Safe People: How to Find Relationships That Are Good for You and Avoid Those That Aren't

By: Dr. Henry Cloud, Dr. John Townsend

Narrated by: Dick Fredricks

Length: 7 hrs and 21 mins

Publisher's summary

Safe People will help you discover why good people can get tangled in bad relationships, how to avoid repeating your own mistakes, and how to pick safe, healthy people for the friends you make and the company you keep.

Too many of us have invested in relationships that have gone wrong. Maybe you've been judged, manipulated, or controlled. Or maybe you've trusted the wrong people in the past. It's easy to make the same mistakes of judgment over and over - or, worse, to give up on trying to have great, authentic relationships again. But it doesn't have to be that way.

In Safe People, Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend teach you that being with an unsafe person can be damaging to your confidence, your trust in others, and even your health. You'll learn that you have the power to surround yourself with accepting, honest, and safe people who draw you closer to being the person God intended you to be.

Drs. Cloud and Townsend, authors of the New York Times best seller Boundaries, are here to share the lessons they've learned in their years of practicing psychology and studying the patterns and practices that support clear, biblical boundaries. In Safe People, they offer guidance for making safe choices in all of your day-to-day relationships, from family and friends to colleagues and partners.

Safe People will give you the tools you need to recognize what makes people relationally safe, form positive relationships, and even become a safe person along the way. Drs. Cloud and Townsend share expert insights that will help you ask important questions:

• How can I learn to pick better friends?
• Why do I choose people who let me down?
• How did I end up with this critical boss?
• How do I attract irresponsible people?
• Why did I invest money with that unscrupulous person?
• What is it about me that draws the wrong types of people to me?
• Why am I drawn to the wrong types of people?

It's time to revitalize your connections and finally start enjoying the healthy, balanced relationships that you deserve.

©1995 Henry Cloud and John Townsend (P)2009 Zondervan

Great material, awkward narration.

I am a big fan of these authors - their material is "clinically" sound and well written with just enough biblical reference. I've also read their books Boundaries and Changes That Heal. However, the narrator on this audiobook was so overly dramatic, it was hard to listen to... he's a very good dramatist and has a golden voice, but it didn't really fit the material in my opinion. It was just... odd. But I struggled through until the end because I love the material itself.

Great Content

The content of this book was very good but I had a hard time getting through it. The reader was difficult to listen to and some of the examples in the story were boring.

Great!

Simple but very helpful on my healing journey. Another must listen from Townsend and cloud.

Great book

Really helpful with boundaries and recognizing safe people in others and how you attract them.

A big help to my life

I have listened to this book over and over again as it has really helped me to move forward from my most recent breakup. I was devasted by the breakup and it made me to be able to question my character decernment. I needed help and this book is like haveing a counsler in your back pocket, when you need it. I will use these principles to seek out a new relationship. Normally, I would have retreated from relationships but now I am not afraid to move forward and be open to finding the love i deserve. I will seek out safe people and become a safe person as well

Amazing! What we should know as children

Even though I probably wouldn’t have gotten what I got from it in my 40’s - I still wish I had a teacher like this in my early teen years. I just paid my kid to read it and she got a great deal (at age 14). Praying she will revisit and flip through it again and again over her lifetime (as I feel certain I will).
What a great resource. And I highly recommend reading this prior to Boundaries (by the same author).
Blessings to you as you read it!

Reviving. Safe people starts with me!

So powerful. Focuses largely on working on oneself first to being a safe person before others. Broadens perspectives about unsafe people and why we are so attracted to them! I often saw myself as a safe person and also as an unsafe person and gives tools on how to become a safe person. I will need to read the book again for self-checking....

A hard look at yourself

I read this book with a small group and really enjoyed every chapter. it's a book that really makes you think about who you're surrounding yourself with, and what part do you play in your relationships. I would highly recommend it. I'm re-reading it now with my son.

Powerfully enlightening

This book was a powerful, redemptive and educational wealth of knowledge and experience. So thankful to have found it.

Learn How to Have Good Relationships

A classic for understanding relationships, and a valuable resource with great advice and helpful examples.