Does the idea of going to a large party make your palms sweat and your mouth go dry? You are not alone. Many people suffer from minglephobia, a secret terror of large parties. Jeanne Martinet's tried-and-true cure is her unique system of techniques and strategies for overcoming social fears. Now you can relax and thrive at any business or social event! Complete with dozens of brand-new, field-tested tricks, tips, lines, and maneuvers, The Art of Mingling will teach you:
©2006 Jeanne Martinet; (P)2006 Audio Renaissance, a division of Holtzbrinck Publishers, LLC
"Jeanne Martinet's amusing guide contains nifty ideas designed to get the flower off the wall and into circulation." (Letitia Baldridge, manners guru)
I have to say, I purchased this book, The Art of Mingling (from Audible) with a bit of skepticism. The reviews were mixed, and the one even sited that the techniques were "fake" or "simplistic", but I decided to give it a fair shake because there were very positive ones as well.
I had an upcoming event in my company where I was supposed to be the best in my area, we were to represent our stores, along with 35 other people, most of which have never met each other. I knew we would be doing a group presentation as well.
I am a naturally shy person around people I don't know. I don't think I handle rejection well, and so I rarely take those risks. Once I know you though, I think I am a bundle of fun! I listened to this book and I have to say I used the advice to great success. I was able to meet all of the people at the meeting effortlessly and it felt amazing. For the first time I worked a room, and it could not have been better timing. (A party with vice presidents and CEOs, several levels above me!) I found the exchanges to be genuine, and I even found myself remembering names and information I never remembered before.
All things being even, the advice is simplistic, but it gives you some tools to be able to find those conversations and people you can spend some time getting to know.
I do not enjoy listening to anyone who's attitude is that of I'm here to have fun, don't get in my way!
This is how the book comes across to me:
I am at this party to have fun.
I will do what it takes to enjoy myself and avoid those of you I find boring whether that be to lie, hide from you or anything else.
Plus, I just didn't find the time spent listening to this book as productive.
Unless you are a total social idiot, there isn't much in this book that will come as a surprise. Also, the reader, who I suspect is the author, sounds like a bit of a twit. I frankly had a hard time getting through the book.
Here is my best advice I know on how to mingle, told to me my my late mother: remember that every person has a story to tell you, and try to draw out that story. All the other suggestions in this book pale in comparison to that one.
By the way, if I met this woman at a party, I know I would be looking around for someone else to mingle with.
I have to agree with other reviewers - this is someone I would not mingle with. She comes across as exceedingly arrogant and her narration is painful to listen to. Many of the points are common sense but that doesn't stop her from beating each explanation to death via examples. I couldn't even finish it. I have about 160 Audible titles (most of which are quite good) - this one ranks dead last. I wish I could recoup the money. Save yours.
I found this audio book to be very insightful at times. The book did get off to a rough start. As the book progressed I began to notice that the ideas Martinet present provide a cornerstone for the topic of interacting with people. I feel certain that one of my favorite authors on this topic, Leil Lowndes, listened to this audiobook and was able to elaborate and extend it to create her own award winning audio books.
Not worth the time if your seriously working on developing your social skills. It's very basic suggestions and for humourous listening.
This book is a total joke. I could not finish it. I could not believe this was for real. The author has a REALLY bad attitude. She has a second book out?! No way!!!!
Excellent resource for meeting people anywhere. The title of the book is very misleading. The title should be, Interacting with Strangers. A bonus of this book is the author narrates. With the author narrating it allows for more dialogue. All types of situations and solutions are discussed. Basically the price of this book is worth at least a thousand dollars because trips to see a counselor would cost at least this price.
After listening to this I am more anxious about attending parties than I was before. The author is obviously an extrovert whereas most of us with concerns about communication are introverts. Parties come across as a battlefield and the whole function is to take it by storm with strategies for getting out of difficulties. Fortunately many of the situations the author sees as needing strategies for have not arisen in the circles in which I circulate (busines, academic and social gatherings). I am sure that some people will find this book useful but I found only a couple of tips likely to be useful as practical solutions.
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