From leading psychologist Dr. Kristin Neff comes a step-by-step guide explaining how to be more self-compassionate and achieve your dreams in life.
The relentless pursuit of high self-esteem has become a virtual religion - and a tyrannical one at that. Our ultracompetitive culture tells us we need to be constantly above average to feel good about ourselves, but there is always someone more attractive, successful, or intelligent than we are. And even when we do manage to grab hold of high self-esteem for a brief moment, we can't seem to keep it. Our sense of self-worth goes up and down like a ping-pong ball, rising and falling in lockstep with our latest success or failure.
Fortunately, there is an alternative to self-esteem that many experts believe is a better and more effective path to happiness: self-compassion. The research of Dr. Kristin Neff and other leading psychologists indicates that people who are compassionate toward their failings and imperfections experience greater well-being than those who repeatedly judge themselves. The feelings of security and self-worth provided by self-compassion are also highly stable, kicking in precisely when self-esteem falls down. This book powerfully demonstrates why it's so important to be self-compassionate and give yourself the same caring support you'd give to a good friend.
This groundbreaking work will show you how to let go of debilitating self-criticism and finally learn to be kind to yourself. Using solid empirical research, personal stories, practical exercises, and humor, Dr. Neff - the world's foremost expert on self-compassion - explains how to heal destructive emotional patterns so that you can be healthier, happier, and more effective. Engaging, highly readable, and eminently accessible, this book has the power to change your life.
©2011 Kristin Neff, Ph.D. (P)2011 HarperCollinsPublishers
At first this book seems to be elaborating on a intuitive topic. Although once I started listening it occurred to me that most people including myself need to hear this and incorporate its message into daily life. Equipped with this tool I look forward to leading a life that is more accepting of who I am and my personal experience. I also plan to use the tool in relating to others.
This is one of the best, most helpful books I've ever read. It helps you to feel not so alone, and that somebody truly understands. Not just the subject of the book, but all the feelings that go along with it. That there can be a light at the end of the tunnel. The narration is wonderful. It's all around a blessing !
I was skeptical about another self-help book, but everything Neff writes about self-criticism and how it can rule our lives without us even being aware of the damage we do to ourselves, makes perfect sense. Some of us just live with the suffering caused by our internal negative dialogue, and it isn't until we become aware of it, that we are able to change. It's not easy, but my change has begun.
As one of many people who tries to be kind to everyone but myself, this book helps me focus on putting reasonable boundaries on my self expectations. Have retread it twice after some tough days.
The program is great! I read the print book b/c I couldn't stand the reading of this book. The reader uses NO intonation which makes it very dull to listen to. But, the book, and the CD Course are great!
Kristin Neff is really good.
reader use more intonation so it is easier to listen to
loving-kindness and self-compassion and meditation
Yes, I thought it was very helpful. Even though I didn't do all of the exercises, simply hearing this new perspective was immensely helpful for me to be less self-critical. I believe that my overall sense of self has improved and I have less anxious episodes caused by self-judgement and doubt.
Yes, though I found the narrator's voice slightly ingratiating - she had one of those voices that sounds almost too soft and pandering, like she is trying really hard to sound gentle instead of just speaking like a normal person. I wish she had just spoken in a straightforward manner.
Indifferent to narrator though I think content made for a lifetime-movie reading.
Everything about the author's life.
This really is more of a self indulgent autobiography not a book on self compassion.
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