Straightforward in its approach, yet profound in its effect, the principles outlined in this book teach partners new and startling strategies for making marriage work. Gottman has scientifically analyzed the habits of married couples and established a method of correcting the behavior that puts thousands of marriages on the rocks. He helps couples to focus on one another and pay attention to the small day-to-day moments that, strung together, make up the heart and soul of any relationship. Gottman has culled seven principles essential to the success of any marriage:
Packed with questionnaires and exercises whose effectiveness has been proven in Dr. Gottman's workshops, this is the definitive guide for any couple who wants their relationship to realize its highest potential.
©1999 John Gottam, Ph.D. and Nan Silver (P)2011 Tantor
"Gottman comes to this endeavor with the best of qualifications: he's got the spirit of a scientist and the soul of a romantic." (Newsweek)
This book was written with many tables, surveys, forms etc. They are all read aloud and in a non-logical order so they make no sense at all!
I bought this then had to buy the kindle version just so I could read the tables and use the forms. Ridiculous waste of money.
Content was good but I could have received that through the kindle version in a cheaper, more productive and less infuriating form.
It doesn't really work as an audio. Lots of exercises that he works through quickly and you need a hard copy to be able to do them. There's not much of his theory, more of his tools. If you are wanting tools its good if you are wanting theory, not so good...
I think the book is good with lots of practical advice. However one thing that I found annoying was the narration of lists. For example there are numerous self-assessment exercises in the book where you are supposed to choose from different options. For a written book it is easy to scan down and choose the correct option and move on. For an audio book narration of lists of options can put the listener to sleep! Apart from that one annoyance the book has solid information.
My husband and I have a 30 yr strong marriage but it's had it's share of troubles. We went to counseling for a year and it was helpful, but I wish I'd had this book many years sooner. This book has been more insightful and helpful than counseling was. I can't wait to see how the next 30 years of marriage turns out.
The reader does a great job, I felt like I was in a conversation rather than a book. He is easy to listen to and punctuates very well.
I absolutely loved this book and all the concepts the author presented. I first heard about this professor in the book "Brain Rules," where Dr. Gottman was referenced for his extensive marital research and ability to predict divorce with astounding accuracy. I enjoyed this book very much. I have one comment to add about the audiobook version-- the book is more like a workbook, and the lists in the book can get boring hearing them read to you.
Yes, because I always prefer audiobooks. No need to read full questionaries and exercise lists though. For those you should buy the e-book version.
The four horsemen which can be easily identified to quickly predict if your marriage will fail.
The book is totally ignoring the fact that in some cases the marriage problem relies on psychiatric problems of one or both of the partners and how to work this out. I am convinced that this has been the main reason why I had to drop out of 3 marriages (I must have a crush on depressed girls, but they get uncontrolled).
Examples of the four horsemen discussions, and how healthy couples react positively to the same problems.
As a compliment for this book, you may need to learn more about the effect of nutrition in you mental health. For me, Nutrient Power was the book that opened my mind.
There wasn't much narrative or discussion here - it was basically a guy reading a workbook aloud, and the content of the workbook was not modified in any way to make it more appropriate to the audio format. Some of the ideas were interesting but they were not really elaborated on.
The content was great, but you need the book for the checklists, About half is checklists.
interesting info with great ideas
no, he shouldn't read the lists the way he does.
Need to include a download of the lists. Also when reading the list, do it in such a way that it isn't annoying to listen. It is frustrating to listen to when each item of the list is followed with "........ acceptable, need to work on..., horrible." etc. Instead of reading the lists in a more creative way
Great book. A wonderful reference in whatever stage of a relationship you are in.
This is a good book. I have read it before and have found it very useful, whether you are in a difficult period of your marraige or perfectly happy and want to keep it that way. Gottman describes the concepts he has developed over his years of observation and research, and also gives you practicle tools to both assess the state of your relationship in any one area and also to strengthen it.
My issue was with the narrator. He was so deadpan and monotone. I realise it is a piece of non-fiction but still? I don't want to spend several hours of my time listening to an uninteresting voice. It is a pity because I have heard John Gottman speak and he is very charismatic. I would have much prefered he read his own book.
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