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The Nurture Assumption Audiobook

The Nurture Assumption

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What makes children turn out the way they do? Why is it that good parents don't always turn out good kids? Judith Rich Harris questions the assumption that nurture is the crucial factor. Using examples from folklore, literature, and scientific research, Harris puts forth the electrifying theory that children aren't socialized by their parents, they're socialized by other children. It is what happens outside the home, while kids are in the company of their peers, that matters most.

The Nurture Assumption challenges everything we've been taught about rearing children and everything we believe about the emotional hangups of adults. It offers wise counsel on what parents can and cannot do, and relief from guilt for those who have tried their hardest but have somehow failed to produce a happy, confident, well-adjusted child.

©1998 Judith Rich Harris; (P)1998 Audio Renaissance

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    Luc Phoenix, AZ, USA 10-18-03
    Luc Phoenix, AZ, USA 10-18-03
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    "Excellent book... on print."

    'The nurture assumption' is a fantastic book on which many reviews have been written elsewhere on the web. I own the book both in its paperback and its audible version. I was disappointed by the audio quality (very compressed 12.5 MB for 3h30 of audio) and by the fact that large sections of the book are not covered in the audio version.

    11 of 12 people found this review helpful
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    Sabrina Mililani, HI, United States 04-04-10
    Sabrina Mililani, HI, United States 04-04-10
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    "Egregiously oversimplified and horribly narrated"

    I wanted to listen to this book because it was referred to in Freakonomics (Levitt and Dubner 2005). I find the idea that peer groups have a very strong influence on enculturation throughout childhood interesting and I wanted to understand the idea in greater detail. But I was very disappointed. Harris essentially argues that parents and biology don't matter AT ALL and who we turn out to be is based ENTIRELY on peer group influence. This CAN'T be what she means to say. Perhaps the fact that this audio version is abridged is an extenuating factor. I actually buy her argument that researchers have been ignoring the important influence of peer groups and they matter more than we think, but to completely discount the affects of biology and family is silly. She uses an example of a U.S. child whose parents are Russian immigrants and points out that the child grows up to speak perfect English because that's the language of his peers. But she completely ignores the obvious observation that - in fact - the child ALSO speaks Russian because of his parents.

    Furthermore, I am an anthropologist, and I was frankly stunned by her ridiculously oversimplified caricature of your average child in your average traditional society. She goes so far as to say these kids (they're all the same) don't fight much because they have no toys to fight over. Her lack of understanding of basic anthropology in the context of her research is unforgivable to me.

    The death knell of this audiobook for me was the narrator. She reminds me of a syrupy singer in a cheap production of children's music.

    In summary - who we turn out to be is a complicated mix of factors, not this ridiculously oversimplified monocausal scenario. Read the subheading on the book "parents matter less than you think and peers matter more" - that's probably right, but don't torture yourself listening to this book because it's not going to add any insight beyond this subheading.

    9 of 11 people found this review helpful
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    efren franco Tlalnepantla, Estado de mexico Mexico 03-02-14
    efren franco Tlalnepantla, Estado de mexico Mexico 03-02-14
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    "a book to think, to question ourselves as parents"
    What made the experience of listening to The Nurture Assumption the most enjoyable?

    a very interesting book, voice and speed of narration very nice and the topic of my keen interest.


    What did you like best about this story?

    the way is presented, an invitation to rethink from a different perspective our role as fathers.


    Have you listened to any of Paula Parker’s other performances before? How does this one compare?

    no I think it is my first.


    Was this a book you wanted to listen to all in one sitting?

    yes


    1 of 1 people found this review helpful
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    Santhosh Guru Chennai, Tamilnadu India 02-10-16
    Santhosh Guru Chennai, Tamilnadu India 02-10-16 Member Since 2016
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    "Unabridged version?"

    This audio book is an abridged version of the book. Bought mistakenly thinking that this is an unabridged version

    1 of 2 people found this review helpful
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    manaf 01-16-15
    manaf 01-16-15 Member Since 2016

    I am a plastic surgeon by profession A father by heart A trader by choice A teacher by passion A child by curiosity

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    "Hmmm only genes mater ????"
    Would you try another book from Judith Rich Harris and/or Paula Parker?

    tough the author presents a strong argument there are other aspects of why we turn out the way we are besides genes


    How would you have changed the story to make it more enjoyable?

    it is not a story it is science


    Did Paula Parker do a good job differentiating all the characters? How?

    yes


    If this book were a movie would you go see it?

    not applicable


    0 of 2 people found this review helpful

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