From leading psychologist Dr. Kristin Neff comes a step-by-step guide explaining how to be more self-compassionate and achieve your dreams in life.
The relentless pursuit of high self-esteem has become a virtual religion - and a tyrannical one at that. Our ultracompetitive culture tells us we need to be constantly above average to feel good about ourselves, but there is always someone more attractive, successful, or intelligent than we are. And even when we do manage to grab hold of high self-esteem for a brief moment, we can't seem to keep it. Our sense of self-worth goes up and down like a ping-pong ball, rising and falling in lockstep with our latest success or failure.
Fortunately, there is an alternative to self-esteem that many experts believe is a better and more effective path to happiness: self-compassion. The research of Dr. Kristin Neff and other leading psychologists indicates that people who are compassionate toward their failings and imperfections experience greater well-being than those who repeatedly judge themselves. The feelings of security and self-worth provided by self-compassion are also highly stable, kicking in precisely when self-esteem falls down. This book powerfully demonstrates why it's so important to be self-compassionate and give yourself the same caring support you'd give to a good friend.
This groundbreaking work will show you how to let go of debilitating self-criticism and finally learn to be kind to yourself. Using solid empirical research, personal stories, practical exercises, and humor, Dr. Neff - the world's foremost expert on self-compassion - explains how to heal destructive emotional patterns so that you can be healthier, happier, and more effective. Engaging, highly readable, and eminently accessible, this book has the power to change your life.
©2011 Kristin Neff, Ph.D. (P)2011 HarperCollinsPublishers
I was skeptical about another self-help book, but everything Neff writes about self-criticism and how it can rule our lives without us even being aware of the damage we do to ourselves, makes perfect sense. Some of us just live with the suffering caused by our internal negative dialogue, and it isn't until we become aware of it, that we are able to change. It's not easy, but my change has begun.
Amazing. I became a better person and see the world with a more positive outlook. And in case challenges come my way, I always have myself to comfort, strengthen and pick up with the loving help of self compassion!
The book is very easy going and not trying to shove anything down your throat but rather make you become more aware of the love that is already within you.
The narrator was amazing too
I thought the content of this book was amazing but the narration was so off putting. Listen to the sample to see what I mean. I want my partner to read this book too, but there's no way I could recommend the audiobook.
Being kind ( to oneself as well as others), acknowledging common experience and attending to the present. Wonderful!
Very inspiring, informative, I would re-read it over and over again. it's I would recommend it to everyone. I'm very proud to have read this book and I look forward to reading more of her books.
The author particularly clarifies the difference between self-esteem and self-compassion. This is an excellent lesson book on how to apply self-compassion to your life with lots of examples and exercises. I found it to be truly life changing in the way I approach just about everything (at least it has changed my perspective - I hope it changes my life). It really was so much more than I was expecting. I would highly recommend it for anyone.
Fantastic book! Moral compass, social, emotional and existential healing. Brutal self-disclosure by Kristin Neff, mixed with well-timed humor inspire human awe, laughter, delight and overdue perspective-taking for the reader/listener.
As one of many people who tries to be kind to everyone but myself, this book helps me focus on putting reasonable boundaries on my self expectations. Have retread it twice after some tough days.
At first this book seems to be elaborating on a intuitive topic. Although once I started listening it occurred to me that most people including myself need to hear this and incorporate its message into daily life. Equipped with this tool I look forward to leading a life that is more accepting of who I am and my personal experience. I also plan to use the tool in relating to others.
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