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The Defining Decade Audiobook

The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter - and How to Make the Most of Them Now

Our "30-is-the-new-20" culture tells us that the twentysomething years don't matter. Some say they are an extended adolescence. Others call them an emerging adulthood. But 30 is not the new 20. In this enlightening book, Dr. Meg Jay reveals how many twentysomethings have been caught in a swirl of hype and misinformation that has trivialized what are actually the most defining years of adulthood.
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Our "30-is-the-new-20" culture tells us that the twentysomething years don't matter. Some say they are an extended adolescence. Others call them an emerging adulthood. But 30 is not the new 20. In this enlightening book, Dr. Meg Jay reveals how many twentysomethings have been caught in a swirl of hype and misinformation that has trivialized what are actually the most defining years of adulthood.

Drawing from more than 10 years of work with hundreds of twentysomething clients and students, Dr. Jay weaves the science of the twentysomething years with compelling, behind-closed-doors stories from twentysomethings themselves. She shares what psychologists, sociologists, neurologists, reproductive specialists, human-resources executives, and economists know about the unique power of our 20s and how they change our lives. The result is a provocative and sometimes poignant listen that shows us why our 20s do matter. Our 20s are a time when the things we do - and the things we don't do - will have an enormous effect across years and even generations to come.

©2012 Meg Jay (P)2012 Hachette

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    Valerie A. Lapointe 05-21-15 Member Since 2014
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    "Essential reading for every 20 something"

    Meg Jay is the shot of adrenaline that every struggling 20 something needs. She doesn't push, or lecture but rather presents sobering facts and nudges helpfully.

    1 of 1 people found this review helpful
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    Jay Brooklyn, MI, United States 05-22-12
    Jay Brooklyn, MI, United States 05-22-12
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    "Excellent - Time Well Spent"
    What made the experience of listening to The Defining Decade the most enjoyable?


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    My twenty two year old daughter just graduated from college and will be moving out of state. My wife listened to the audio version and bought two hard cover copies, one for our daughter and one for our twenty something son who lives in another city. It must have struck a chord as these young adults couldn't put it down, and asked if Meg Jay had any other books (not yet).

    2 of 3 people found this review helpful
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    dimitri 02-10-16
    dimitri 02-10-16 Member Since 2016
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    "Excellent book!"

    I am 29 and I wish I had read this book sooner! No one takes the time give good advise to those in their twenties. Also a great book for parents with children in their twenties. I highly recommend it!

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    Brittany 02-04-16
    Brittany 02-04-16 Member Since 2016
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    "Comforting, but realistic and smart perspective."

    For me, a 24 year old that graduated college and moved by myself from Ohio to California about a year ago for a design job at a struggling mobile startup, this book is everything I'd hoped and more. I HIGHLY suggest it for anyone in their 20s that feels a little lost and alone. The real life examples and the things that Meg Jay has to say about them are extremely relateable and comforting. I want to read/listen to it again because it made me feel so calm and level-headed. The narration feels pretty bland at first, but quickly becomes soothing and trusted.

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    Stephanie 11-25-15
    Stephanie 11-25-15 Member Since 2015
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    "Truly refreshing and enlightening"
    What did you love best about The Defining Decade?

    I appreciated that at no point in The Defining Decade did I feel like Meg was talking down to me (as a 20-something Millennial.) Nor did I feel the usual disdain that comes with talking about the 20-something experience of Millennials from the perspective of an older generation. It was genuinely informative and fascinating.


    What about Meg Jay’s performance did you like?

    Meg's reading of the book is calm and measured, making it very easy to listen and absorb the information. The structure of the book (a story about a client followed by in-depth analysis of a certain topic) fit the audiobook perfectly as I felt like the conversations would have flowed similarly if I were to talk to Meg in person about these topics.


    Did you have an extreme reaction to this book? Did it make you laugh or cry?

    By the end of the book I was brought to tears a couple of times, but that was probably because I was listening in one sitting on a long, solo drive through the mountains.


    Any additional comments?

    If you're a 20-something who's weary of overly soft self-love sermons AND the constant chiding/put downs from older generations, please read this book. It's got great information and a pragmatic perspective that really inspired and motivated me.

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    Evan 10-27-15
    Evan 10-27-15 Member Since 2015
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    "A must read for college students and recent grads"

    This was a fantastic book that I feel every college student and recent grad should read. This book gave me a lot of insight and hope for what my 20s has to offer me and really pointed me in the right direction. This book is comforting and influential. SO happy a friend suggested it to me. I hope dr. Meg Jay continues to write!

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    Anas Sabri 10-26-15
    Anas Sabri 10-26-15 Member Since 2015
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    "Don't's miss it."

    Just amazing, it has to be on your bucket list
    It makes you rethink your life. Also, knowing the benefits of understanding the big role your 20 something plays in your life.

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    nat 10-17-15
    nat 10-17-15 Member Since 2014
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    "Wish I had such a dictor as Meg Ja in my twenties."

    Thank you so much for the great book. Makes you think a lot and worry about younger friends and relatives.

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    eric 10-07-15
    eric 10-07-15
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    "different view on life"

    I was able to take away a lot from this book things I didn't know and things I already knew. I enjoyed it so much I even had my girlfriend reading.

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    Lisa Archer 09-22-15
    Lisa Archer 09-22-15 Member Since 2014
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    "Every 20 and almost 20 something needs to read this book"

    Having a child that is in his teens and having lived to my 20's I know this is an important book for the younger generation to read.

    0 of 0 people found this review helpful

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