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It Wasn't Your Fault Audiobook

It Wasn't Your Fault: Freeing Yourself From the Shame of Childhood Abuse with the Power of Self-Compassion

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Publisher's Summary

Shame is one of the most destructive of human emotions. If you suffered childhood physical or sexual abuse, you may experience such intense feelings of shame that it almost seems to define you as a person. In order to begin healing, it's important for you to know that it wasn't your fault.

In this gentle guide, therapist and childhood abuse expert Beverly Engel presents a mindfulness and compassion-based therapeutic approach to help you overcome the debilitating shame that keeps you tied to the past. By following the step-by-step exercises in this audiobook, you'll gain a greater understanding of the root cause of your shame. And by cultivating compassion toward yourself, you will begin to heal and move past your painful experiences.

Recent studies show that trauma survivors, particularly those with post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) resulting from abuse, can greatly benefit from incorporating elements of self-compassion into their treatment. Furthermore, the practice of self-compassion has been shown to decrease PTSD symptoms, including, self-criticism, thought suppression, and rumination.

This audiobook is based on the author's powerful and effective Compassion Cure program. With this audiobook, you will develop the skills needed to finally put a stop to the crippling self-blame that keeps you from moving on and being happy. You'll learn to focus on your strengths, your courage, and your extraordinary ability to survive. Most of all, you'll learn to replace shame with its counter emotion - pride.

©2015 Beverly Engel (P)2014 Brilliance Audio, all rights reserved.

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    kimberly BROOKLYN, NY, United States 08-26-15
    kimberly BROOKLYN, NY, United States 08-26-15
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    "Would probably be better to read the book."

    This seems to contain valuable information. Unfortunately I am very put off by the narrator who seems to care more about sounding good than about sounding reassuring while discussing this delicate topic. She reads in a very dramatic tone that may be better suited for Shakespeare or some old triumphant battle poetry. It actually didn't even feel like she gave any thought to what she was reading but just read in a generic tone that tends to sound good. In fact, I listened to the sample beforehand and I did think she sounded good. But several chapters in, I felt like I was being talked down to. Obviously, this undid any positive effect of the words themselves. A more conversational tone would have been more appropriate in my opinion.

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    Amazon Customer 07-18-15 Member Since 2016
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    "Good information"

    If you lived through parental abuse or rejection or know someone who has, this book has allot of answers to the perplexing problems this type of situation can cause. It is also a good resource if you have had the backlash of someone who has lived through it and it now effects you.

    4 of 4 people found this review helpful
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    Jeanette 05-05-15
    Jeanette 05-05-15
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    "Life Changing "

    I Absolutely loved it, and highly recommend this book to anyone who is on the road to recovery from childhood abuse.

    4 of 4 people found this review helpful
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    Rose Oakland, Ca 02-22-16
    Rose Oakland, Ca 02-22-16 Member Since 2015

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    "I am so grateful for this book. "


    This book told the story my life. I feel it has given me my truth that is setting me free to live a more compassionate existence so I can give and receive love. Thank you

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    kristin 09-17-15
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    "Will relisten to this one regularly"
    If you could sum up It Wasn't Your Fault in three words, what would they be?

    Hopeful, compassionate, understanding


    What was one of the most memorable moments of It Wasn't Your Fault?

    Just, whenever you can relate to it, the way she just almost seems to be like this is you isnt it, you do this, dont you? But you know, its okay, here is why and here's what we do next. Look at from this angle and this point of view.


    What about Kate Rudd’s performance did you like?

    Perfect, she was gentle and sweet. Made the books compassion come out. It was great


    What’s an idea from the book that you will remember?

    All of it, I have to go through it again though, it's a lot to take in even though I listened to it for more than a week. I found myself having to take breaks and listen to other things. Because she hits so close to home and is so soft and gentle about it, I found myself emotionally raw a few times. Just had to take this one slow. I will listen many times to this one. For the help its given and her words, she herself being a survivor, really hit deep.


    Any additional comments?

    If you have any abuse in your life, this is a great book to read to find a deeper understanding and more love for yourself.

    3 of 3 people found this review helpful
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    Rick I. 04-16-16
    Rick I. 04-16-16 Member Since 2015
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    "Excellent book!"

    I found this book be very insightful and useful. I highly recommend it to everyone who suffered from or is suffering from abuse.

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    "Excellent"

    If you need guidance understanding and help in the right direction then Beverly is the one. Thankyou very much indeed

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  • kate
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    The information and exercises are good and helpful I think but the reader was a bit clunky and irritating. Wish I'd read it instead

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