In No More Mr. Nice Guy!, he presents a guide to creating a healthy and satisfying life. Dr. Glover believes there are men who suffer what he calls the "Nice Guy Syndrome". These men listen, offer advice, and jump at the chance to help. But no matter how hard they try to please others, their own lives are incomplete.
Here Dr. Glover offers guidance on how to take back control. He suggests ways to achieve fulfillment in emotional, physical, and professional relationships. By redefining his priorities, any man can create the life he always wanted.
©2000, 2003 Robert Glover; (P)2004 Recorded Books, LLC.
Private intellectual, writer, and retired academic. Currently R&D director for Gravitational Systems Engineering, Inc.
A very adult look at what I have been doing wrong in my life. A lot of new information, and some very fresh perspectives. It's funny, I'm not a typical nice guy. I'm strong, successful and have had a life of successful relationships. But, I still find that the women in my life are not carrying their weight especially in the bedroom. This book helped me to realize that many of my methods are flawed with unhelpful pride and crushing shame.
I would hope that there is a similar book written for women. But this book is an often uncomfortable but important read.
This book could have been titled 'How To Get Past Dysfunction and Live Life'. The author explains how dysfunction, small or large, in your life creates skewed perceptions. He explains how to get past these issues without having to dig up too many. He informs that it is okay to be a male, to have needs, and how to go about satisfying and meeting those needs. And, how important it is to satisfy those needs. All this done while being an integrated and responsible man. When he says 'no more mr. nice guy', he means no more whining and manipulation. He means direct effort with clarity for what it is that you truly desire, including sex, career, hobbies, vacation, etc. Excellent book.
He found the book and I read it. He said he expected to turn the book over and find his picture on the back of it. I read it and expected to see his picture on the back of it, too. It explained a lot of the conflict and explained a lot of how I fed, and feed, into the troubles in our relationship.
The book is written for nice guys but believe me, nice guys aren't all that nice. The hard copy is needed for the written exercises but the audible is great for refreshers. I'm constantly re-reading it and he's got his own copy.
I've listened to this book 4 times. It was tough to hear the first time, because so much rang true, but it's really helping me see my actions in a way that helps me change them to get what I want. Thank you Dr. Glover.
This is an excellent book on trying and just doing it without trying to be perfect all the time. Also the advice to team work is important and is suggested. But the most important is how to confront one's fear of failure, asking others for help and asking ones need to be met.
This is a self help book but, it really might be useful anyway. Being a nice guy does not appear to work in most relationships long term so this book may help one clearly see that trying harder will not help. Offers insights such as most men have been taught and reared by women nearly exclusively and this is not natural. Most importantly this book offers actual suggestions of what men could do differently to change their doormat persona.
This book as a good amount of information that is pretty accurate. It will certainly make you think and help you understand yourself a bit more. I have met the author and he presents the material better in person than the book.
Now the bad aspect of this audio book is that there is very little (and almost none) exercises for learning to improve yourself. I was listening to the book getting very frustrated that it was all information and no ideas on how to work on improving. Toward the end of the book there was a section that I thought would start giving ideas for exercises, but nothing really substantial. Really pretty disappointing in this respect.
My suggestion is that you buy the physical book that does have exercises at the end of each chapter.
I am not a self-help kind of guy. I was given this book by a good friend who had read it, applied the principles and changed his life in a dramatic way. As we became friends, he recognized some of the same habits and actions in my life that he had changed and later, I realized that he shared and dared me because he truly was a friend. I’m not going to say it was easy, but it is truly worth exploring. The rest of your life is worth it.
Terrifyingly accurate and enlightening. I am looking forward to listening again and working through the exercises presented with a group of friends.
For many nice guys, it's difficult to hear the truth, because the truth brings to light some of the things that you want to avoid.
While listening to this book, I was tempted to stop listening because it brought to light so many of the characteristics and traits I've personally held sacred.
The book is a great introduction to to some of the faults of trying to be a "nice guy" but it is by no means a cure all. I believe that if you couple the teachings in this book with the exercises and some other books and methods, you'll truly be able to experience what the book offers.
Well done Dr Glover!
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