Lori Gottlieb's controversial best seller argues that women often approach love with unreasonably long checklists when they should approach it with an open heart. Mia Barron captures Gottlieb's witty and smart tone. Listening to Barron is like gossiping with a friend; it's hard to stop even when you know you should! With funny anecdotes and revealing personal stories, Marry Him: The Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough, may not paint every girl's fairy tale. Still, it imparts a healthy dose of real-world wisdom for listeners ready to be luckier in love. Besides, Gottlieb's humor makes sure this medicine goes down easy.
You have a fulfilling job, a great group of friends, the perfect apartment, and no shortage of dates. So what if you haven’t found The One just yet? Surely he’ll come along, right? But what if he doesn’t? Or even worse, what if he already has, but you just didn’t realize it?
Suddenly finding herself 40 and single, Lori Gottlieb said the unthinkable in her March 2008 article in The Atlantic: Maybe she, and single women everywhere, needed to stop chasing the elusive Prince Charming and instead go for Mr. Good Enough. Looking at her friends’ happy marriages to good enough guys who happen to be excellent husbands and fathers, Gottlieb declared it time to reevaluate what we really need in a partner.
Her ideas created a firestorm of controversy from outlets like the Today show to The Washington Post, which wrote, “Given the perennial shortage of perfect men, Gottlieb’s probably got a point."
By looking at everything from culture to biology, Gottlieb frankly explores the dilemma that so many women today seem to face—how to reconcile the strong desire for a husband and family with a list of must-haves so long and complicated that many great guys get rejected out of the gate.
Here Gottlieb shares her own journey in the quest for romantic fulfillment, and in the process gets wise guidance and surprising insights from marital researchers, matchmakers, dating coaches, behavioral economists, neuropsychologists, sociologists, couples therapists, divorce lawyers, and clergy—as well as single and married men and women, ranging in age from their 20s to their 60s. Marry Him is an eye-opening, often funny, sometimes painful, and always truthful in-depth examination of the modern dating landscape - and ultimately, a provocative wake-up call about getting real about Mr. Right.
©2010 Lori Gottlieb (P)2010 HarperCollins Publishers
"I wish I could round up every single woman I know and assign this book for discussion. Gottlieb helps women see how our cultural or private fantasies build up so many expectations that they destroy the possibility of real love and, eventually, marriage. Marry Him is a big fat lesson in how not to get in your own way. Any woman who wants to find true love and hasn’t been able to should read this book." (Pepper Schwartz, Ph.D., relationship expert at Perfectmatch.com)
I love this book and have bought copies for my friends, sister, and counselor. It's a sobering comment on how women so quickly lose out in the finding Mr. Right sweepstakes and should focus, and probably far more successfully, on finding Mr. Good Enough. Her insights on how to approach online dating are a must for anyone who's thinking about it or getting ready to try again. Young women especially should read this book, but it's an eye opener at any age. I highly recommend it.
I enjoyed this book. My daughter is reading it. I purchased so we could share our thoughts. I have been married for nearly 38 years. I really feel for women at this time because it is tough, for both genders. This author takes the time to go through so many areas. It is very informative. Narration good. Thanks
I liked her overall theme and intention in the book, but found that it was quite repetitive. It did make me look at dating differently.
While he author of this book makes a good case for not being ultra picky or snobby about dating someone who's not "perfect" her advice is only good for you if you have no brain and treat men like dogs. If you are super picky about the guys you date then go ahead and get this book.
Very interesting material and impressive statistic, but it is good for an article, not a book. Was very boring after first 50 minutes. Same thing over and over again.
Narrator did a good job.
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