In The Gifts of Imperfection, Brené Brown, a leading expert on shame, authenticity, and belonging, shares 10 guideposts on the power of Wholehearted Living - a way of engaging with the world from a place of worthiness. Each day we face a barrage of images and messages from society and the media telling us who, what, and how we should be. We are led to believe that if we could only look perfect and lead perfect lives, we'd no longer feel inadequate. So most of us perform, please, and perfect, all the while thinking, "What if I can't keep all of these balls in the air? Why isn't everyone else working harder and living up to my expectations? What will people think if I fail or give up? When can I stop proving myself?"
In The Gifts of Imperfection, Brené Brown, Ph.D., a leading expert on shame, authenticity and belonging, shares what she's learned from a decade of research on the power of Wholehearted Living - a way of engaging with the world from a place of worthiness.
In her 10 guideposts, Brown engages our minds, hearts, and spirits as she explores how we can cultivate the courage, compassion, and connection to wake up in the morning and think, "No matter what gets done and how much is left undone, I am enough," and to go to bed at night thinking, "Yes, I am sometimes afraid, but I am also brave. And, yes, I am imperfect and vulnerable, but that doesn't change the truth that I am worthy of love and belonging."
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"Courage, compassion, and connection: Through Brené's research, observations, and guidance, these three little words can open the door to amazing change in your life." (Ali Edwards, author of Life Artist)
"Bren Brown courageously tackles the dark emotions that get in the way of leading a fuller life; read this book and let some of that courage rub off on you." (Daniel H. Pink, New York Times best-selling author of A Whole New Mind)
"This important book is about the lifelong journey from 'What will people think?' to 'I am enough.' Brown's unique ability to blend original research with honest storytelling makes reading The Gifts of Imperfection like having a long, uplifting conversation with a very wise friend who offers compassion, wisdom, and great advice.' (Harriet Lerner, New York Times best-selling author of The Dance of Anger and The Dance of Connection)
It's like being at a dinner / party, with this self-absorbed, rambling girl, who just goes on and on and on and on and on and on and on and on...
But – and this is in no way meant as a snarky remark: the book might be best suited for women.
Not one from Brene Brown. Who by the way seems to have written like... a million books? I don't believe a person can write so many books, without lots of it being filler content.
The less books someone has written, can almost be seen as a positive sign that it'll be a positive, interesting listen/read. Paradoxically.
As another reviewer noted: Use a de-easing filter/effect on the voice track. The sibilance didn't help me get through this audiobook. Painful almoSSSt.
There are no useful real-world coping mechanisms in this book. The book isn't much about dealing with imperfections in the world. Rather its a meandering stroll through an academic's insecurities about being a scholar, public speaker, writer, and parent.
After DIG deep hours and hours of fluff, some of which tangentially had to do with DIG deep.
Frame the content of the book in an outline rather than what appeared to be stream of conscious writing
I am a retired social worker/psychotherapist/group therapist. I am also a qualified senior flight instructor. I served as an air traffic control officer in the Australian Air Force during the Vietnam War. I am a keen sea-kayaker. I recently completed a Master's degree and am working towards a PhD.
This book is a must for anyone serious about becoming a more authentic human being. The content is not merely the author's opinion, it based on scientifically riqorous research conducted by the author. It is not only enlightening but also entertaining. The author courageously illustrates her points with examples from her own life. This is a book to be listened to over and over again.
Why should I care about a disappointing rant from an all too comfortable life that has nothing to do with mine?
A De-essing filter on the narrators mic. Oh - and it being a decent book.
Not necessarily. Just books from Brene Brown.
A De-essing filter on the narrators mic.
A few here-and-there. But not worth working through all of the junk to get there.
Although there are a few minor tid-bits of useful information tucked here-and-there in this book - all of it is overshadowed by mostly self indulgent rambling.
If you consider yourself a free-thinker, athiest, agnostic, capitalist, etc.. Then you will likely have the same gagging reflex as I did in reading this book. If you accept jesus christ as your saviour and want to stroke an un-accomplished ego... then this book will do it.
