Out of nowhere, like a fresh breeze in a marketplace crowded with advice on what to believe, comes Byron Katie and what she calls "The Work". In the midst of a normal life, Katie became increasingly depressed, and over a 10-year period sank further into rage, despair, and thoughts of suicide. Then one morning, she woke up in a state of absolute joy, filled with the realization of how her own suffering had ended. The freedom of that realization has never left her, and now, in Loving What Is, you can discover the same freedom through The Work.
The Work is simply four questions that, when applied to a specific problem, enable you to see what is troubling you in an entirely different light. As Katie says, "It's not the problem that causes our suffering; it's our thinking about the problem." Contrary to popular belief, trying to let go of a painful thought never works; instead, once we have done The Work, the thought lets go of us. At that point, we can truly love what is, just as it is.
Loving What Is will show you step-by-step, through clear and vivid examples, exactly how to use this revolutionary process for yourself. You'll see people do The Work with Katie on a broad range of human problems, from a wife ready to leave her husband because he wants more sex, to a Manhattan worker paralyzed by fear of terrorism, to a woman suffering over a death in her family. Many people have discovered The Work's power to solve problems; in addition, they say that through The Work they experience a sense of lasting peace and find the clarity and energy to act, even in situations that had previously seemed impossible.
©2002 Byron Kathleen Mitchell; (P)2002 Audio Literature
"With warm and nicely chosen interventions with audience members, the authors demonstrate the essentials of accepting realities in others we can't change. It's a hard-charging message, at times relentless, that will shake up any listeners whose lives are held up because of nagging blame or anger toward others." (AudioFile)
If you are a truth seeker, this book was written just for you. It is life changing and amazing. She is pure love and truth and your self just knows this. When you listen you are just blown away by her wisdom, that clearly is not her's but all of ours. I loved it.. I wish I could thank her, but I can by thanking our Universe.
As Katie says there are no mistakes and this book is just that - no mistake. It is a ray of warm golden sunshine to a mind full of dark unpleasant thoughts. I can now see a way into that sunshine of the mind and am doing "the work" little by little every day. Thank you so much Katie
Dr Frank Shallenberger recommended this book to me and it has really helped me to see things for what they are instead of making myself miserable because they are not the way I wish. This has become the book I have given away the most to those who matter to me.
I was glad I listened to the book opposed to reading it. I don't think I would have gotten through the book had I read it.
Probably not. This book has some good aspects such as turning things around and asking what is true and what isn't, focusing on what we have control over and looking at things from a different perspective. I do think that listeners have to be careful as it may cause some negative self talk as thinking is shifted from self to others. I think this is a good book for people with a strong sense of self and has some good tools but I think it can be a dangerous book for those with lower self esteem.
My favorite part of this book, which I have discussed with others is paying attention to what is our business, others business and God's business. It is always helpful to remind ourselves which business we are trying to control.
In my job, I have asked people who come to me if what they are feeling is true and how do they know it is true.
There are some really good pieces to this book, but overall I wasn't comfortable with my perception of the messaging. One of my gauges with things is "does this make me feel good" and the exercises did not feel good to me. Not because I didn't want to face the truth but because they took me back to a place that I have worked hard to move out of.
This wasn't a fit for me and I would only recommend it if I felt it was a fit for another person.
It did inspire me to look at things differently. I have done a lot of self work and have to be careful not to "blame" myself for things or take ownership of other people's behavior. I felt this book was pushing me back into that place that I have worked so hard to move beyond so I had to read it with caution and pull out what I thought was beneficial. What she is discussing in this book has some wonderful thought provoking value and people who lack self awareness or accountability would benefit from reading this book.
Any book that inspires and gives the reader tools to be a better person is a great book. These self help books all depend on the frame of mind of the reader. If taking accountability or not understanding other people in your life or their actions, then this book may be helpful.
As far as self help books, this was one of the top books.
I like how concise some of the key points were, and I can recall them in my daily life.
I also laughed at some of the dialog, because she does a good job of finding the humor in how our minds work and how ridiculous our personal expectations can be. There were a few points made that I did not relate to, but that is ok. I think you could do a second read, and sort through some of approaches in more depth.
This audiobook is even better than the actual book. It includes actual live conversations between Katie and participants in her workshops doing "the work". Some of the stories and experiences people have gone through are so disturbing they will leave you shocked - be prepared! But it's worth it. It powerfully demonstrates the power of Katie's process. It they can use this to work through those experiences and achieve peace - there's no question it can impact most of our typical day to day anxieties.
I also enjoyed getting to know Katie through listening to her interact with people. What a beautiful, joyful, innocent, lovely human being. Do not miss this book. Buy it even if you have read the book. It will leave you transformed!
A down to earth real way to address our "demons", who really are inreality ourselves is disguise. A Wonderful book of self discovery and freedom ... It really is all about us afterall.
I really liked this author's common sense approach to making the concept of non resistance real. For me it really drove home the link it has to our happiness with ourselves and our relationships.
This is listening at its best. Hearing the voices of those that Katy is guiding through the questions change from immense pain and sadness to laughter and playfullness was so powerful that I have listened to this over and over during the past few weeks. Their stories and the work they did were deeply touching and helped me to get through some issues that had been very difficult for me. Thank you Katie and Audible!
This book is especially good if you do it! katie lays it all out, and the actual interviews of 5 people are on the tape (it's abridged I just noticed, which explains why you don't hear about the NYC woman or the terrorist fears). I've started my second listen. I've developed new understanding and feelings about my 9th grader wanting to play video games all the time! "the work" or "inquiry" as she calls it rates 10 stars, I only gave four because I agree with the difficulty navigating the download, but it's easy with an ipod.
"What a revelation"
Fascinating book. It has made me realise that I often project my own feelings into other peoples behaviour. What an eyeopener. I will be definitely be using this concept in my life from now on.
"Eye opening stuff."
If you are ready to face yourself, warts and all this is the book for you.
Wonderful. All the books I have read on spirituality and or maturity this is the simplest and best. Thanks for writing the book.
"Great awakemomg call"
Forget about gurus, self-help messiahs and prophets of the new order. This is a very simple approach to facing our lives and ask tough questions about our deepest fears and worries. The audiobook is very crude, at times even shocking, made more dramatic by the real-life extracts included. But this makes it more valuable.
It's not about being right or wrong, it's about stopping our poisonous thoughts and dare to ask very simple questions. Thoroughly recommended.
"Amazing and life changing"
Relevant, uplifting, necessary
The real life examples, the interviews she has with people and the selection of people chosen cut across different generations, roles and problems I'm life so that many people are likely to identify themselves with the people and problems discussed in the book.
The discussion with the mother suffering from depression with a crying baby
Yes, but also to read it several times over!!
This book is almost like the perfect reference book or life manual!!
"This will open your eyes! A must read."
Yes. The dialogues couldn't be replicated in the print version.
It is a simple view on how to radically alter the way you approach life.
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