Safe People: How to Find Relationships That Are Good for You and Avoid Those That Aren't

By: Dr. Henry Cloud, Dr. John Townsend

Narrated by: Henry Townsend

Length: 2 hrs and 17 mins

Publisher's summary

Safe People will help you discover why good people can get tangled up in bad relationships, how to avoid repeating your own mistakes, and how to pick safe, healthy people for the friends you make and the company you keep.

Too many of us have invested in relationships that have gone wrong. Maybe you've been judged, manipulated, or controlled. Or maybe you've trusted the wrong people in the past. It's easy to make the same mistakes of judgment over and over - or, worse, to give up on trying to have great, authentic relationships again. But it doesn't have to be that way.

In Safe People, Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend teach you that being with an unsafe person can be damaging to your confidence, your trust in others, and even your health. You'll learn that you have the power to surround yourself with accepting, honest, and safe people who draw you closer to being the person God intended you to be.

Drs. Cloud and Townsend, authors of the New York Times best seller Boundaries, are here to share the lessons they've learned in their years of practicing psychology and studying the patterns and practices that support clear, biblical boundaries. In Safe People, they offer guidance for making safe choices in all of your day-to-day relationships, from family and friends to colleagues and partners.

Safe People will give you the tools you need to recognize what makes people relationally safe, form positive relationships, and even become a safe person along the way. Drs. Cloud and Townsend share expert insights that will help you ask important questions:

• How can I learn to pick better friends?
• Why do I choose people who let me down?
• How did I end up with this critical boss?
• How do I attract irresponsible people?
• Why did I invest money with that unscrupulous person?
• What is it about me that draws the wrong types of people to me?
• Why am I drawn to the wrong types of people?

It's time to revitalize your connections and finally start enjoying the healthy, balanced relationships that you deserve.

©2002 Dr. John Townsend and Dr. Henry Cloud (P)2002 Zondervan

I've Been Picking Unsafe People Unaware

I bought this audiobook on a hunch I might need to work on myself in this area. Wow! I didn't realize just how much I struggle with character discernment. Great book, very practical, logical and well written. Cloud and Townsend are excellent authors. There's so much good material here I may have to order the hard copy to study it again. I highly recommend this book.

Helpful information

I’m hoping to do a book club of this with my daughter and some friends.

I wish I had read this book years ago! Thankful!

I will be recommending this book Safe People to my children and friends! It has saved my sanity and taught me so much! Thank you, Dr. Cloud and Dr. Townsend!

Discerning, Insightful, Judicious

What made the experience of listening to Safe People the most enjoyable?
It's beneficial for me to be able to listen as I have more processing freedom.

What did you like best about this story?
There is nothing I did not like about this book.

What about Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend ’s performance did you like?
Drs. Cloud and Townsend were careful to be articulate and clear in their performance of the material in the book.

What’s an idea from the book that you will remember?
The idea that I will remember from this book is the significance of emotional safety among us.

Any additional comments?
I highly recommend this book to better understand relationship dynamics and to help one to become a safe person for others and to be able to identify what a safe person looks like.

Safe People

This was very helpful. It is full of common sense and sound Biblical advice.

Way too brief!

Great info, but need more! now I'm going to listen to the UN-abridged version. (-:

interesting

narrator and points very good. learned from it. liked Christian perspective. must read for those trying to change

Critical Social Knowledge for Singles and Marrieds

What made the experience of listening to Safe People the most enjoyable?

better than the old classic CoDependent no more, this book is so well written and presented. I really identifies who to watch out for in our lives, who to give creedance to and who to ignore as irrelevant. Now I know better when to keep my mouth shut, around Unsafe people, who are closer to me than I thought.

What other book might you compare Safe People to and why?

CoDependent no more. Deals with our very close interactions with people in our inner circle and how to protect ourselves from them.

What about Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend ’s performance did you like?

Very nice reading by the author.

If you were to make a film of this book, what would be the tag line be?

They are Right Next to You, Watch Out!

Any additional comments?

Very good opportunity for a wake up call, more clarity and solid guidelines for deciding who to trust. Every MFT, counselor, therapist should have a few copies of this book on their office shelves.

Manditory Reading

I think this should be a required reading for every person entering High School. I found it amazingly effective and one that could very well save the pain of being with unsafe people. I purchased the book and the workbook so that I can educate my children to save them some heart ache along the way.

JUST WHAT I NEEDED TO HEAR!

Loved it! Explained much on the dynamics I have been dealing with in my past and present relationships...👍