The ultimate “parenting bible” (The Boston Globe) with a new Foreword—a timeless, beloved book on how to effectively communicate with your child from the number-one New York Times best-selling authors.
Internationally acclaimed experts on communication between parents and children, Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish “are doing for parenting today what Dr. Spock did for our generation” (Parent Magazine). Now, this best-selling classic includes fresh insights and suggestions as well as the author’s time-tested methods to solve common problems and build foundations for lasting relationships, including innovative ways to:
Enthusiastically praised by parents and professionals around the world, the down-to-earth, respectful approach of Faber and Mazlish makes relationships with children of all ages less stressful and more rewarding.
©2012 Adele Faber, Elaine Mazlish (P)2012 Simon & Schuster
"Will bring about more cooperation from children than all the yelling and pleading in the world." (Christian Science Monitor)
"An excellent book that’s applicable to any relationship." (Washington Post)
"Practical, sensible, lucid… the approaches Faber and Mazlish lay out are so logical you wonder why you read them with such a burst of discovery." (Family Journal)
This is a very special (audio) book. It has transformed my relationship with my son and influenced how I listen and communicate in my professional life.
This book gets overwhelmingly positive reviews and I am writing this review to help other parents find this wonderful book.
My wife and I were very proud of our positive parenting. We had received many positive compliments from friends and strangers regarding our positive parenting. Unfortunately, when we hit a rash of poor behaviour when our son began attending school, we began to question ourselves and our parenting techniques. This uncertainty lead to a downward spiral of 'old school' discipline based parenting, turning every disagreement into a battle that had to be won. Instead of helping my son's discipline, it worsened. Each time it worsened, we decided we needed more discipline. The cycle continued until I found this book.
This book was similar to how we had initially decided to parent our son, but the devil is in the details and the notion that every interaction with my son could be an opportunity for him to communicate HIS thoughts and develop HIS decision making skills and confidence was a subtle yet extremely powerful shift in thinking. Its not only about me showing love and positivity to my son, its about ensuring he feels confident and positive about himself. Yes, there is a difference.
I have developed much more patience and understanding, as a result of this audiobook. There is no question that the daily interactions with my son take much longer, especially initially, though I have come to realize that this extra time is really important and essential to being a good parent. Like most things in life, long term effective solutions are always more time consuming and complex than short term quick fixes.
That being said, my son has now developed very effective problem solving and communication skills. These skills have have allowed us to spend our time and attention learning and sharing thoughts on how to solve problems; instead of locking wills and trying to defeat one another in a battle of wills.
After adopting the techniques in this book, I can honestly say that I have experienced a very special transformation in the relationship I have with my son. I am in awe of his creative problem solving skills, he surprises me daily, and we have developed an even deeper bond of love and support.
I recall thinking, as I listened to the audiobook, that a number of the examples seemed very hokey and the descriptions of how children would react to simple questions as a little too perfect. Yet once putting the techniques into practice, I found myself often reaching for paper to write down the incredible responses my son would have to the simple questions.
There is an example in the book, where it advises parents to consider the power of saying 'you must be proud of yourself', rather than 'I am proud of you'. I have seen a number of negative or mediocre reviews that cite this as a criticism. While I still mix in the odd 'I am proud of you' I will never forget the look of contemplation, nod of agreement and then smile of satisfaction my son's face when I first said 'you must be proud of yourself'. I could tell that he had not really thought of his good behaviour in terms of what it meant to him. Its now something he has developed strongly within himself.
He now thinks of himself as brave, loyal and kind. He sees every day as an opportunity to learn new things and solve his own problems.I don't expect that my son will always do what I want but I can count on him to confidently tell me why he acted a certain way and listen.
Totally LOVE this book. I have read a lot of parenting books but this one seems to treat children as unique individuals with unique personalities who require unique care and upbringing. It emphasizes respect and autonomy for the child rather than punishment and rewards.
The trouble is that there are things in the book to ponder and consider and even role play. It is tough with an audio book. it was tough to give serious consideration on the fly with the next paragraph being read. Also, I found myself wanting to take a few notes to help me remember a few lessons that would help with my own children and unable to do so as I was commuting to work in the car.
I highly recommend this book and even though it is read very well I would suggest a paper copy rather than the audio version.
showing respect for children
her tone of voice exemplified a 'normal' mother's voice showing happiness at times and exhaustion and frustration at times.
treat my children better
I plan on buying the paper version so that I can refer to it often!
This book has completely opened my eyes to what my wife and I have been doing wrong with our 3 children, and gives wonderful, real life examples of how to handle specific situations.
This book provides practical how-to skills to use in handling challenging issues with children. In fact, many of the skills are quite useful in all relationships. I was able to immediately apply much of what I learned.
If you have children or work with children, don't hesitate to give this a listen. It really can be life-changing for you and the children in your life. The skills require practice and adaptation for each unique relationship, but they can make a radical difference in our relationships with children.
Yes, it was easy to listen to and easy to apply to my current situation
The clear concepts
Susan Bennett has a very soothing and accurate voice. I purchased another book, just because she was narrating it.
Unlike other parenting books, these techniques could be applied instantly to everyday situations. This is a recommended reading or listening material for any parent who wants a closer relationship with their child.
The book provided some excellent techniques for appreciating the perspective of a child and respecting them.
While definitely useful, it seemed as though the suggestions were overly redundant and could have been delivered in a more efficient, less repetitive manner.
Every parent should read this book. Parenting is the hardest job I've ever had and Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish provide some extraordinarily helpful insights and approaches that actually work.
I have had less success applying the concepts in this book to my strong-willed daughter than to my easy-going son. This may be my fault, of course, as I may not be applying the concepts properly. Time to re-read and see.
I could benefit from notes accompanying the book. I don't think I will purchase the book, but given a choice, I would go with the book so that I could refer to it easily.
Talk of punishment, how it works and doesn't work.
Non-fiction fan! Bring on the self-improvement, business, sales & marketing books!
Helpful, helpful, helpful!
This book is full of very positive ways to act and respond to children in ways that allow them to work through things, not just lash out. I felt like I was listening for a bit and gaining some insight, then using the information at home. I started writing notes to the kids and it was stellar - even for a younger brother who can't read! Great book and performance! I really didn't want this book to end!
Make it this one! I have four kiddos ages 5 to 14 and I have read many parenting books over the years. The ideas contained in this book are so very important. I have seen it work wonders in my family. :)
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