• The Five Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts

  • By: Gary Chapman
  • Narrated by: Gary Chapman
  • Length: 4 hrs and 46 mins
  • 4.8 out of 5 stars (41,924 ratings)

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The Five Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts

By: Gary Chapman
Narrated by: Gary Chapman
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Why we think it's Essential: In a conversational and sincere tone, Gary Chapman practices what he preaches: clear, concise communication. I've heard from AudibleListeners that Chapman's words have inspired them to be better partners in relationships. What's not to love? — Diana Dapito

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Dr. Gary Chapman identifies five basic languages of love and then guides couples towards a better understanding of their unique languages of love. Learn to speak and understand your mate's love language, and in no time you will be able to effectively love and truly feel loved in return. Skillful communication is within your grasp!

©2005 Gary Chapman (P)2005 Oasis Audio LLC

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  • 2005 Audie Award Winner, Personal Development/Motivational

" "Whether your marriage needs a tune-up or a major overhaul, these are powerful prescriptions delivered by a genial, wise man." (AudioFile)

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Unexpected Brilliance

In one word, amazing! I will make this honest & to the point. As I am Australian we kind of like our info served straight up and no beating around the bush. I get tired of reading reviews that sound over the top of many peoples heads & those that make you wonder if they were paid to write it. Let me tell you this, from start to finish this guy knows his stuff. These Love languages Dr Chapman talks about transcend culture & speech language. They would work for anyone, anywhere in the world that has a desire to seek more from their partnership and is willing to listen. Dont let his funky southern accent put you off, it will actually endear you to him as you grow to admire his insights and find your own penny dropping inside. Everything he said made sense, plain english and would apply to everyone's situation whether married, in a relationship or not. Its real info that can be used to reopen and then keep the channels of communication open between partners. Also info that will make giving & receiving love as well as being lovable so much easier. It doesnt focus so much on the differences between men and women like in the Mars Venus Series of John Gray but more on the WAY we love. It explains why those suggestions you get in magazines dont always work so well. SO refreshing and info that I didnt even know I needed! Our marriage was in a rut & I can honestly say that when trying some suggestions from the book my husband immediately responded. He even wanted to listen to the book with me and we disussed things as we listened. It has brought us so much closer and helped us to connect again while learning more about ourselves and each other. We plan to go further with our "reading" as we have a new hobby, listening to books together. I hope Dr Chapman will keep writing! Thanks Dr!

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L-O-V-E this book!

This is a great book. I have the print copy, but found it difficult for my long time fiance and myself to find time to read it together - the audiobook was a great answer. Dr. Chapman's work on the five love languages is insightful and helps us to realize just why some things that are so simple and basic to us, may not be understood by our mate. When miscommunication occurs, you can sometimes be left wondering, "who is this person I am with?" but a look into the five love languages can really help identify these issues and Dr. Chapman gives suggestions on how to work through them together - all the while loving each other BETTER! =) I definitely recommend this book to anyone who has ever felt confused about relationships, whether it be with family, friends, or significant others. Who is NOT in this category? =) So many relationship books seem like so much reading and not enough action ... or just so much work ... or just fluff. But this is NOT work, it is not fluff, and it is not words without action. It is great knowledge that you can begin to apply TODAY. I also think Dr. Chapman's narration of the book was excellent - you can really hear the sincerity of his voice, and the excitement he evokes when telling his stories. I will especially point out a part in the book we loved - when he talks about vacuuming the house, how he hated it as a kid and how he never thought he'd have to do that as a grown-up - but he now HAPPILY does it weekly for his wife, and in his words, "There is only one reason: L-O-V-E!"

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Not That Great After All

The other reviews I read made me think this would be full of great insights. I had to fast forward through the first part, which was a long, self-congratulatory interview with the author. The five languages were no big surprise - kind words, gift-giving, service, touching, and quality time. All five are good things to do for your loved ones. I'd call this a case of Expando Publishing - taking what should be a brochure or flyer and expanding it into a full length book.

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A Silver Bullet?!