It wasn't completely worthless and if Brene could separate her religion from her science, she might be on to something worthwhile. I have also learned not to trust book recommendations from James Altucher. It's been a while since I have read a horrible book. I guess it has to happen every once-and-a-while.
Book nerd for life!
This book wasn't pretentious at all. It was so...me!
We're all perfect just how we are
Brene opened up herself to us and readers immediately see ourselves in her. I now see how I am and how I thought I was supposed to be, know how to change certain things, and can go on living being happy with who I am.
If you'd like to listen to one person's tale of overcoming their large array of minor addictions, going into therapy, having a breakdown, and learning to let go of being who she thinks she is supposed to be, you may very well get a lot out of this book.
However, this book is positioned as the work of "a leading expert on shame, authenticity, and belonging" who "shares what she's learned from a decade of research". Nearly all of the research she shares is her own personal story. She makes occasional references to her academic research with what other experience, giving some short summaries. She doesn't give details about anybody else's experience. It's all about Brene Brown.
If you are a lot like the author, whom I'd describe as a woman who is more wrapped up in her own feeling states than most people are, this book may be just wonderful for you. If you're not, if you're seeking actual research findings, if you're looking for insights that are more broadly applicable, pass this book by.
I got this book after listening to Brene Brown's wonderful TED talk. There is nothing more in this book than in the talk, except that the talk was 20 minutes long or so and this book is over 4 hours.
That being said, this book does serve the purpose of a good pick-you-up for someone feeling down. Its message is feel good about yourself, no one is perfect, you are good enough. There's nothing really wrong or arguable with that.
There are two things that did bother me. At some point she says to be happy all people MUST do creative art work. I don't agree and don't know why she says that. Also she talks a lot about how terribly she reacts to criticism, how devastated she was when some random person didn't like a photo she'd taken, which I felt was kind of like trying to manipulate me into not writing a bad review, it didn't work!
The reading was very good.
I'm Trying to see the world with my ears.
I love how vulnerable she made herself when giving examples of her definitions. Shame is difficult to talk about, imperfection is difficult to talk about, being wrong is difficult to talk about; but, Brene talks about all of those things in a way that guides the reader to not only understand big concepts but also to see how they work in their own lives.
She's a master storyteller and teacher.
This book is amazing, except it is the exact same content as the power of vulnerability, which is narrated by Berne Brown herself. The work just seems much deeper and the stories a lot richer when you hear it from the author directly. When I say they're the same I really mean it. Same stories, same content, same organization.
"Learn how to accept yourself"
I found this book really easy to listen to. I like the narrator's style. The book was a series of strories with a life application and a good dose of humour and down-to-earthness. I found it made a lot of sense. It is not a list of "how to"s which I found a refreshing change. I am planning to listen to it again to make sure I squeeze every last drop of value out of it...
"Brilliant and very helpful."
Thought-provoking. Helpful. Insightful.
Realising I did some of the things mentioned and I could easily change this.
It was fine, she sounded like she was actually talking to you rather than reading but was a little robotic sounding when reading quotes.
Be yourself: Life is too short to worry about what others think.
Definitely worth listening too, give it a chance it may just change your life.
"Insightful and thought provoking"
I finished this book today and really REALLY loved it. For anyone sceptical about "self help" books this offers a refreshing change, and as a qualitative researcher Brene Brown has a scientific approach, but the book isn't dry or dull as a result. She is humorous, empathetic and I am looking forward to reading more by the same author. I thought the only pity was that she didn't narrate the book herself, as she is an excellent public speaker, and the book was personal - though saying that the narrator did a fantastic job!
"fantastic, wise and witty"
I love this book - if you've seen Brene Brown's TED talk you'll already know her style - impassioned, funny and inpeciably researched. This book's practical in it's focus - lots of tools and ideas to help improve your ability to live a more 'whole hearted' life. The only disappointment is that Brene Brown doesn't narrate it.
More insight, style and relevance
I bought this book due to the large number of positive reviews but my honest opinion is that they can't be genuine. If you're after a well researched book written in a compelling style don't buy this. If you're happy to listen to a nice Amercian woman talking about her breakdown and recovery in an almost 'dear diary' style then you may well enjoy it.
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