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How to Improve Your Marriage Without Talking About It

By: Patricia Love, Steven Stosny
Narrated by: Laural Merlington
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Men are right.

Drs. Patricia Love and Steven Stosny have studied the all-too-familiar dynamic between men and women and have reached a truly shocking conclusion. Even with the best of intentions, talking about your relationship doesn’t bring you together, and it will eventually drive you apart.

The reason for this is that underneath most couples’ fights, there is a biological difference at work. A woman’s vulnerability to fear and anxiety makes her draw closer, while a man’s subtle sensitivity to shame makes him pull away in response. This is why so many married couples fall into the archetypal roles of nagging wife/stonewalling husband, and why improving a marriage can’t happen through words.

How to Improve Your Marriage Without Talking About It teaches couples how to get closer in ways that don’t require "trying to turn a man into a woman". Rich in stories of couples who have turned their marriages around, and full of practical advice about the behaviors that make and break marriages, this essential guide will help couples find love beyond words.

©2007 Patricia Love and Steven Stosny (P)2011 Tantor

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"Inspirational... a practical guide for men and women to overcome their challenges and come together outside and inside the bedroom." (John Gray, Ph.D., author of Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus)

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Everyone Should Read This Book

Would you listen to How to Improve Your Marriage Without Talking About It again? Why?

I have listened to this book many times to understand the details. Read this book if you want to understand why you don't get along with your spouse, child, or parents. Everyone needs this information. It should be taught in school.

It has improved my relationship with my wife - Without talking about it.

I whole heartily recommend this book!

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Life changer!!

Words can't express how grateful I am for this book! It changed my marriage in a matter of DAYS! I have shared this book with all of my friends and will continue to do so! SO many revelations. I've gained so much understanding!! Be ready to have brain explosions constantly when you finally understand your partners behavior. I can't even count how many times I was like "oooohhhhhh!" MUST READ!

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Good information

can't seem to find the worksheets associated with the book. Narrator references them more than once.

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Excellent advice for ALL relationships

The advice in this book is relevant for ALL relationships, not just marriage. It is beneficial for relationships with children, family members, work colleagues, and spouses equally. It’s just plain old good advice about dealing with people in a compassionate and rational way that is also backed by scientific research. You probably won’t agree with 100% of the advice, but what you will take away might surprise you as it improves your relationships on a deeper level than psychoanalyzing.

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Highly Recommened

This book has really opened my eyes in looking for ways to improve my marriage and get a deeper connection with my mate. Things change and sometimes you have to think currently. I would recommend this book to any age group at any stage of your relationship but especially to newly weds. The key to relationship building is in this book and it has the right level of understanding your partner at any stage of your relationship

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a very informative book. sound and credible advice. anxious to explore ideas further. good read.

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Great listen !

i found it worthwhile and applicable to make forward progress. Refreshing to see 2 points of view.

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Something for everyone

It has opened my eyes to so much. I have taking the advice of the book and within a week we have had so much more connection! He wants to help me around the house just because!!!!

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Best marriage resource around

I found this to be one of the best marriage resource books around. Very logical and practical. Good to keep this wisdom in the forefront of your mind!

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Feeling empowered

I enjoyed this book and now have a more keen perspective on my current relationship. I do hope my significant other gets a chance to read it as well, I do believe it would be helpful for him.

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