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Not 'Just Friends' Audiobook

Not 'Just Friends': Rebuilding Trust and Recovering Your Sanity After Infidelity

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Publisher's Summary

Good people in good marriages are having affairs. The workplace and the Internet have become fertile breeding grounds for “friendships” that can slowly and insidiously turn into love affairs. Yet you can protect your relationship from emotional or sexual betrayal by recognizing the red flags that mark the stages of slipping into an improper, dangerous intimacy that can threaten your marriage.

©2004 Shirley Glass, Jean Coppock Staeheli (P)2012 Brilliance Audio, Inc.

What the Critics Say

Not ‘Just Friends’ puts a new face on infidelity. The author, using clinical experience and current research, broadens its definition, causes, and means of resolution. I recommend it for anyone considering an affair, in an affair, or recovering from an affair.” (Harville Hendrix, Ph.D., author of Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples)

“A must-read for anyone who ever hopes to be happy in a long-term relationship.” (Pat Love, Ed.D., author of The Truth About Love and Hot Monogamy)

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    "This book has changed my life. Amazing!"
    Where does Not 'Just Friends' rank among all the audiobooks you’ve listened to so far?

    By far, the best self-help book that I've ever bought.


    What did you like best about this story?

    The book has changed my whole perspective on infedelity. I really CAN conquer infedelity and recuperate from it.


    What about Laural Merlington’s performance did you like?

    I wish I had even a 1/3 of her vocabulary! She's a walking dictionary which makes listening, much more attention-grabbing.


    Did you have an extreme reaction to this book? Did it make you laugh or cry?

    The whole book reached to the depths of my soul and gently pulled me up. I no longer feel guilt, blame, shame or defective. It's not me.


    Any additional comments?

    This book is for the cheater and the cheated. It's for before, during and after infedelity. A MUST read for anyone entering a relationship of any kind.

    2 of 2 people found this review helpful
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    jill 04-08-16
    jill 04-08-16 Member Since 2015
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    What did you love best about Not 'Just Friends'?

    So glad this book was written and I got to listen to it . It is helping me so much as a betrayed partner to heal and contribute to the healing of my relationship. Thank you so much for researching and writing this book!!! The next book I will listen to is one on Non Violent communication.


    Any additional comments?

    I was never read to and Audible is providing a very rewarding experience of enrichment , healing and enjoyment!

    0 of 0 people found this review helpful
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    Pauline Ghougasian 01-30-16
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    "read and listened"

    read 50 articles online...read 10 books about infadelity , tapes...this was the best bar none

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    Heather 10-14-15
    Heather 10-14-15
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    "Good book to listen to with your partner."

    My partner and I listened to this book after wounds started to heal from his sex addiction. It was reassuring to know that we had already done many of the suggested ideas to recover together. We got further value out of this book by listening at a time where we could pause and ask each other questions. We felt it sparked great closure conversations and dug just a little deeper than we had already dug.
    The only reason I rated it a 4 instead of a 5 is because of the religious undertones. If you take those as just suggestions or with a grain of salt, it's fine. Its very difficult to find material like this that does not reference religion.

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    timtam 10-02-15
    timtam 10-02-15 Member Since 2015
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    "Affair Recovery Manual and More"
    Any additional comments?

    This book is really comprehensive on this topic. It gives examples as well as suggestions regarding how to understand how certain kinds of affairs happen. It also talks about recovery from affairs and what helps and hinders. If you are looking for support on this journey, this book will do the trick. The only drawback, has probably to do with the difficulty of the subject matter, not the skill of the author or reader. It's a big book and a long audiobook, it's easy to get worn out listening without taking breaks. Potentially, the author could have condensed some material, but again, maybe not.

    0 of 0 people found this review helpful
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    SunnySoCal 05-02-15
    SunnySoCal 05-02-15 Listener Since 2008

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    "Great book for both partners"

    Both my husband and I listened to this book individually, it helped to gain perspective for both of us in a nonconfrontational environment, I highly recommend it. I felt that it supported me and my feelings as the betrayed partner. It helped him to be honest about the emotional or physical affair and understand his vulnerability's, reasons for it, how to talk to me about it , and how it affects his partner. It offers insight on how to deal with the feelings and emotions and actions from both perspectives on both sides.

    1 of 2 people found this review helpful
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    Lola Miles Atlanta, GA 04-08-15
    Lola Miles Atlanta, GA 04-08-15 Member Since 2016
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    "excellent."

    great book. well researched. well written. a comprehensive read showing every angle. very helpful to me during this time.

    1 of 2 people found this review helpful
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    Laura L. Tranbarger Cleveland, OH 02-05-15
    Laura L. Tranbarger Cleveland, OH 02-05-15

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    "Incredibly beneficial!"

    This allowed us to get the immediate help we needed while waiting on or in between counseling sessions. I highly recommend it.

    0 of 0 people found this review helpful
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    Anomoly United States 09-19-13
    Anomoly United States 09-19-13 Listener Since 2008
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    "Ever heard 'Just Friends' or I love you BUT..."
    If you could sum up Not 'Just Friends' in three words, what would they be?

    This book is for anyone who has ever heard 'we are just friends' or I love you but i'm not in love with you or been involved in an affair (the betrayed, the affair partner OR lover) or even if you are trying to 'affair proof' your marriage... this book hits all angles and is very well written.

    I highly recommend it.


    What other book might you compare Not 'Just Friends' to and why?

    What makes love last or Hold me tight - because all three are a must have for all marriages.


    What does Laural Merlington bring to the story that you wouldn’t experience if you just read the book?

    Very well read, it is a pleasure to listen too.


    What insight do you think you’ll apply from Not 'Just Friends'?

    Understanding affairs from many angles in an insightful way.


    Any additional comments?

    If your life has been touched by an affair, even if it is past and long gone... read this book.

    0 of 0 people found this review helpful
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    Luke C. T. Kung Sahuarita, AZ, United States 09-04-12
    Luke C. T. Kung Sahuarita, AZ, United States 09-04-12

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    "It all runs together."
    Would you recommend this book to a friend? Why or why not?

    Undecided. I am not sure if this is a biased writer.


    What was the most interesting aspect of this story? The least interesting?

    The chapers ran together and half the time I didn't know that was almost at the end of the first half of the book.


    1 of 2 people found this review helpful

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