Who is your teenager listening to? Teenagers today are bombarded by messages from their peers, the Internet, music, movies....the list goes on. As parents, you may wonder if your words mean anything at all. If so, take heart: all research indicates that the most significant influence on the life of a teenager comes from his or her parents. Yes—parents! In this updated volume, marriage and family expert Dr. Gary Chapman lays out the tools you need to communicate with your teenager. As Dr. Chapman states, “At the root of much teenage misbehavior is a teen’s empty love tank. I am not suggesting that parents do not love their teenagers; I am suggesting that thousands of teenagers do not feel that love. For most parents, it is not a matter of sincerity but rather lack of information on how to communicate love effectively on an emotional level.” Starting with the world in which your teenager lives, Dr. Chapman walks through the emotional needs of teenagers and how you can best express your love to them. You’ll learn how to identify your teenager’s love language, how to address their unique need for independence and responsibility, how to combat anger and set up boundaries, and how to best parent your teenager if you are a single parent or a blended family.
©2010 Gary Chapman (P)2010 Oasis
Yes. I read the book first, then ordered it in audio form as a gift to my son who has two teenagers. I knew he would nerver sit down and read it, but he would listen to it on his way to work.
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I found the author's stories of his and others' actual experiences with using the right love language with their teen helpful. Also, his suggestions about using these love languages at the end of each section gave us lots of ideas that were new to us. He also stressed how important it is to find the right love language for each individual teenager, and gave lots of help in how to do that.
I especially remember the author's explanation of the fragile ego of the teenager and how a seemingly insignificant criticism can be very destructive to their self image. This is a real eye-opener to parents and grandparents, and may explain some of the bad attitudes teens so easily slip into.
Perhaps too much time is spent at the beginning going through the many pressures and changes in our society that have a major effect in our teens lives. Most people are very much aware of these depressing issues in our everyday lives. I did not really want to plow through them all to get to the author's ideas on how to help teens.
Audible Obsessed wishes she had more time for so many audiobooks.
This book is about not only loving your teenager, but also about learning how to demonstrate your love in a way they feel they are loved. Sometimes at home with all the rules and responsibilities, it is hard to appreciate your rebel teen, let alone show them they are appreciated.
When I started this book, I had already listened to 5 Love languages of children, and 5 love language for couples, thus I thought it would repeat itself, but it didn't.
This one has a great approach for teens, and if you are one of those renitent parents who is struggling with his/her teen at home, you need to get this book and absorb every ounce of knowledge this book has to offer.
With the advance of modern life, it gets harder and harder to understand your teen, but this book presents simple things and strategies you can do with your teen in order for you to have a more harmonious domestic environment.
This book is especially aimed at helping parents not only to learn to show their kids' love language, but also to understand their teen's. If you are not a parent, but want to understand the teens around you, and how to show your love for them in a way they get it, this is a great source of knowledge. I recommend it.
We just read this as our pick in our Dads and kids book club (homeschooling moms get the night off!). We chose it because we have a number of young adults, a.k.a Teens, and thought that this version would be more applicable for them than the original. The 5 Love languages was fantastic as usual. However, the parenting tips simply did not apply to our group. The kids were appalled at the teens' behaviors that were portrayed in the book. I'm not saying home schooled kids can't act up, but not the way they were described in the book. If you are a homeschooler, you will want to read this in advance. I think the original would be better for youth to read. It did have some good parenting tips. I would like to see a version of this written FOR young adults.
I purchased this book to help my husband with communicating better with our teen son. However it was such an eye opener as I realized that my husband didn't receive love in the way he needed while growing up. As a result it's been difficult for him to love our son according to his love language. Just knowing why is half the battle. This book provides the tools to help us discover our son's love language and how to fill his emotional love tank. Thank you so much.
Fabry did a great job, excellent narrating.
Learning how to discover my tween daughters primary language.
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Get this book, it will open your eyes to some of the things your kids do and say and why they do. Even making any effort to be closer to your kids will pay off a thousand fold when they are navigating the tricky waters of teens and young adults. I'm glad I got this book!
I found this book to be an eye opener in as much as I promised myself not to forget what it was like to be a teenager. Unfortunately the world has changed so much since then, that the stresses on teens as grown considerably beyond my own memories.
All of these improvements in our and their lives have come at a price. This book addresses the new problems as well as the old ones.
First I chose to give it a 3 out of 5 stars since when you finally get to hear what the actual 5 Love Languages of Teens, the reason I purchased it, the content is valid and worth the time.
Second, and most dominant opinion was that this book was being delivered from the pulpit. I would say for 70% of the book the focus is on how as parents our best course of action when raising a teen is to lead THE most pious life. I'm sure that this tone and content is meant with the best intention. However, the bulk of my listen was done with my filtering my thoughts and simply forging ahead through until he got to the actual love language parts.
So again I chose to rate it a 3.
4 for story/content because at some points, especially the sections talking about rules and consequences, it's overboard and overbearing in my opinion. I just press through those parts to glean awareness of that kind of up-bringing opinion and it always gets better with more take - aways. This is not a replacement for the original Five Love Languages book. You could read this in isolation, but it's not designed or intended that way. However, you could get away with just reading The 5 Love Languages for Men: Tools for Making a Relationship Great (yes even if you are a woman ... This is very close to the original and also includes a couple extra chapters on anger and forgiveness that lead into the Teenagers book nicely.
I have to add an explanation for the 3 for performance. We needed Gary Chapman to read this book. I don't know why he didn't. Chris Fabry is a fine narrator but I couldn't stay focused. It all started to sound the same. That is the problem with professional narrators whose heart and mind are not as into the book as the author would be. Everything about Chris Fabry is well and good except if you listen to him reading this book from start to finish you just might agree with me. blah blah blah blah blah and then I'm listening to Charlie Brown's teacher. I much prefer Gary Chapman books narrated by Gary Chapman.
Mother, Wife, Cultural Anthropologist, always a scholar and lover of books!
Fantastic look at the needs of teenagers from a empathetic, loving viewpoint. I am a better parent for it!
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