Worried about mean girls? Help your daughter respond and react to bullying where it starts - in elementary school....
©2010 Michelle Anthony and Reyna Lindert (P)2011 Tantor
"Little Girls Can Be Mean offers useful strategies and tools to help parents empower their daughters from the earliest ages." (Rachel Simmons, best-selling author of Odd Girl Out)
I would say it was time well spent, though I wouldn't necessarily say I enjoyed the book. It did provide useful information that helped my understanding of the developmental levels of girls and their particular methods of interacting. I was a girl many years ago of course, and it was interesting to see how many of the experiences you remember from childhood are actually generic - things that all girls come to experience over time, as opposed to the very personal experiences they seemed to be. I like the way they use situations that can be generalized (ie a situation of being different in the example the girl is Japanese American, but it is the "differentness" that can be changed and the principles reused) and then give specific examples of how you would use their 4 step plan. Admittedly the four steps seem pretty simplistic and at first I thought the book might be useless. But it really wasn't. It is through the examples they share that you see ways you could do something similar. It had a lot of sections that could inspire discussion with your daughter and some activities you can try as you (1) observe, (2) connect, (3) guide and (4) support to act. There is one scenario that we look at from one girl's point of view that is later revisited from the other girl in the story's point of view. This was particularly good in helping to see how the information that you may get from your child is colored by their world view. I discussed parts of the book with my 8 year old daughter. It helped me think of the right questions to ask her to learn valuable things about her friendships. You have to be starting with the right info to be guiding your daughter in the right direction. I started the book because I was thinking my daughter might be in a friendship with a mean girl, what they call a "yo-yo friendship". I realized what I had heard could just as easily be interpreted as my daughter being aggressive rather than assertive in her interactions. Now I really know what I want to look closer at. It also helped me to evaluate my level of connectedness with my daughter which is much better than I had assumed. I definitely learned things from this book. It felt longer to me than it actually was, but that is just because I'd rather be reading a mystery than be working on improving a skill, in this case, parenting my daughter. That's hard work.
I really loved this audiobook. It was very informative, great narration, and I learned a lot. I felt like it had great advice for parents and felt like it addressed every situation that my daughter has been faced with in her social life. I like to mark up books for things I want to save for later. So with that I think the print version would have been better so I could go back reread parts and use some of the tips and activities for girls that it suggested. But I know that with my busy schedule I would have never completed the book. So I am glad that I did get the audiobook so I could actually finish it, because I felt like there was a lot of really helpful info that I'm glad I didn't miss.
Informative and enlightening. Good examples, very helpful ideas for raising a daughter, especially these days when it seems that bullying, especially cyber-bullying, are on the rise. I am using their ideas with my youngest with success. I only wish I had had this book to read with my oldest daughter. The narrator's reading is fine, with nice modulation and intonation that seem to match the tone of the author.
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