Straightforward in its approach, yet profound in its effect, the principles outlined in this book teach partners new and startling strategies for making marriage work. Gottman has scientifically analyzed the habits of married couples and established a method of correcting the behavior that puts thousands of marriages on the rocks. He helps couples to focus on one another and pay attention to the small day-to-day moments that, strung together, make up the heart and soul of any relationship. Gottman has culled seven principles essential to the success of any marriage:
Packed with questionnaires and exercises whose effectiveness has been proven in Dr. Gottman's workshops, this is the definitive guide for any couple who wants their relationship to realize its highest potential.
©1999 John Gottam, Ph.D. and Nan Silver (P)2011 Tantor
"Gottman comes to this endeavor with the best of qualifications: he's got the spirit of a scientist and the soul of a romantic." (Newsweek)
Yes but you need the paper copy to work through it
It is worth the time but you have to be very committed to work through all the exercises
Buy the paper copy
Great summary and exercises to unserstand the main problems of couple. Good information, excellent book if both people in the relationship are willing to complete exercises.
I found this book very helpful. It got me to understand the point of view of the other person. It promotes healthy relationship building habits that are useful - not just with a significant other but also with any other person with whom I'm trying to establish a working relationship.
I read a lot, and this is by far the best marriage book I've read. Applicable concepts, worksheets and getting to the root of issues and strengths. So grateful this book exists!!!
I enjoyed the book and I think the exercises are great though they are difficult to do in a audible book. It would be nice to be able to see the quizzes and the questions that you are supposed to use with your spouse. Otherwise I think the information is helpful and valuable to a healthy marriage
I started listening to the audiobook and was hooked, so much so that I purchased a print copy to have on hand for reference. (Gottman includes lots of worksheet-type quizzes and exercises so you'll need the paper if you really want to dig into the material.)
What makes the book so appealing is there's no additional effort required to begin practicing the principles. It all begins with awareness--how we think about ourselves and partner, how we speak to each other, what can we give ground on and gain harmony, and more. I find that this is less of a pull-you-back-from-the-brink-of-divorce guidebook; rather, it's a manual for functioning relationships and how to tune them up and keep them in shape. I think the advice is sound and will appeal to both 'feelers' and 'thinkers.' Better yet, the methods should be able to bring differing personality types closer together. All-in-all a great resource.
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