Feldman examines marital infidelity, little white lies, career-driven resumé lies, and how we teach children to lie. Along the way, he reveals-despite our beliefs to the contrary- how it is nearly impossible to spot a liar (studies have shown no relationship between nervousness, lack of eye contact, or a trembling voice, and acts of deception). He also provides startling evidence of just how integral lying is to our culture; indeed, his research shows that two people, meeting for the first time, will lie to each other an average of three times in the first ten minutes of a conversation.
Feldman uses this discussion of deception to explore ways we can cope with infidelity, betrayal, and mistrust, in our friends and family. He also describes the lies we tell ourselves: Sometimes, the liar in your life is the person you see in the mirror. With incisive clarity and wry wit, Feldman has written a truthful book for anyone who whose life has been touched by deception.
©2009 Robert Feldman; (P)2009 Hachette
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This was actually a very good look at the psychology of lying in general, offering a fresh perspective on deceit, but it is not a guide book, or how-to manual on applying that perspective to an individual's life. The most profound advice given is that if you want a truthful life, start by being truthful.
As an intellectual work, it was thought provoking, and I don't know any better complement to give such a piece.
As a self-help piece, well, there were some fun stories in it.
A very good book that will help you understand the people in your life, both personal and professional. My issue is, it would be much more believable if the authors extreme dislike for President Bush wasn't used over and over again as an example. It belittled the books points, which are very good ones.
The book is interesting and well narrated. I learned a few new things about how and why people lie. I was hoping for more insight beyond what is fairly evident through common sense.
Yes, this is a very interesting book and the author does a good job of keeping conjecture out of his statements, which is important because you will quickly realize that people often cannot be taken at their word .
The common "lies are bad" motto is an immature position to take; lies are often not malicious and are usually employed to benefit the emotions of the liar more than attack the person being lied too.
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