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Self-Compassion Audiobook

Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself

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Publisher's Summary

From leading psychologist Dr. Kristin Neff comes a step-by-step guide explaining how to be more self-compassionate and achieve your dreams in life.

The relentless pursuit of high self-esteem has become a virtual religion - and a tyrannical one at that. Our ultracompetitive culture tells us we need to be constantly above average to feel good about ourselves, but there is always someone more attractive, successful, or intelligent than we are. And even when we do manage to grab hold of high self-esteem for a brief moment, we can't seem to keep it. Our sense of self-worth goes up and down like a ping-pong ball, rising and falling in lockstep with our latest success or failure.

Fortunately, there is an alternative to self-esteem that many experts believe is a better and more effective path to happiness: self-compassion. The research of Dr. Kristin Neff and other leading psychologists indicates that people who are compassionate toward their failings and imperfections experience greater well-being than those who repeatedly judge themselves. The feelings of security and self-worth provided by self-compassion are also highly stable, kicking in precisely when self-esteem falls down. This book powerfully demonstrates why it's so important to be self-compassionate and give yourself the same caring support you'd give to a good friend.

This groundbreaking work will show you how to let go of debilitating self-criticism and finally learn to be kind to yourself. Using solid empirical research, personal stories, practical exercises, and humor, Dr. Neff - the world's foremost expert on self-compassion - explains how to heal destructive emotional patterns so that you can be healthier, happier, and more effective. Engaging, highly listenable, and eminently accessible, this book has the power to change your life.

©2011 Kristin Neff, PhD (P)2011 HarperCollinsPublishers

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    Allie_Ay United States 03-15-12
    Allie_Ay United States 03-15-12 Member Since 2014
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    "Important concepts, flat delivery"
    Is there anything you would change about this book?

    There's some very important information in this book about how the need to be perfect fails us, how recognizing our weaknesses and failures is valuable, and generating self-compassion activates healthy physiological processes (compared to self-judging). However, I wonder if the average reader can pull those ideas out of the writing. I'm a therapist, and I have recommended this book to clients, but I spend some time outlining and preparing clients about the points above.


    Would you ever listen to anything by Kristin Neff again?

    I've read Neff's research on resilience, and it's informed my therapy practice, as well as my own life. I'll continue to look for her work for sure.


    16 of 20 people found this review helpful
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    BagelwithaN 06-05-16
    BagelwithaN 06-05-16 Member Since 2014
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    "Good read except for...."

    I think this is a good read. The one thing I did not like was the feeling of listening to someone use a book as a vehicle to communicate how they feel. If thats the case, write a book exploring yourself and your narrative seperately.

    2 of 2 people found this review helpful
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    Naomi 10-12-15
    Naomi 10-12-15
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    "Buy the book instead"

    I thought the content of this book was amazing but the narration was so off putting. Listen to the sample to see what I mean. I want my partner to read this book too, but there's no way I could recommend the audiobook.

    2 of 2 people found this review helpful
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    A. Verzone oregon 07-25-16
    A. Verzone oregon 07-25-16 Member Since 2011
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    "Insightful and worthwhile"

    I found the material to be fascinating and enjoyed Dr Neff's stories woven into the narrative.

    I felt the voice of the performer was too smoky. The topics were exciting and game-changing, yet the read felt breathy and motherly. I think it was meant to come across as soothing, but I found it annoying.

    I think the book could have been a bit shorter, but am happy that such time and research have gone into this important topic.

    I would recommend this book and the suggestions in it.

    It would be great to have more grouo activities to do around this topic.

    1 of 1 people found this review helpful
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    Patricia J. Taylor San Leandro, California United States 09-10-15
    Patricia J. Taylor San Leandro, California United States 09-10-15 Member Since 2009
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    "What is being human?"

    Being kind ( to oneself as well as others), acknowledging common experience and attending to the present. Wonderful!

    1 of 1 people found this review helpful
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    deborah 02-13-15
    deborah 02-13-15 Member Since 2015
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    "This book has made a huge impact"

    I was skeptical about another self-help book, but everything Neff writes about self-criticism and how it can rule our lives without us even being aware of the damage we do to ourselves, makes perfect sense. Some of us just live with the suffering caused by our internal negative dialogue, and it isn't until we become aware of it, that we are able to change. It's not easy, but my change has begun.

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    V. Quinn 12-27-14
    V. Quinn 12-27-14 Member Since 2016
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    "good program"
    What did you love best about Self-Compassion?

    The program is great! I read the print book b/c I couldn't stand the reading of this book. The reader uses NO intonation which makes it very dull to listen to. But, the book, and the CD Course are great!


    Who was your favorite character and why?

    Kristin Neff is really good.


    How could the performance have been better?

    reader use more intonation so it is easier to listen to


    What insight do you think you’ll apply from Self-Compassion?

    loving-kindness and self-compassion and meditation


    1 of 1 people found this review helpful
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    don saskatoon, SK, Canada 08-20-12
    don saskatoon, SK, Canada 08-20-12
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    "decent download - mostly review and reminders"
    Is there anything you would change about this book?

    not a lot


    How would you have changed the story to make it more enjoyable?

    needed a "wow, i did not know that" factor


    What about Xe Sands’s performance did you like?

    very pleasing narrative


    Did Self-Compassion inspire you to do anything?

    remined me not to be so critical of myself


    4 of 6 people found this review helpful
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    Kayla Pearland 12-06-16
    Kayla Pearland 12-06-16 Member Since 2015
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    "ought be in every freshman read"

    it is powerful. opening my mind to ideas that I need to heal.

    narrator is a little square for the read...seems unnatural.

    powerful book.

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    Amin 12-04-16
    Amin 12-04-16 Member Since 2016
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    "Yes!!!"

    I can surely say, that this book changed my self image and self perception forever. I really liked that it provide strict borders between self compassion and miserablness/ dwelings; self appreciation between high ego self esteem. I liked this book so much, it really shows how to love and appreciate the most valuable person in you life, without ego ettachment and blowing your self esteem high to fall it down.. Extremly recommend for everyone, especially those who feel problems with cofidence, low self esteem and low level of self appreciation.
    PS: I was really amazed by the story about your son, Kristin, I even cried (I do this extremly rarely) and thank you so much, for this book.

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