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The Nerd's Guide to Being Confident | [Mark Manson]

The Nerd's Guide to Being Confident

Everyone knows confidence when they see it; but seemingly no one can actually describe what goes into it or how to get it. The Nerd's Guide to Being Confident is an unconventional way of looking at one of the most basic and obvious human traits and what one can do to gain a little more of it without feeling like a phony. Laughter included.
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Everyone knows confidence when they see it; but seemingly no one can actually describe what goes into it or how to get it. The Nerd's Guide to Being Confident is an unconventional way of looking at one of the most basic and obvious human traits and what one can do to gain a little more of it without feeling like a phony. Laughter included.

©2013 Mark Manson (P)2013 Audible Inc.

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    Ken HYDE PARK, MA, United States 03-03-14
    Ken HYDE PARK, MA, United States 03-03-14 Member Since 2013
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    "Don't buy this book OR his ideas"
    What could have made this a 4 or 5-star listening experience for you?

    Scarcely could a person miss the purpose of life as much as this man. He would have been served to read more and write less.


    What could Mark Manson have done to make this a more enjoyable book for you?

    He has a way about him that makes you dislike who he is. For being confident, I think it more he is just inept.


    Who would you have cast as narrator instead of Fleet Cooper?

    Good narrator


    What reaction did this book spark in you? Anger, sadness, disappointment?

    Sadness to think that people might take some of his advice


    Any additional comments?

    I think Mark could use a friend. Someone who would tell him the truth. Who would be honest with him.

    5 of 5 people found this review helpful
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    Anthony A. Saint Petersburg, FL 01-03-14
    Anthony A. Saint Petersburg, FL 01-03-14 Member Since 2012

    Software developer (Java, Ruby on Rails, Android) and all-around computer nerd, as well as an avid reader and listener of intercommunication- and psychology-related books. Not much for fiction, but I love cool non-fiction!

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    "A More-Than-Pleasant Surprise"

    Anything with "The Nerd's Guide to" in the title always stokes my curiosity because I'm a major one. There were a couple of doubts that voiced themselves when I was considering buying this title, including the brevity of the recording and the fact that anything with "Confident" in the title is probably no more than a hyped-up pep talk, but alas, I decided to buy it anyway because, hey, it's only five bucks!

    I was blown away, in a good way, by the ingenuity, practicality, simplicity, and impact that this author's writing had on me. I've just finished the book, so time will tell as to whether its writings make a long-term impact on my life, but if the tangible results are as impressive as the subjective conceptual amazement that I experienced while listening to this book, then this will prove to be the most life-changing books per-minute of any to which I've ever listened.

    The author has an extremely entertaining and witty way of putting things that guys (at least I) deal with every day and offers--without bull--real ways to deal with it and change it (if change is actually what's called for). I'm a huge fan of the sarcasm-laden way in which he explains the foolproof way to make your life suck as much as possible, opening your eyes with every bullet point. The outro to the book is worth listening to once a day, every day, where he tells the sad story of most guys' normal mode of thinking and how, no matter what they have *going* for them, they always find a way (and when I say "they," I mean "I" also) to envy the next guy rather than have true appreciation for what they've already got.

    Mark has sucker-punched me in the brain in the funniest way possible with this book, and I would (and will) highly recommend this book, and find and sign up for the author's blogs.

    11 of 12 people found this review helpful
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    Mama Kim LUTZ, FL, United States 02-20-14
    Mama Kim LUTZ, FL, United States 02-20-14 Member Since 2013
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    "Profanity and Shock-Value Content, But Instructive"
    What could have made this a 4 or 5-star listening experience for you?

    I think the narration suited the content very well. However, I absolutely didn't expect the f-bombs and other profanity in a self-help book. An autobiography, comedy, or fiction... perhaps, but not with this. I identify as a nerd, but I'm less likely to identify with this book than might a 20-something male with socialization issues.

    In short, you can absolutely get nuggets of value from this book, but you have to shift through a bit of angst-y window dressing to get there.


    What could Mark Manson have done to make this a more enjoyable book for you?

    I didn't feel like Manson understood his topic as it applies to women, nor did he make much effort to reach out to them.


