©2005 Gary Chapman; (P)2008 Oasis Audio
Author Gary Chapman's concept about the 5 love languages is an enlightening insight that everybody should know about. It's that important and valuable.
The concept is straightforward. Here are the 5 love languages:
2. Quality time - enjoying doing things together.
3. Physical/touch (n.b., don't confuse this with sex).
4. Affirmation or compliments.
5. Service (i.e., doing things to help the other).
Everybody has a primary love language. If you express your love to your partner in this language, they will feel loved. If you express your love in another language, especially one they don't particularly value, they will not feel loved.
It's natural to treat your partner as you would wish to be treated. Hence, you are likely to express your love to your partner via your preferred love language. That's great if you share love languages. You have no need of the 5 love languages concept. If not, you have a problem that understanding this concept can help.
Sadly, the best way to learn about the 5 love languages is Gary Chapman the writer, and in this case, the reader too.
Chapman writes at and reads to the high school dropout level. On one hand, that's a great thing, because this message needs to get to the people who seldom read books. On the other hand, for those who are accustomed to reading books, the writing and reading are something akin to reading a non-fiction children's book. While it's politically correct to reposition material to men as a target audience -- this book is just a modification of his original 5 love languages book to speak directly to men -- it's not politically correct to reposition the book to a more literate target audience. That's unfortunate, because for that audience the way the book is written and read is not only annoying, it could make readers think that smart, well-educated folks wouldn't make mistakes in the love languages.
For all people wanting a better understanding of human relations, couple or not, you must read it. My wife and I both read the book, and our relationship has improved tremendously. We did not have specific problems relating to each other, but since this book, we became even closer than before. Also, be aware than the principles in this book applies also in your relationships with everyone...
Not rocket science but a helpful refresher to remind one that all people do not value the same things in life.
Chapman writes about a common issue, miscommunications and misunderstandings between partners. He reminds the listener that what is of value to her may not be of value to him and that the
Quick and easy listen.
34 year old, married +2 wonderful kids. Like fantasy and self development: moral, humility, listening, relationship, kids education etc
The 5 love languages is a great book and when I bought this one I expected more examples of the same spirit but I got exactly the same stories and I feel I hear the 5 love languages book again. Gary Chapman is an excellent writer and and I recommend warmly about the 5 love languages that e wrote.
Great at helping understand why things sometimes go the way they do and why you feel certain ways. I'm not usually into the self-help type stuff, but I really enjoyed it and learned a lot.
Being a woman I also listened to this book with my husband and it really opened our eyes to see what we should of known all along. Sometimes you just need to be set on the right path.
If you are looking for some advice whether you are already in a relationship or not this book really helps you find your way and gives you great tips.
I struggled in the sixties to get a college education, barely graduated, spent a life in the phone company as a technician in a call center.
The author, who reads his own composition, has some good ideas about expressing love, in five major ways. He calls these ways, love languages, and proposes that everyone has one special language that they like to receive love in. I myself find that I like to receive love in all five ways, with no one way dominating. This is a must-read book for people educated in technical educations that left out any kind of emotional maturity, and then find their lives empty in their careers. You'll probably be sorry you didn't read this book earlier, but it is never too late to read, and to learn how to love in a mature understanding way.
Not only did the reader do a great job but the material was explained very well. I've had this book sitting in my house for around 16 years. I wish that I would have read it a long time ago. I'll be listening to this book a few more times.
Every time he connected to my feelings of our twenty year marriage. I look forward to the next twenty plus years!
The expressions that his voiced carried would have been hard to get from the book.
How to express love for other in ways that they will better appreciate.
This book is on my top five list of non-fiction books.
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