After the shock of a relationship change it can be tough to get out of bed in the morning, much less be at your best. But it doesn't have to be that way. With a realistic and proven game plan to help you get where you want to be, The New Single is the essential roadmap to:
Tamsen Fadal is empathetic and incisive about relationships and breakups: she learned many of the lessons in The New Single the hard way. Now, with candor and humor, she's sharing her secrets, stories, and sometimes painful lessons.
©2015 Tamsen Fadal (P)2015 Tantor
"Newly single straight women will find an ample supply of practical ideas here for making a gradual and successful transition to flying solo again." (Publishers Weekly)
I'm going through a divorce so I've listened to several self-help books on divorce or break-ups. My favorite was "Falling Apart in One Piece" by Stacy Morrison because it was her story rather than straight-up self-help and I enjoyed her as the narrator as well. This audio book is probably next on the list because it has a lot of helpful advice and in general, I liked Tamsen.
Some factors took away from my giving it a 5-star review all around. The first and most major point is that I felt like Jerry Seinfeld complaining about a fast talker. Tamsen talks fast and it really bothered me at first. I got more used to it as the book went on. At one point, Tamsen talks about a man who she dated who said that it bothered him when she spoke so fast. She admitted to speaking quickly, and my first thoughts were (a) I can totally identify with this man's opinion and (b) if you know you talk fast, perhaps it would be wise to consider talking slower if you narrate your own book. It's not like the narration has to be sloooooooow, but somewhat slower would have improved things greatly.
The second point, which is far more minor is that I felt like some of the advice was geared to a much different lifestyle. Tamsen was living in NYC and she's a TV personality. Many of the points seemed geared to this metropolitan, much more trendy lifestyle that is not my life. When these points came up, I did relate some of the advice to my suburban lifestyle, but somehow, the differences between her life and mine made me disconnect a little bit.
On the plus side, I did like Tamsen and despite what I said above, I think she does a good job with her book and her performance. I like these advice books when they come from the person who went through the experience rather than being something more dry or written by a psychologist. I'd recommend listening to the audiiobook. I'm glad that I did, even if I wasn't 'lovin' every minute of it' with the fast talking.
The book helped me understand my situation as a new single, and gave good advise.
It was helpful. Not terribly interesting or boring either.
She sounds like a news lady. Uggghhhh! Please get a narrator next time.
The idea that you have to renew your bedroom and house after a breakup.
I'd recommend it overall
This is brilliant and wise information that every woman needs to hear following a major breakup! Far more helpful that advice from friends and family that are emotionally attached to you and is the reality check that you need to hear to move on and make wise decisions in the process.
I was so disappointed in this book. I would say about the last 30 minutes was actually decent advice. The rest was just patronizing self help fluff. An entire section on what hair products to use. I feel like this would be a short piece for her TV program or an article in a women's magazine. Definitely not this long and self-centered. It is also very centric to New York. I live in rural Idaho and could not relate to almost all of her suggestions. Why all the names of New York restaurants and grocery stores and the East Village? If this was really meant for every woman, it would have been written in a broader way. I was also shocked at the double standards she seems to assume we should just expect between men and women. Women should never sleep with somebody for six months after a break up, but we should assume that after four dates, a man is sleeping with other women and can still be on the market. It is also so dated to the last few years that I can't imagine this being relevant in another few. Very disappointing. Not evolved, not serious advice.
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