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The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work Audiobook

The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country's Foremost Relationship Expert

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Publisher's Summary

Straightforward in its approach, yet profound in its effect, the principles outlined in this book teach partners new and startling strategies for making marriage work. Gottman has scientifically analyzed the habits of married couples and established a method of correcting the behavior that puts thousands of marriages on the rocks. He helps couples to focus on one another and pay attention to the small day-to-day moments that, strung together, make up the heart and soul of any relationship. Gottman has culled seven principles essential to the success of any marriage:

  • Maintain a love map
  • Foster fondness and admiration
  • Turn toward instead of away
  • Accept influence
  • Solve solvable conflicts
  • Cope with conflicts you can't resolve
  • Create shared meaning

Packed with questionnaires and exercises whose effectiveness has been proven in Dr. Gottman's workshops, this is the definitive guide for any couple who wants their relationship to realize its highest potential.

©1999 John Gottam, Ph.D. and Nan Silver (P)2011 Tantor

What the Critics Say

"Gottman comes to this endeavor with the best of qualifications: he's got the spirit of a scientist and the soul of a romantic." (Newsweek)

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    mark linnett 05-28-12
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    "Good information but very drawn out"
    Would you try another book from John M.; Nan Gottman; Silver and/or John Allen Nelson?

    No


    Would you recommend The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work to your friends? Why or why not?

    Yes but you need the paper copy to work through it


    Did the narration match the pace of the story?

    Yes


    Was The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work worth the listening time?

    It is worth the time but you have to be very committed to work through all the exercises


    Any additional comments?

    Buy the paper copy

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    mali 01-11-17
    mali 01-11-17
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    "good book, not optimal for audio"

    great content. bad performance especially in exercises. it would have been much better if an PDF with all exercises was attached

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    ANN 12-18-16
    ANN 12-18-16 Member Since 2015
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    "Must read"

    Anyone who wants to have successful and meaningful relationships in their lives should read this book. It goes beyond marriage.

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    Barry Petaluma, CA, United States 12-14-16
    Barry Petaluma, CA, United States 12-14-16 Member Since 2008

    My interests run to psychology, popular science, history, world literature, and occasionally something fun like Jasper Fforde. It seems like the only free time I have for reading these days is when I'm in the car so I am extremely grateful for audio books. I started off reading just the contemporary stuff that I was determined not to clutter up my already stuffed bookcases with. And now audio is probably 90% of my "reading" matter.

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    "Solid research-based advice"

    There is some really great information in this book. However, there are also a number of lists and tests and things that do not lend themselves to audio. The reader/producer decided to read all the lists including the scale of answers (e.g., "most of the time, some of the time, rarely, never") for every single question. This would have been a great opportunity for one of those PDF additional material options that I see on some audio books.

    That complaint aside, the book really does cover some good material. The title sounds like a pretty grand claim, but Gottman bases all his work on research. He is careful to point out that all marriages have conflict. What makes the difference is how that conflict is dealt with. The principles he refers to are about the habits of successful couples that can be practiced by anyone to develop more functional ways of dealing with conflict. That seems to be a key distinction. It isn't about good marriages vs. bad marriages as much as it is about functional marriages vs. dysfunctional marriages. To that end, he talks about the characteristics that can lead a marriage toward dysfunction. And then he offers examples and exercises to be practiced and adopted to counteract those negative forces.

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    Brian 11-30-16
    Brian 11-30-16 Member Since 2015
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    "Good info, not ideal for audio"

    This is not good for listening. Good info but the many worksheets that are read by the author make it a hard listen.

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    Shahira 11-02-16
    Shahira 11-02-16
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    "awesome book with practical advises"

    This book is really awesome with practical advises on many issues that are the sources of conflicts between spouses. It will guide you to get the marriage that really fulfill you . The best advice for me was to be demanding in your marriage and set high expectations , this is the opposite to the common concept of lowering your expectations to be happy but i agree with that when you aim high you will get the best. a must read book for married.

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    Amazon Customer 10-29-16 Member Since 2016
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    "a big help"

    this book really helps unravel the confusing ins and outs of marriage disagreements. it give you a really good starting place and direction to helping your marriage.

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    randy 10-28-16
    randy 10-28-16 Member Since 2015
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    "Great Book and a must read"
    Would you recommend this audiobook to a friend? If so, why?

    I recommend this book to all couples. It really does a great job of dissecting the nuts and bolts of why marriages break down.


    What was one of the most memorable moments of The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work?

    For me the best part is the 4 horseman. That so closely relates to my situation that it resonated with me.


    What’s an idea from the book that you will remember?

    I will take the love map and advice and constantly update it.


    Any additional comments?

    I thought this book was spot on when it comes to what makes a wife stay in a marriage. If a man follows this book he is assured his wife will stay content. I did however feel it missed the mark a little for men. The book is spot on for girls but if you don't pay attention to the husbands side you miss something. Men and women communicate and bond differently. For women the love map works perfectly. But for men it does not. What i mean is from the book he said she said we learn men bond with activity and women bond with conversation. This book does not really touch on that fact. It focuses on how to better connect through conversation. That's where a lot of women feel neglected and rightly so. The truth is men bond over an activity not necessarily the conversation. Men attempt to insert there loved ones into their activity cause that's how they feel close and bonded. Its been that way from early development. From the book his needs her needs the author lists a mans top 5 basic emotional needs and recreational activity comes in 2nd which is very high. This book does not go into enough detail about the bonding ways of men and therefore leave a lot of women feeling left behind. Truth is he is trying to bond but he is speaking in his language but you are not hearing him. If women keep this in mind it could easy the pain they feel and help move toward the center. Insert yourself into his favorite activity and start the conversation that makes you feel bonded. For more information read these books.The modern Scholar He said she said His needs her needs

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    GERARDO 10-26-16
    GERARDO 10-26-16 Member Since 2014
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    Love it..... It really has made a sense in my life to the fullest I must admit

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    Katherine Horvath Dandridge Tn. 10-21-16
    Katherine Horvath Dandridge Tn. 10-21-16

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    I wish I had read this book 28 yrs ago when I got married. Hope it's not to late to use these principles

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