After studying to become a therapist and crisis intervention counselor - even doing her master's thesis on the stages of bereavement - Christina Rasmussen thought she understood grief. But it wasn't until losing her husband to cancer in her early 30s that she truly grasped the depths of sorrow and pain that accompany loss. Using the knowledge she gained while wading through her own grief and reading hundreds of neuroscience books, Rasmussen began to look at experiences in a new way. She realized that grief plunges you into a gap between worlds - the world before loss and the world after loss. She also realized how easy it is to become lost in this gap.
In Second Firsts, Rasmussen walks you through her Life Reentry process to help you break grief's spiral of pain, so you can stop simply surviving and begin to live again. She shows you that loss can actually be a powerful catalyst to creating a life that is in alignment with your true passions and values. The resilience, strength, and determination that have gotten you through this difficult time are the same characteristics that will help you craft your wonderful new life. Her method, which she has used successfully with thousands of clients, is based on the science of neuroplasticity and focuses on consciously releasing pain in ways that both honor suffering and rewire the brain to change your perception of the world and yourself. Using practical exercises and stories drawn from her own life and those of her clients, Rasmussen guides you through five stages of healing that help you open up to new possibilities. From acknowledging your fear to recognizing where you stand now to taking active steps toward a new life, Rasmussen helps you move past the pain and shows that it's never too late to step out of the gap and experience life again - as if for the first time.
©2013 Christina Rasmuseen (P)2015 Audible, Inc.
The way Christina advises how to approach life after loss is perfect. It has really helped me reengage in my life after my wife passed and also helped me change my job after 16 years!
Nothing compares to Second Firsts!
She is very articulate in her readings. You truly get a grasp of the concepts quickly.
I now know where I end up going when I am stuck. The waiting room.
A must listen!
I'm a widow. My Iraq War veteran husband committed suicide almost 4 years ago. It took a couple of years before I even began dealing with my grief. At this point, it really is time to get back to living and I am always searching for things to help. This book is the one that has touched my heart the most. My soul was stirred. I need to listen again multiple times, but I think this one will really get me living again and knowing that it is really okay to do so! Thank you for that Christina! If you are grieving but know you need to continue to live life, get this book and listen!
A note on the performance, Christina does have an accent that may be bothersome to some. Due to my work, I listen to people with lots of different accents daily so it doesn't bother me. She does make an effort at clear annunciation and you can tell she is speaking from the heart. I don't know that someone else could have conveyed her story as well as she did!
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I listened to this audio book recently, as I was suffering from one of my frequent bouts of insomnia. I've lived my life for the last 15 years...completely empty and suffering. Long Blue Line: Based on a True Story is my own personal memoir and it doesn't have an ending with closure for the reader, and the same has been true for my life (as the author).
Society has responded to my pain by telling me that I have depression, anxiety, and pretty much any other mental illness you can think of.
Frustrated and exhausted, I was laying in bed an hoping that I could find something - anything - to help me find some sort of answers or relief.
For the first time in my life, this book gave me solid answers that made sense. Also, for the first time in my life, I was able to accept and understand that I have not been able to move beyond my grief, even after all of the years have gone by. I have been sitting in the "waiting room" as the author calls it, and I have not allowed myself to transition from my previous life into my new life. The author points out that many of us are living in the "waiting room", mistaking this "gap" for our new life. It's living in a gap that's in-between transitioning, and this gap is a constant state of misery and lifeless existence.
I truly believe that anyone could benefit from reading this book. The author comes from a place of educational knowledge, practical knowledge as well as deeply insightful knowledge as she has experienced loss first-hand herself.
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