Acclaimed therapist Dr. Susan Forward offers crucial help to both obsessors and targets. Using vivid case histories, drawn largely from her two decades of practice, Dr. Forward outlines the stage of obsessive love - from romance to rejection, from pursuit to revenge.
In a compassionate exploration of the roots of obsessive love, targets are given practical strategies for assertive communication and self-protection. Obsessors learn proven techniques to reduce their torment and to bring self-destructive behavior under control, allowing for the development of new, healthy relationships.
©2002 Susan Forward; (P)2009 Phoenix
This book completely opened my eyes for the first time to what I had been doing over and over in my life. I knew it was a pattern but could never figure out why I was doing it or how to stop. With the help of the words of advice plus the exercises that are given, I do believe there is so much hope that I will not only be able to stop my obsessive behavior with my relationships but I also have hope to someday be comfortable with a normal relationship for which I have never known. I believe working with my therapist and some of the other new and healthy concepts I have been practicing, there is great hope for a better tomorrow. I am grateful for the knowledge this book imparted on me and the narrator is also very convincing and speaks with clarity. I listen to this book a few times a week. Thanks for the great book. I give it 5 stars.
I found I wanted to "binge listen" to this book after the first few minutes. Dr. Fortune's presentation is excellent and her understanding of the difficulties of the condition are profound. She has given me the needed wakeup call to examine and deal with my own distressing behavior. Thank you, Susan.
Ms. Forward really speaks to her audience in such a way as not to belittle them, doesn't make them feel crazy, but also makes her points clear. Most of the points she made in this book, I'd come to understand on my own over time. However, hearing it from a professional confirmed what I suspected. She introduced different perspectives of obsession in romances and it really provoked me to consider things I'd either not considered before, or didn't want to. Knowing that other people struggle with becoming too absorbed with another person and improperly dealing with rejection makes me feel like I'm not crazy and I can recover in time. Some of these stories are a little extreme and may not apply, but she speaks to a variety of people with different intensities of obsession and different roles in obsession-influenced relationships. I'm still working on me, but this gave me enough clarity to stop being hurt in confusion.
This book accurately described what is going on when I experience extremes in love.
The checklists were diagnostic.
I was educated into oblivion but have overcome and am having a wonderful life
Yes, many times. Dr Forward prescribes a very very effective set of exercises to break the habit of obsession. It's worth learning
Yes, and I believe I have listened to it... well in maybe two sittings
Great insight into people. It's sad that we can misplace our dignity to such an extent. I think we have accepted behaviors in our relationships that could lead to no other result but obsession. We hurt ourselves and each other in culturally condoned ways. I find this book to be a great tool for recognizing it and stopping it.
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