Straightforward in its approach, yet profound in its effect, the principles outlined in this book teach partners new and startling strategies for making marriage work. Gottman has scientifically analyzed the habits of married couples and established a method of correcting the behavior that puts thousands of marriages on the rocks. He helps couples to focus on one another and pay attention to the small day-to-day moments that, strung together, make up the heart and soul of any relationship. Gottman has culled seven principles essential to the success of any marriage:
Packed with questionnaires and exercises whose effectiveness has been proven in Dr. Gottman's workshops, this is the definitive guide for any couple who wants their relationship to realize its highest potential.
©1999 John Gottam, Ph.D. and Nan Silver (P)2011 Tantor
"Gottman comes to this endeavor with the best of qualifications: he's got the spirit of a scientist and the soul of a romantic." (Newsweek)
Yes but you need the paper copy to work through it
It is worth the time but you have to be very committed to work through all the exercises
Buy the paper copy
I really enjoyed reading this book with my fiancé as we approached marriage. It was a great book with in depth information that really spanned all the questions that both of us had and more. I fully appreciated all of the research and dedication that the author clearly put into the topic of a healthy marriage!
This is great in the sense that someone actually sat down and studies married couples. Not human alone but the interactions, they took that data (which dispels A LOT of advice and counseling out there) and put it into simple English for couples to have a blue print that is proven.
As the description says, "packed with questionnaires and exercises." So those do not translate perfectly to audible story but the info is there, you will have to pull out a pencil and write it out or get a different version.
But the info is solid and has already made a huge difference.
The material and presentation are excellent, but the audiobook format doesn't work well for exercises -- it turns into a long repetitive lists that you can't really use, just need to skip over. Still, if you prefer audio to paper, you'll get a lot out of this.
Brian is an avid reader. He is interested in great stories and human behavior. His job is as a behavioral specialist in public schools.
I am divorced. When I got engaged I and my fiancée both decided premarital counseling was a good idea. We both were interested in making it work and starting off strong. The counselor advised us to read this book. Not only has following this book helped both of us be closer, it has also revealed the mists we have both made in past relationships. It is amazing how much that this book reveals. I wish it were required reading.
This book was recommended by my counselors and I'm glad I read it. I wouldn't say it's the sole book to read on marriage but I definitely learned some stuff! There were absolutely times where I had to stop what I was doing and take a bunch of notes.
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The true value of this book is in the insightful activities it provides for spouses and partners to do together. Unfortunately, in the audiobook format, that means someone reading dozens of items at you to take back to your partner. Make sure you write them down or you'll find yourself revisiting several parts, several times.
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