Divorce is difficult under the best of circumstances. When your spouse has borderline personality disorder (BPD), narcissistic personality disorder (NPD), or is manipulative, divorcing can be especially complicated. While people with these tendencies may initially appear convincing and even charming to lawyers and judges, you know better - many of these "persuasive blamers" leverage false accusations, attempt to manipulate others, launch verbal and physical attacks, and do everything they can to get their way. Splitting is your legal and psychological guide to safely navigating a high-conflict divorce from an unpredictable spouse. Written by Bill Eddy, a family lawyer, therapist, and divorce mediator, and Randi Kreger, coauthor of the BPD classic Stop Walking on Eggshells, this book includes all of the critical information you need to work through the process of divorce in an emotionally balanced, productive way. Turn to this guide to help you:
©2011 William A. Eddy and Randi Kreger (P)2012 Tantor
"Splitting provides concise, clear, and invaluable advice for strategically navigating a divorce from someone who has narcissistic or borderline personality disorder. Following the suggestions laid out in this book will greatly increase the [listeners'] odds of having a successful marital dissolution under these difficult circumstances." (Susan Pease Gadoua, LCSW, author of Contemplating Divorce)
Really gets the point across...but after more than 20 years of abuse and still not finding a good pro bono attorney, the style of the narration left me feeling more intimidated, less protected, more vulnerable, more scared of my abuser and his attorney. I praise it for being very thorough, but it was very triggering for me to listen to. On top of that, it's left me feeling like I am totally under the gun to recreated everything on paper, repair lost and broken relationships, etc, overnight. These are things I have only a few weeks to do, to represent the over 20 years of horrible, soul-destroying abuse, and I'm not sure I can do it in this timeframe. DONT PASS UP THIS RESOURCE! LISTEN *NOW* AND BE PREPARED!!!! I just think it might benefit from being re-recorded, slightly softer... that's all. It really scared the hell out of my already scrambled, WAY over-andrenalinized, hypervigilant limbic system!!! AWESOME RESOURCE!!!!!
Very useful advice about the court system and custody matters, with advice from two experts who give specific to people who are in a court battle with someone who suffers from borderline and or narcissistic/antisocial traits.
Well written and well read. More than worth the price if you are involved in such a situation, think you might be in the future, or just want to know more about personality disorders.
Stop Walking on Eggshells by Randi Krieger. Written by one of the authors and a more comprehensive overview of BPD and NPD.
Well, I havent listened to many, and this is more of an instructional book than a story, though it uses many to illustrate its points. It is not exactly entertaining but ot is incredibly enlightening and should be used by attorneys, judges and families confronting divorce and child custody issues
That is offers usefil detailed approaches to prevailing in court when youre up against an individual who is willing to so anything to win.
This is my forst. He speaks in a calm modulates voice that is easy to understand and follow, you can take notes .
This is not a screenplay.
Can you guys adapt the review process to include questions that are about nonfiction and informational texts like this one? These are important tools people can use in crisis and professionally. The ability to assess their usefulness is often derived by reviews written by readers like me. My first impulse was to not do it when I read the template . My bet is more people listen to non fiction than fiction; moreover, more non diction fams will read reviews than devotees to the James Patterson mill.
Are you being isolated and blamed for every negative situation in your family life? If yes, Splitting was written for you. Splitting is informative and proactive. The book brings to light problems that may occur and clear steps of action you need to know to protect yourself and/or your children from a BPD or ND spouse.
I highly recommend using it as a guide and first step toward preparation for separation and divorce. I plan to buy a hard copy to implement the written letters at the end of the book.
I am a clinical psychologist and writer living in Colorado's Vail Valley. I taught myself to read when I was 3 and I have been a voracious reader ever since. I love science fiction, literature, and non-fiction about psychology, business, history, politics, science and biography. I adore audiobooks and my kindle.
If you find yourself in the regrettable position to be divorcing someone with borderline or narcissistic personality disorder, or many of the most troublesome traits associated with these disorders, this book will help you prepare and cope.
Absolutely. There is so much valuable information in this book. I only wish I had found it prior to divorcing an NP. It would have said me a lot of money and heartache.
The information on how to find the "right" divorce attorney was so very vital.
The examples of how and what an NP is capable of pulling was spot on.
You Can Get Out, And Still Keep Your Sanity!!
compared to other books on this topic, what i liked most was 'less example stories and more real info'. our family has needed this info in the last two years and i would say this book is the one i would recommend.
This book explains the different personality disorders and how to handle them especially in family law setting. It is a true shame that attorneys and judges don't have this sort of training so they can identify what they are seeing and handle court proceedings accordingly.
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