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It's Not My Fault

By: Henry Cloud, John Townsend
Narrated by: Henry Cloud, John Townsend
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What seems like just a common, no-harm-done excuse - "It's not my fault!" - is often a dangerous trap, say Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend, because people don't recognize what the blaming mindset does to them. It not only keeps them from overcoming the effects of all that they can't control-like other people, circumstances and genetics-but separates them from a solution. And when they give away the ownership of their life, they end up losing the one opportunity they have to fulfill their dreams and enjoy God's best.

Using eight principles, a variety of true stories and their years of experience as professional psychologists, Cloud and Townsend enlighten readers on how to make empowering choices-and how to build the life they want to live. It may seem impossible but it's true: taking personal responsibility is not only liberating, it is the best-and perhaps the only-way for a person to get what they really want out of life.

©2007 Henry Cloud & John Townsend (P)2008 Oasis Audio

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Not what I expected

The examples weren't varying enough to include a big audience and the topic seemed to transgress. I thought this was more about the victim mentality but almost seemed like the authors reaction to their clients that play victim namely for their weight and for their unwanted relationship status. As an audiobook it's hard to follow because the authors jump around quickly back into examples. If the book were a fruit it would be an orange, lots of juicy examples/fillers but not a lot of fleshy bits to back it all up. The most valuable points I took away from the book: writing down what you're grateful for each day can help you be less of a complainer and a big ah-ha moment, when we focus on ideals and what we think should've happened we're really denying the reality where we can actually solve the problem.

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Healing journey for anyone

God's Word is the Truth and Divinely inspired. The truth of Gods Word and his vision for your life is explained in this book.

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Way to look at what responsibility is.

I read and listened to the book. very insightful. you only own your will. that is what you can control. nothing else.

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Excellent practical and encouraging

The principles presented can be applied to any individual. This is the type book you could listen to several times.

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Enjoyable listen

Would you recommend this audiobook to a friend? If so, why?

This is a practical book about taking ownership for your life, your circumstances and identifying excuses and obstacles you might be creating to keep yourself stuck. The book offers valuable insight and good solutions for identifying failures and limiting beliefs and turning them into valuable experience you can use to learn from and apply towards a better future. I really enjoyed this book. I listened to it on audible, but will probably purchase the kindle edition as well to make highlights for future reference.

What was one of the most memorable moments of It's Not My Fault?

I like the examples of excuses they offered. It gave practical insight that is often overlooked or by passed.

What about John Townsend and Henry Cloud ’s performance did you like?

I like the sound of his voice. Clear and authentic.

Was there a moment in the book that particularly moved you?

I like the last chapter summary.

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I really appreciate that they put so much good information in the book and that it is practical, down to earth and non-judgmental. They offer real insight and hope to those wishing to improve their lives and relationships and it's all doable.

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Wish I listen to this book earlier!

I don't like to listen to book twice, this one I will! This book will set you free! Moving forward and taking rise in life is so important!

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Insightful Practical and Timeless Wisdom!

Love how these authors bring scripture to life by showing its timeless applicability to life. I'm excited to adopt the principles laid out in this book and see taking ownership of life as empowering!

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Big help. Great help with focus...

Teaches us how to stay focused on what we can control and how to be proactive in advancing our lives to the next level.

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Eclectic !

I love every part of this book ,the authors have used practical examples ,psychology and rooted everything on the word of God

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Henry is a champ.

5 or 6's book, that I read by this author, and still great content. This one have a lot about free yourself from guilt, except pain, that neccesary for change, and go and destroy, the thing that you want. Deffence ( no guilt, no false expectation, reject everything that not realted to goal) + offence ( attack your goal) is ridiculously good strategy to chieve whatever you want.

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