Yusuf al-Falah, an Arab, and Avi Rozen, a Jew, each lost his father at the hands of the other's ethnic cousins. As the story unfolds, we discover how they came together, how they help warring parents and children to come together, and how we too can find our way out of the struggles that weigh us down.
The choice between peace and war lies within us. As one of the characters says, "A solution to the inner war solves the outer war as well." This book offers more than hope - it shows how we can prevent the conflicts that cause so much pain in our lives and in the world.
©2006 Arbinger Properties, Inc.; (P)2008 BBC Audiobooks America
This is a great book, written in story form makes it easy to see and find practical application to the principles. I found it personally very revealing, if I apply what I learned I will be a better person.
The way it changed the concept of how I saw everybody and everything
Leadership and self deception
To look at everyone as if they were one of my own
I read Leadership and Self-Deception first and loved it too. The ideas in this book are life changing. I will definitely have to listen to it several times to fully grasp everything. I hope to start applying the principles taught into my life.
In the first moments of the book when it talked about sending teens to a survival camp I was hooked and was more focussed on learning where this camp is and how can I send my own teen there. This was fleeting at best. As with all books designed to help oneself, I was quickly reminded that Peace starts within not with others with whom we do not have Peace with.
I found myself nodding in agreement throughout most of the book as the narrative told the story of where "I" within the conflict which holds out Peace in my world. I found myself connecting to the characters, not just as parents, but as people.
The narrator did an exceptional job in conveying the individuals and my attention was held rapt.
The only thing I wished for was a .pdf download of the diagrams that they spoke about in the book. I will be buying either the actual book or downloading the kindle version in hopes of seeing those diagrams whilst listening again to the book.
I feel that this will be a book to serve as a foundation for me and invite anyone to invest in absorbing its contents.
34 year old, married +2 wonderful kids. Like fantasy and self development: moral, humility, listening, relationship, kids education etc
The book is written as a story and via the story intends to teach a method for being at peace with yourself.
Half way through the book I felt I learned nothing and intended to jump to my next learning.
Because the book is written as a story I was tempted to keep listening.
And then the story made me cry, twice!
So I completed the book.
I feel I have learned a new concept which I started considering on my day to day interaction.
I can also understand why the concept is more teachable via a story.
And overall I'm happy to have read the book.
However I don't know if I would recommend this to others as I'm not sure many would like this story approach for teaching.
Normal on the outside, something else on the inside. Kinda like a banana!
I think the audio edition to be better than the print version in all aspects but one. The audio edition has to describe the diagrams that are in the print edition. This is not a big factor if you can draw them out while listening, but a little harder while driving.
Like any good story this story teaches you while entertaining you. I liked how the author intertwined the lessons within the characters interactions.
Oliver's voice is pleasant, and handled most of the voices well.
The lessons this book is trying to teach you can have a profound impact on you (if you are willing to really, really listen).
The concept in this book is very useful, and the whole world would run a lot more peacefully, if people would learn to look at themselves, when tension or conflict arises. In fact, many people credit this book and it's companion, Leadership and Self-Deception, with saving their families, or even their lives. It certainly did open avenues of conversation in my family. The book is written as a story, though, and is overly simplistic and really dumbed down. This may help it to reach a broader audience, but it was even too annoyingly patronizing for my teenagers. Nobody I know likes being talked down to.
You certainly do NOT have to read/listen to both books. The concept is simple enough, though it takes the authors half the book to spin it out. The second half hammers the point home--and hammers and hammers... The performance was a little cloying--and the portrayal of women's voices was absolutely simpering and cartoonish, almost mocking.
If I had read this book, I would have skimmed it, at best. Listening takes much too long.
Calm, eye-opening, insightful
Realizing what box I was in realizing that a lot of the problems I was having weren't coming from others but from myself
This was a life changing book and I'm glad I was reccomended to read it.
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