    What reaction did this book spark in you? Anger, sadness, disappointment?

    Irritation, but also genuine admiration for a few very good observations that I'd love to deliver to my own boys... through the Mom filter.


    Any additional comments?

    Some great advice, but not what I expected based on the title alone. I am recommending this book to friends, but with the caveat that they understand what they're getting.

    4 of 4 people found this review helpful
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    Harvey Trabuco Canyon, CA, United States 02-21-14
    Harvey Trabuco Canyon, CA, United States 02-21-14 Member Since 2003
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    "do not wast your time"

    As other reviewers have noted, this book is geared to the 18-30 male. He has a few interesting insights. Given the shortness of the books, those insights are still too few and far between. Much of it is simply ramblings of a blogger with all the negative connotations intended. The author is way too concerned about sex and does expound crudely for no apparent reason. Mr Manson is clearly confident and happy with his sexual prowess, but I do not think he will really help anyone gain confidence and is not even funny.

    6 of 7 people found this review helpful
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    Cynthia Monrovia, California, United States 02-17-14
    Cynthia Monrovia, California, United States 02-17-14 Member Since 2012

    Audible listener who's grateful for a long commute!

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    "For under 30 straight men. Maybe."

    I downloaded Mark Hanson's "The Nerd's Guide to Being Confident" (2013) right before heading off for a day trip to Mt. Baldy. By the time I realized I was so totally NOT the target audience for this book, I had no signal and couldn't download a different book for the drive - so I listened anyway.

    I'm not a recent male college grad with self esteem issues on my second or third real job, trying to get laid by a woman in 3 dates or less, as cheaply as possible. I am a straight woman, and I've dated more than one man who has (intuitively) followed Hanson's advice. Dated them once, and definitely no sex. Maybe a polite peck on the cheek.

    Not that some of Hanson's advice isn't really good, because it is. Have varied interests. Don't compromise ethical or moral beliefs to date a woman. Don't use time worrying about why someone doesn't want to spend time with you or trying to get them interested - find someone who doesn't waste your time. Adjust your language so you don't mistake your (often temporary) feelings for what you are. Good hygiene is a necessity.

    What doesn't work that Hanson advises is being a c**** a** that only talks about himself and his interests. Unless you happen to do something really, really, interesting (maybe you've discovered a brand new energy source that will also solve the drought? You work for JPL/CalTech and just discovered life on another planet?), there has to be give and take. Quite frankly, any girl that doesn't want to share at least a few things about herself is just shining you on to get the date over with, doesn't want you to know anything about her, and will never return your calls; or she has serious self esteem issues of her own. And if some girl does go to bed with you, worry about what she wants, not just what you are going to get out of it. Have some pride in what you do.

    According to Hanson, "Some people think I'm an idiot" (from his website). I don't think he's a COMPLETE idiot, just a partial one.

    26 of 33 people found this review helpful
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    Kathy Davis, CA, United States 04-14-14
    Kathy Davis, CA, United States 04-14-14 Member Since 2008

    Newly retired, I am a reading fiend! I like many types of books, both fiction and non-fiction, with the exception of romance and fantasy

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    "Not totally devoid of value"

    Written for young men, I think the author provides a couple of good insights into gaining self-confidence. However, it is mostly fluff and will not help anyone gain insight into their own problematic behaviors or what they themselves may be lacking.

    Read this very short lecture simply for amusement and not as a self-help book!

    2 of 2 people found this review helpful
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    Jeremy A Hunt 04-11-14 Member Since 2013

    Words. Words. Words.

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    "Not as bad as these people make it seem"
    Would you consider the audio edition of The Nerd's Guide to Being Confident to be better than the print version?

    I suppose, I listened to and from work one day and it entertained me during.


    What was your reaction to the ending? (No spoilers please!)

    Oh, its over, next book.


    What does Fleet Cooper bring to the story that you wouldn’t experience if you just read the book?

    His narration suits the content very well


    What insight do you think you’ll apply from The Nerd's Guide to Being Confident?

    I think the best takeaway from this book would be the "Diversify yourself" chapter. It essentially tells you to not sink your whole self worth into one thing (be it work, a hobby or whatever) because if that one thing fails what do you have to fall back on?


