The best-selling author of Hold Me Tight presents a revolutionary new understanding of why and how we love, based on cutting-edge research.
Every day, we hear of relationships failing and questions of whether humans are meant to be monogamous. Love Sense presents new scientific evidence that tells us that humans are meant to mate for life. Dr. Johnson explains that romantic love is an attachment bond, just like that between mother and child, and shows us how to develop our "love sense" - our ability to develop long-lasting relationships.
Love Sense covers the three stages of a relationship and how to best weather them; the intelligence of emotions and the logic of love; the physical and psychological benefits of secure love; and much more. Based on groundbreaking research, Love Sense will change the way we think about love.
©2013 Sue Johnson (P)2013 Hachette Audio
Among the best and the best on relationships.
Loved it all.
Great accent. Didn't realize it was the author reading until the end. Loved it!
How to apply this to my relationship.
If you want immediate help in a distressed relationship, listen to Hold Me Tight first. If you want a bigger picture and a deeper understanding of why Hold Me Tight works, start here. Sue Johnson weaves decades of established psychological theory and research together with recent discoveries in neuroscience and her own research with couples. The author has a charming accent and I didn't realize she was reading until the end. Highly recommend.
I highly recommend Hold Me Tightly
This book did not speak to me the way Dr. Johnson's book "Hold Me TIght" did. Frankly, I have been told this was her attempt to write a book for the general public. I think there were a couple points she attempted to making, including
1. There is evidence in support of long-term monogamous relationships; this is cited by sharing studies on the importance of oxytocin (hormone) secreted in love relationships as a protective measure in long-term relationships. Lot's of evidence based on "vols" (ground squirrel-like creatures) is cited.
2. A commentary on the present state of social media driven relationships and pornography use as being problematic in general and specifically a challenge for the upcoming generations who are steeped in this culture. There is a separation of sexuality and emotional life, which is concerning.
3. A current trend towards sexual curiosity and exploration while in monogamous relationships. Dr. Johnson is concerned that people are not clear how this exploration may negatively impact relationships.
There's probably a bit more in there too, but I've been a bit dissapointed. I think it just wasn't the kind of book I expected. I think I'll just go back to reading her more clinical/self help books. I wasn't truly in the frame of mind to grapple with the present socio-cultural concerns of sexuality. Even though I could reflect on how they impact my life, I think her concepts of negative patterns and "demon dialogues" and building a secure attachment (from her previous work), is most important to me and what I'll return to.
This book goes on and on about the importance of securely attached relationships, but it doesn't tell us HOW to become more securely attached. then what's the point about reading how important it is if there are no specific examples of how to get there. Did I miss an important chapter or two or three? if it's so important to have these attachments, then why not spend 5% of the book explaining why it's imlortant, and the other 95% providing examples of HOW to become more secure??
Yes, yes, HELL YEA... very informative and well researched. This book might have saved my relationship which was falling and loosing its passion. No more.
Great book - fascinating studies on bonding and attachment. I have recommended this book to others & read Hold Me Tight. Sue Johnson does a great job explaining why relationships can be so maddening!
I loved how Sue Johnson herself narrated and brought her experiences and insights by many examples with couples and their struggles that resonated so clearly with my wife and myself. very helpful for us to start a dialog about very sensitive struggles in out relationship of 25 years of marriage.
My husband and listened to this audio and it was a game changer. After 32 years of marriage nothing had changed until now. Thank you dr, Sue Johnson
Johnson extends on John Gottman's notion of successful human relationships by focusing on attachment styles. Johnson offers a useful and often overlooked thesis on human bonding, coupling, and cooperation. By focusing her framework through three lenses: secure, anxious and detached attachment styles, the reader is given many examples that seem personal and livable to help recognize problem points in their own lives. Johnson gives an introduction to her "hold me tight" conversations and their healing effects on crippled relationships. An overall helpful read that was unfortunately done better in nearly any of Gottman's efforts.
The reader will benefit from Johnson's insights.
I am an MFT and I very often suggest this book to clients who are highly distressed. There are many stories that clients can relate to that allow them to see into the deep emotional undercurrents in their relationships.
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