so worth mastering. I am usually a very good audio learner. However, with all the exercises and quizzes it's really helpful to have the written book. I bought the hard copy and use the two together. I think that works. Bottom line -master and internalize the wisdom of this book and your marriage will be miles ahead of where you were before.

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