In The Gifts of Imperfection, Brené Brown, a leading expert on shame, authenticity, and belonging, shares 10 guideposts on the power of Wholehearted Living - a way of engaging with the world from a place of worthiness. Each day we face a barrage of images and messages from society and the media telling us who, what, and how we should be. We are led to believe that if we could only look perfect and lead perfect lives, we'd no longer feel inadequate. So most of us perform, please, and perfect, all the while thinking, "What if I can't keep all of these balls in the air? Why isn't everyone else working harder and living up to my expectations? What will people think if I fail or give up? When can I stop proving myself?"
In The Gifts of Imperfection, Brené Brown, Ph.D., a leading expert on shame, authenticity and belonging, shares what she's learned from a decade of research on the power of Wholehearted Living - a way of engaging with the world from a place of worthiness.
In her 10 guideposts, Brown engages our minds, hearts, and spirits as she explores how we can cultivate the courage, compassion, and connection to wake up in the morning and think, "No matter what gets done and how much is left undone, I am enough," and to go to bed at night thinking, "Yes, I am sometimes afraid, but I am also brave. And, yes, I am imperfect and vulnerable, but that doesn't change the truth that I am worthy of love and belonging."
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"Courage, compassion, and connection: Through Brené's research, observations, and guidance, these three little words can open the door to amazing change in your life." (Ali Edwards, author of Life Artist)
"Bren Brown courageously tackles the dark emotions that get in the way of leading a fuller life; read this book and let some of that courage rub off on you." (Daniel H. Pink, New York Times best-selling author of A Whole New Mind)
"This important book is about the lifelong journey from 'What will people think?' to 'I am enough.' Brown's unique ability to blend original research with honest storytelling makes reading The Gifts of Imperfection like having a long, uplifting conversation with a very wise friend who offers compassion, wisdom, and great advice.' (Harriet Lerner, New York Times best-selling author of The Dance of Anger and The Dance of Connection)
Uses the basis of a 12 step program and tries to reinvent it. She uses gratitude, spiritual awakening, etc ( common terms in 12 step programs) rearranges them and makes a "new" 10 step program that excuses addictive behaviors. Sorry honey but I tried your way and I got drunk again. Wish I was still able to return this title and can't.
This book is amazing, except it is the exact same content as the power of vulnerability, which is narrated by Berne Brown herself. The work just seems much deeper and the stories a lot richer when you hear it from the author directly. When I say they're the same I really mean it. Same stories, same content, same organization.
I was really excited about getting this book as I LOVE Oprah. Perhaps it's because I've read so many self-help books over the years but I didn't get a single thing out of the book. I found her observations to be pretty obvious and redundant. I felt like quitting the book through most of it but hung in there hoping there was going to be some revelation of new insight. I can't think of a single profound "a ha!" moment that I had.
Sorry.... but I thought it was lots of fluff and not much substance.
Book nerd for life!
This book wasn't pretentious at all. It was so...me!
We're all perfect just how we are
Brene opened up herself to us and readers immediately see ourselves in her. I now see how I am and how I thought I was supposed to be, know how to change certain things, and can go on living being happy with who I am.
There are no useful real-world coping mechanisms in this book. The book isn't much about dealing with imperfections in the world. Rather its a meandering stroll through an academic's insecurities about being a scholar, public speaker, writer, and parent.
After DIG deep hours and hours of fluff, some of which tangentially had to do with DIG deep.
Frame the content of the book in an outline rather than what appeared to be stream of conscious writing
I am a retired social worker/psychotherapist/group therapist. I am also a qualified senior flight instructor. I served as an air traffic control officer in the Australian Air Force during the Vietnam War. I am a keen sea-kayaker. I recently completed a Master's degree and am working towards a PhD.
This book is a must for anyone serious about becoming a more authentic human being. The content is not merely the author's opinion, it based on scientifically riqorous research conducted by the author. It is not only enlightening but also entertaining. The author courageously illustrates her points with examples from her own life. This is a book to be listened to over and over again.
I liked this much more than I thought I would. I'm going to start Brene's online class with Art Journaling for this book. Although her book is based on years of research, I absorbed the concepts so well through the stories she tells. I usually do not do audiobooks, but I have a long commute to work so it really works for me. The narrator was very good and easy to listen to. I'm on to Daring Greatly next.
I'm Trying to see the world with my ears.
I love how vulnerable she made herself when giving examples of her definitions. Shame is difficult to talk about, imperfection is difficult to talk about, being wrong is difficult to talk about; but, Brene talks about all of those things in a way that guides the reader to not only understand big concepts but also to see how they work in their own lives.
She's a master storyteller and teacher.
The narration was fine. The content was the problem.
I was hoping for more substance here but realized Ms. Brown is a researcher and not a psychologist. She tells stories from her life, which makes her a likeable person but I found this book dull, repetitive and it seemed to rehash themes from her other books. It just wasn't my cup of tea. I was looking for more psychology and less fluff.
Younger people especially women
Personally, I was not taken with her way of reading.
I bought the book together with Brown's book on shame because I suffer from what I consider to be feelings of shame, but I did not find the insights I hoped for. The analysis provided, while surely useful to someone coming to grips with this kind of issues for the first time, seems too superficial; at least it does not get to the heart of what I am struggling with. As a result, the advice, which is good as far as it goes, is not of much use to me because I have gained no deeper understanding of what troubles me. I should perhaps specify that I have had more than a decade of psychotherapy and a lifelong interest in psychology and psychoanalysis — this is not to tout my "qualifications" (obviously I have nothing to boast about since all my efforts have not solved the problems that motivated me to buy this book) but to put my critical attitude into perspective, because I do not wish keep prospective readers with a different background from buying the book.
More insight, style and relevance
I bought this book due to the large number of positive reviews but my honest opinion is that they can't be genuine. If you're after a well researched book written in a compelling style don't buy this. If you're happy to listen to a nice Amercian woman talking about her breakdown and recovery in an almost 'dear diary' style then you may well enjoy it.
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