Wonderfully simple, practical concepts that provide us truly effective methods of expressing and receiving love. Any and all relationships could benefit from the information contained in this book. While it is written from a Christian perspective and focuses almost exclusively on married couples experiencing some level of dysfunction in their marriages, the material can be interpreted in any way that best serves your needs. I myself am not a Christian nor am I married, but this has offered wonderful clarity and help to me and my significant other as we co-create the relationship of our dreams together. Hoping to put these lessons to use to set us up for success so we won't need the damage control down the road!

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A Few Diamonds, a Lot of Rough

Would you try another book from Gary Chapman and/or Gary Chapman?

I might, under the right circumstances.

Would you ever listen to anything by Gary Chapman again?

I might, under the right circumstances.

Which character – as performed by Gary Chapman – was your favorite?

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You didn’t love this book... but did it have any redeeming qualities?

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This book is about 25% heavy-handed religious rhetoric, 25% folksy nonsense, and 25% outright B.S. But the remaining 25% is genuinely insightful, interesting, and helpful. If you're willing to dig through the muddy presentation, there are some wonderful nuggets of wisdom.

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Missing elements

The core idea of this book is great! Love languages make sense. However one of my issues is in the overly gendered language in the book. It would be so much easier to say they/them and partner instead of gendering everything. Also that author never mentioned trauma or ptsd. I really think a book that deals in psychology should at least mentioned them so that when people continue to have issues even after learning the love languages they can understand what role traumas plays in expressing love.
I also was very disturbed by the authors suggestion (in a story he was recalling) that the wife should have sex with her husband at least once every week even though she clearly wasn’t comfortable doing so!! That woman could have a history of sexual trauma and telling her to “love her enemy” could be re-traumatizing.
Overall, the love language idea is great but the authors heavy Christian influence and lack of regard for trauma and ptsd is concerning.

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Highly Recommended

I am a chaplain and speak with a lot of people. I have found myself recommending this book more than any other. The books is not a list of techniques used to manipulate people. It is a discussion about how to truly serve others in the way they want to be served. We often serve others in the way that we would like to be served. Then, we wonder why they don’t respond. Dr. Chapman helps us to overcome this mistake and discover the means by which our spouses and children like to receive love. Throughout the book, he also gives us practical advice on how to fulfill those needs.
The fundamentals are especially helpful in marital and family relationships and can be applied, in a limited manner to casual relationships as well.
One should not be surprised that the book has distinctly Christian worldview. It is published by Oasis. I do not know of a book they publish that is not distinctly Christian.

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A sure way to inject life into your marriage.

My wife and I discovered this book about eight years ago. It is a practical book that touches on a problem most couples experience - different ways of expressing love. Dr. Chapman is equally funny and brilliant on his exposition of the love languages. I have successfully used and practiced the principles he teach in his book not only in my marriage but with dozens of couples I have mentored. It works! Speaking the love language of your spouse will take your marriage to new heights or revive the relationship you're in. Read it and apply it.

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Too religious for me

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I started to listen to this but was really turned off by the preaching. I was surprised at how religious this book is based. I understand the concepts, but not a fan of the book and how it was written. If you are religious you will probably really enjoy this, just not my cup of tea.

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Not for me

This book may be helpful to some, but overall it was of very little help to me. It’s rooted in Christian beliefs and uses outdated gender stereotypes throughout. The small updates here and there that are supposed to reflect the changing times weren’t enough for me. Many of the author’s declarations of what love is and how one should show it, I’m sorry to say I just flat out disagree with. Sure, the basic principles in this book are good- people express love differently and it’s helpful to have an awareness of this and incorporate it into meeting the emotional needs of your partner* (note this book only addresses spouses/married couples). However love is not a performance between partners, it’s not about getting “credit” for doing something kind, as the author writes. It’s not about pleasing your partner physically and emotionally to the detriment of yourself. For example, the author advises one woman to stay with her emotionally abusive husband and seeing if he eventually comes around, quoting the Bible “love your enemies, do good to them that hate you”. I find that advice very troublesome. The author consistently credits himself as a miracle worker, but I think he’s partly, if not largely using shame and religion to prevent couples from divorcing. I realize I’m in the minority here in this review section, but this book was not my cup of tea.

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