Written in Faber and Mazlish's trademark accessible style, How to Talk So Teens Will Listen and Listen So Teens Will Talk takes you inside their acclaimed workshops where you will hear, in the words of both parents and teens, what's on the minds of families today. Packed with suggestions that are easy to implement, and reinforced with stories, this indispensable volume will help build a foundation for a healthy relationship that puts the emphasis on rapport rather than reprisals. From age-old concerns about cliques and dating to contemporary worries about binge drinking and cyberbullying, Faber and Mazlish help parents tackle problems before they get out of hand. In their warm, lucid, unpatronizing manner, the authors show families how to be supportive and stay connected during the challenging teenage years.
©2005 Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish; (P)2005 HarperCollins Publishers
It will make you feel like it is possible to interact with your teen in a more positive way.
I will finish this book, and I am sure I will even listen more than once so that I can apply some worthy ideas and techniques. But the reviews that say the authors were 'trying to act' and that they felt they were being 'talked down to,' those reviews were spot on. The narration is a turn off, unfortunately. Overblown phrasing when a nice simple reading would have conveyed the information so much better, and I don't hate accents but their accents are annoying. I'll listen in spurts!
This was a fabulous book, chocked full of very specific details and directions on how to do what she is telling you to do. A lot of what she had to say I had already learned form other material that I have, but I will say even though I already had heard most of what she had to teach in this book (all wonderful, incredible, fabulous things by the way) she did give me many a light bulb moment and helped me to see where I could and should be using these skills more! This should be a 5 star book for any one else in need of a little parenting advice or help as long as you can ignore the voice! LOL
Raising teenagers is a huge challenge in every way, but particularly with respect to communication. This invaluable book gives excellent pratical suggestions on how to communicate with your teen in all of the critical areas. Based on decades of experience, the two authors share their useful techniques and ideas. It is a resource I listen to over and over.
Good techniques, but examples were "rigged". The author(s) would run through two examples one before the techniques were applied and one after.
In the examples without techniques, the teenagers were belligerent, defiant, and smart asses. In the examples with the techniques there was some of the same teenage activity, but they quickly complied, which I just found hard to believe.
Although the examples seem poor, the techniques do have use and can improve things. I suspect that there are things out there that are better, but until I find it, these are not that bad. I'd say C+ or 3/5.
Also, author(s) were very slow to talk. I started trying to listen at 1.25.
I would make it more informational and not a story. I would also have it read by someone other than the authors.
I did not need a story to learn the concepts.
The authors were trying to act and it was so unbelievable it turned me off.
I have listened to Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish again and again. Each chapter needs to be practiced and re-inforced so that the skills become 2nd nature, so I find myself repeating and reviewing chapters periodically.
When my children were younger, I attended a video "workshop" on their book "How to talk so kids will listen and listen so kids will talk." The principles in this book focussed on adolescents are the same, but the examples that they use are relevant to teens and teen-parenting. They are so relevant that I felt like they were talking directly to me. Did they have a surveillance camera in my house, so that they could hear exactly what happened between my teens and me?
Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish narrate their own book. Their narration is genuine and sincere, almost like my grandmother giving me parenting advice.
The authors are narrating and their voices are so monotone and boring that I couldn't listen. Maybe the printed book would be better for this one.
I thought I hated the format of the book, with the "story" of the meetings and the people...I thought it was really cheesy. However, I must say I felt there was great info in the book, and I am going to listen to it a second time to really get all the concepts that I can then put into action. I do feel the info learned here is valid and will be helpful. In addition I read "if I have to tell you one more time" and it melds nice with this book. Same type of principles, but with more action plan specifics. I think the two together will really benefit my parenting.
If there's one thing I'm taking from this book, it's the fact that teens desire need to be talked to and treated like their opinions matter (even when we feel they don't). Once they feel this need has been met, the barrier to communication will break. I loved the examples given in the book - Quite representative of the modern day setting. I gave the performance 3 stars, though - I wish someone else did the narration, make it more lively.
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