Become a master communicator and succeed in life, love, and business
What is that magic quality that makes some people instantly loved and respected? Everyone wants to be their friend (or, if single, their lover!) In business, they rise swiftly to the top of the corporate ladder. What is their "Midas touch?"
What it boils down to is a more skillful way of dealing with people.
The author has spent her career teaching people how to communicate for success. In her book How to Talk to Anyone, Lowndes offers 92 easy and effective sure-fire success techniques - she takes the listener from first meeting all the way up to sophisticated techniques used by the big winners in life. In this information-packed audiobook you'll find:
In her trademark entertaining and straight-shooting style, Leil gives the techniques catchy names so you'll remember them when you really need them, including: "Rubberneck the Room," "Be a Copyclass," "Come Hither Hands," "Bare Their Hot Button," "The Great Scorecard in the Sky," and "Play the Tombstone Game," for big success in your social life, romance, and business.
How to Talk to Anyone, which is an update of her popular book, Talking the Winner's Way is based on solid research about techniques that work!
©2003 Leil Lowndes. (P)2015 Brilliance Audio, all rights reserved.
Some say the reading is smarmy and annoying. I can see why they say that about the author who reads only the introduction.
Some say the names for techniques are goofy and patronizing. I say they are good memory aids. They are goofy and inspire visual images, which are easier to remember.
Some say the author sounds too self-congratulatory about her many important friends and her uniquely superior save-the-day wisdom. I was just a bit annoyed by this. But I appreciate personal stories as examples. Stories are easier to remember. It's part of her job as a writer to sell you on the usefulness of the suggestions. Besides, I don't care if she is a bit self-important. That doesn't change my evaluation of the usefulness of the suggestions.
Some say the techniques are manipulative. I don't think so. In fact some of her tips specifically discussed the line between manipulation and sincerity and warns that unless you are completely sincere it will backfire. I think tips are good manners, and good manners are about being aware of how you affect other people. It's about being considerate.
Some say that her examples were dated and out of touch. Well, I may be out of touch myself, but didn't think so. The only dated examples that stood out to me were her suggestion of calling the chamber of commerce and using the world wide web. (hahaha) That hardly invalidates all the interpersonal awareness taught in the book.
I found the suggestions extremely helpful. Some I realized I already do but was really glad for the reminder. Others, I had no idea and I wish someone had told me!
Sorry, but I have a hard time taking the author seriously when she refers to martial artists having to register their hands as lethal weapons (urban legend), bats having superior eyes that can see in the dark better than we can (they don't, they are just using their ears to navigate with sonar), lovers referring to each other as "my turtledove" (what is this... the 40's???), advising her listeners to answer the phone with a polite but flat voice then wait until they hear who it is on the line before gushing with pretend happiness (who doesn't have Call ID these days?), or making sexist comments about how women don't understand football analogies but can talk about childbirth all day. When she talked about a customer calling her to complain that "one of her tapes had broken", I checked the publication date of the book thinking it would be from the 80's but to my surprise the publication date is actually 2015 with a copyright date of 2003. If that's true and she's still referring to things that have been outdated for decades, I don't know how much of her advice I really want to trust.
The author may be a legit communications expert, but she lost a lot of credibility with me due to her narrow-mindedness, overgeneralization, and outdated references. The two nicest things I can say about this book is that it's short enough to be tolerable... and I got it on sale. Don't spend your credit on this one.
The speaker and author come across as very dated. Multiple examples from the early 1900's and references to Woody Allen movies. It came across as very odd. The author suggests calling your cities chamber of commerce or "searching the world wide web". Really? Let's start with googling what we need to know. Very few references to technology and ways of connecting that people use today. If this book had been published in the 1960's I would have considered it to be very current.
I have heard this narrator do other books and enjoyed it more.
I gave it 3 stars, because the truth is that there are a few gems in here. I'm already walking straighter into a room thanks to the advice on how to carry yourself and I find myself using the tips for keeping a conversation going. It's a bit sad, because there is good information sandwiched in between weird dated examples. Then again, when I come away from a book with a few things that I actually implement, as I have done here, I consider it a success.
Some of the tricks are basic and good to keep in mind to practice regularly, like making eye contact (not staring at your computer while you're speaking to colleague) and trying new activities once a month so you'll be exposed to the experience and know the lingo (hence be able to talk about the activity like an insider). A few tricks were surprising, like be slow to smile. When you're introduced to a person, take in the situation and then smile - you're giving the impression that you're pleased to meet the person; you're viewed as more authentic. If, on the other hand, you quickly smile when you're introduced to a new person, the recipient doesn't feel special. Your smile is viewed as an automatic response, not an expression of the emotion of being pleased. I expect I'll be practicing a handful of the tricks. After mastering those techniques, I'll refer back to the book to select another set tricks to practice.
This one seemed interesting, but it's just hard to listen to and not really impressive in terms of giving new ideas. The reader is awkward in a way I can't quite put my finger on which may be most of the problem.
some lessons obvious, some a bit more ninja, especially sales techniques. these lessons are applicable for every day use, not just for business. it combines business and personal behaviours magnificently. great read!
Nope. Some of her tips are excellent, but her writing inspired many eye rolls. Leil sounds like a snooty aunt who enjoys hinting just how better she is than anyone else. She says in 600 words what could easily be said in six. Her attempts to be (I assume) casual, friendly and funny in her writing comes off as corny and out of touch. Painful to listen to.
Is there a shorted version of the tips? I would recommend that.
This book will be completely relatable to both men and women. It is not by a woman for women.
The narration is clear, pleasant and has a good pace.
I liked the "big cats/ little cats" theme. The author explains not only how each behaves, but explains why one approach is better and how to deploy the big cat strategy.
Each topic concluded with the perfect blend of concept, imagery, examples and action items.
I couldn't help but think, "Oh, that's why!", "Whoops!" or "Now I know how to..." as I listened.
Ph.D. Candidate in Applied and Agricultural Economics at Oklahoma State University.
I've got to be honest- I couldn't finish the listen. The writing style is painfully cliche, the advice is anecdotal at best, and the whole thing reads like the author is pandering to herself. Save your money- or better yet, read Dale Carnegie's classic instead.
some tips are ridiculously funny and cheesy but many are very good and you can put your own twist on them. I would still recommend.
"Brilliant advice for all situations"
Just about to listen again to cement these pearls of wisdom solidly in my brain. These life-changing words will help anyone in any situation to make the most of their communication. An absolute must read.
All of the advice was good.
A lot of the examples might be more appropriate for an American audience.
Worth listening to and enjoyable though.
I'm not sure if I learned a lot.
Very good performance and great stories to illustrate the 92 tips. The ending is particularly powerful!
"Good book but annoying narration"
I liked the book and the content is informative and interesting but the narration after a while began to irritate me.
"Usefull and easy to listen"
very easy to listen to and many useful tips and examples. does go too deep into examples but gives concrete enough tips to execute in your daily life.
"5 Star Read!"
A bit of a long read but thoroughly worthwhile. Loads of learning for everyone !
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