    Any additional comments?

    I wasn't going to write a review of this book but I felt that it deserved some level headed opinions to combat the petulant rage in the reviews I had seen.

    OK, so this book is an amalgamation of various blog posts from this author's page let's get that out of the way first. This entire book is already available for free elsewhere, That being said, thanks AUDIBLE for giving me this book for free and making me aware of the author whom I had never heard of.

    The author does curse in this book usually for comedic effect, whether or not it works 100% of the time is based purely on your sense of humor. If you don't like cursing this book is not for you.

    The author is a blogger and after taking a look at his site is a commentator on human behavior and society in general. Some stuff he says is good some is bad but it is an opinion and he backs up his statements by explaining the logic for his conclusions. Agree with him or don't but more often than not his statements are valid and it seems like he is genuinely trying to help people with his view points. Some of the reviews that people have put down for this I have to wonder if they were listening to Tucker Max and got confused as to the book they were reviewing. It's not that serious guys!

    This book is written by a male and therefore most of the advice is geared for men and yes the 18-30 is probably this guys target audience but there are some good, universal nuggets of truth there that I am planning on letting some of my female friends listen to because it is good advice. And if you are a lady it's never a bad thing to listen to how the other side thinks. Included in the free books audible gave away were The Girl with Glasses and PhiLOLZophy, the former another blog fueled book geared almost exclusively toward women but I still listened to because her anecdotes were entertaining and AGAIN it is never bad to hear how other people think, the latter also written by women was geared for both sexes but more often than not edged toward more feminine values, again not a bad thing.

    Lastly, this book is a self help-y book. Not all of the stuff in it is going to apply exclusively for you. You shouldn't take everything in it as exactly how you must live. Listen, consider what he says, leave what you don't like behind, be a better person. It is way easier to complain about things than to talk about what is good.

    2 of 2 people found this review helpful
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    Joni DICKINSON, ND, United States 02-25-14
    Joni DICKINSON, ND, United States 02-25-14 Member Since 2013
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    "I didn't expect the adult language"
    What could have made this a 4 or 5-star listening experience for you?

    Confidence here is defined from an adult dating perspective. The language was offensive.


    Has The Nerd's Guide to Being Confident turned you off from other books in this genre?

    Self help books shouldn't need to include warnings for offensive content.


    If you could play editor, what scene or scenes would you have cut from The Nerd's Guide to Being Confident?

    All the f-bombs and sexual inuendo.


    4 of 5 people found this review helpful
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    Teresa NAMPA, ID, United States 04-01-14
    Teresa NAMPA, ID, United States 04-01-14 Member Since 2011

    Hello, my name is Teresa and I'm an addict.

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    "Be yourself."

    I didn't think this was as bad as all the reviewers were going on about. Yes, the focus was more for adult males, but I gleaned some useful information from it. But hey it was free so I'm not complaining. I usually give free audio's about 10 minutes and if they don't jive with me I delete and move on and I finished this one. Thanks audible for the freebie.

    1 of 1 people found this review helpful
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    Bubbacalvin 03-25-14
    Bubbacalvin 03-25-14
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    "Too much garbage to sift through"
    This book wasn’t for you, but who do you think might enjoy it more?

    Socially inept male from late teens to early twenties.


    Would you ever listen to anything by Mark Manson again?

    Nope.


    Did the narration match the pace of the story?

    Sure.


    If you could play editor, what scene or scenes would you have cut from The Nerd's Guide to Being Confident?

    The profanity and writing about people, especially women, like they were objects for your personal fulfillment.


    Any additional comments?

    His idea of confidence comes off as a narcissistic self-absorption with little to no regard for others. It’s as though considering the opinions of others is indicative of lack of confidence in your own, therefore you need not care what others think unless it benefits you in some way. And if others don’t like you for this, then that's their problem. There’re plenty of other fish in the sea (this applies to friends as much as it applies to women).

    The book isn’t completely valueless. There are a few nuggets here and there, but just way too much trash to sift through in order to get them. Also, the narrator was pretty good.

    1 of 1 people found this review helpful
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