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The Defining Decade Audiobook

The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter - and How to Make the Most of Them Now

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Our "30-is-the-new-20" culture tells us that the twentysomething years don't matter. Some say they are an extended adolescence. Others call them an emerging adulthood. But 30 is not the new 20. In this enlightening book, Dr. Meg Jay reveals how many twentysomethings have been caught in a swirl of hype and misinformation that has trivialized what are actually the most defining years of adulthood.

Drawing from more than 10 years of work with hundreds of twentysomething clients and students, Dr. Jay weaves the science of the twentysomething years with compelling, behind-closed-doors stories from twentysomethings themselves. She shares what psychologists, sociologists, neurologists, reproductive specialists, human-resources executives, and economists know about the unique power of our 20s and how they change our lives. The result is a provocative and sometimes poignant listen that shows us why our 20s do matter. Our 20s are a time when the things we do - and the things we don't do - will have an enormous effect across years and even generations to come.

©2012 Meg Jay (P)2012 Hachette

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    Jason 04-25-16
    Jason 04-25-16 Member Since 2016
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    "Very informative as a 24 year old"
    Would you recommend this audiobook to a friend? If so, why?

    I would recommend this book for anyone in the 20 - 32 age. There is a lot that may not apply to you, as it did me, but it will get you thinking in a different mindset. I no longer want to put certain things off, and have less regret and remorse about previous mistakes.


    Who was your favorite character and why?

    The girl that realized she needed to work on herself, when she had initially came to therapy to try and get her boyfriend to change.


    Which scene was your favorite?

    Not really a scene, but when the guy opened up his own dog daycare business.


    Was there a moment in the book that particularly moved you?

    All of the stories of the various clients / patients when they had come to a realization of their mistakes and incorrect or misconceived notions / logic.


    Any additional comments?

    I like this book, it a steep price for only a 5 hour book, but I really would recommend it.

    1 of 1 people found this review helpful
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    Bradley 03-19-16
    Bradley 03-19-16 Member Since 2015
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    "Worth the read"

    Worth the read for any person in their twenties. If anything, this text validates the experiences of those in their twenties. It does a phenomenal job of articulating the very angst that paralyzed so many who live through these uncertain and life shaping years.

    My only gripe with the text was the inadvertent pressure that it puts on people in their twenties to figure it all out before 30. While this is not the overall message of the book, there are hints of "figure it out now, or the future will suck," which risks making this generation of people feel bad about the ways in which they have not yet found their stride.

    I suppose there is something to be said for the author's unsympathetic tone. Indeed, her point is that people in their twenties are not helpless; they have options and through their own ability to believe in themselves and take positive risks, they can empower themselves to be active creators of the lives they want rather than passive individuals who let life happen to them.

    My feelings about the book are mixed. I love that it articulates the experience of the twenties so beautifully, and I love the message of empowerment. I do hope that those who read this can also be okay with knowing that it will not all fall into place at once, that life doesn't end at 30, and that the future is not a guaranteed failure if we don't get everything right, right now.

    1 of 1 people found this review helpful
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    Valerie A. Lapointe 05-21-15 Member Since 2014
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    "Essential reading for every 20 something"

    Meg Jay is the shot of adrenaline that every struggling 20 something needs. She doesn't push, or lecture but rather presents sobering facts and nudges helpfully.

    1 of 1 people found this review helpful
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    Jay Brooklyn, MI, United States 05-22-12
    Jay Brooklyn, MI, United States 05-22-12
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    "Excellent - Time Well Spent"
    What made the experience of listening to The Defining Decade the most enjoyable?


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    My twenty two year old daughter just graduated from college and will be moving out of state. My wife listened to the audio version and bought two hard cover copies, one for our daughter and one for our twenty something son who lives in another city. It must have struck a chord as these young adults couldn't put it down, and asked if Meg Jay had any other books (not yet).

    2 of 3 people found this review helpful
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    D.E. 09-23-16
    D.E. 09-23-16 Member Since 2016
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    "Quarter life crisis is so real!"
    What did you like best about The Defining Decade? What did you like least?

    I loved this book, however the only unfortunate thing about it is the narration.


    What was the most compelling aspect of this narrative?

    Its comforting to know you are not the only one in the quarter life crisis boat


    What didn’t you like about Meg Jay’s performance?

    It sounded like someone copy and pasted the text in to TextEdit and clicked the speaking button


    Was The Defining Decade worth the listening time?

    Yes but it would probably have been better to read it.


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    Jeanine Whitehead-Jackson 09-20-16 Member Since 2016
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    "Must Read for all Twenty-Somethings"
    What made the experience of listening to The Defining Decade the most enjoyable?

    The content of this book is on point and relevant. The authors sharing of the stories alongside medical and physiological data really helps to drive key points home. I wish I had this information in my 20's. However, reading it as I exit my 30's has really closed the door on some chapters in my past and confirmed the results I currently live with in my now.


    What did you learn from The Defining Decade that you would use in your daily life?

    This information has empowered me to guide and influence the future of my children. Sometimes it's difficult to know what is too much or too little to share as a parent of a young adult. This book is now much needed leverage that will aid in parenting. Allowing young adults to see a broad view of the future to craft the life they want while supporting their independence and healing their past.


    Any additional comments?

    I have shared and will continue to share this information with my twenty something children and every high school gradate, college student, working young adult. Unfortunately not all 20 somethings are engaged in this level of wisdom. This is the greatest gift that can ever be shared with a 20 something no matter where they are in life or background.

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    Dc1313 09-09-16
    Dc1313 09-09-16 Member Since 2013
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    "EVERYONE NEEDS TO READ THIS!!!!"

    especially if you are under 30 but even then you shouldn't let that stop you! Its all about how every part of your life, how every day matters and you can change anything about yourself you want to...For me it almost validates who I am right now as a 24 year old and how seriously I want the world/ my family to take me...seriously, read this book.

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    Brian 09-07-16
    Brian 09-07-16 Member Since 2014
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    "very relevant. A must read"

    whether you 19, 25 or 50 you will gain insight into your life. this should be required reading for every high school graduate.

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    Amazon Customer 08-15-16 Member Since 2015
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    "Every 20-something needs to read this!"

    This book is amazing and provided me with a lot of clarity. I'm 23, so this book really hit home for me. If you love Dr. Meg Jay'd Ted Talk, you will be obsessed with this book.

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    MCV 08-11-16
    MCV 08-11-16
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    "Apparently I am screwed."
    Any additional comments?

    it's funny how society wants to prolong adolescents. to normalize childish behavior far past the age of 18. this book preaches the opposite. that if we don't start figuring out life as soon as possible we could be in for a lot of hard work.

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