How to Cure a Commitment Phobic

By: Lyn Kelley

Narrated by: Lyn Kelley

Length: 2 hrs and 3 mins

Publisher's summary

Dr. Lyn explains what a relationship commitment-phobic (CP) is and how one can be cured, or at least become committable. If there is any way to do it, this is the way!

Lyn has over 20 years experience counseling and coaching couples, researching this topic, as well as her own experience and observing those of her friends. Lyn uses bold, honest, straight talk and tells it like it is. This book will empower you to use all your guiding forces, greatest skills and assets to change who you are in your relationships with CP's. When YOU change, HE changes.

Here's what you'll learn:

• What is Commitment Phobia?
• How to Spot a CP Right Away
• The Information You MUST Get As Soon As Possible
• How to Be the Selector, Not the Convincer
• The Exact Questions You Need to Ask
• Can Commitment Phobics be Cured?
• The 29 Red Flags to Watch Out For
• The 3 Things That Must Be Present For Him to Want to Commit
• How to Secure a Commitment From a CP
• The 3 Keys to Unlocking the Doors of the CP
• How to Learn His "Game" and Play it Better than Him
• What the CP Wants Most from You - and Why You Should Never Give it Away for Free
• What to Do If You're Hooked on a CP
• The Specific Words to Use in Your Relationship Commitment Talk
• How Your Five Guiding Forces Will Always Serve You Well
• How to Move On If He Can't Be Cured

©2012 Lyn Kelley (P)2012 Lyn Kelley

Excellent Advice

Would you consider the audio edition of How to Cure a Commitment Phobic to be better than the print version?

It's a difficult thing being involved with a CP. I think she offers excellent advice. It is a lot easier to listen to than implement though. I hate the fact that women have to give up there desires for a man and that we have to do all the work, but being in my fifties it's exactly the way it is...I wish I had learned these lessons much sooner in life. Good relationship advice CP or not.

I am a CP

I thought I submit the following review to share with women my thoughts as a CP.
I am a CP ( commitmentphobic man).
I listened to this book on audible and agree with most of it. Her description of me as a card carrying CP is pretty spot on accurate. She knows my type. It took me many years to realize I'm a CP. I always though it was just a matter of finding " the right woman".
But my current the age of 71 I have never been married, engaged, lived with someone, or had any relationship longer than several months. I actually am very open now when I meet women and I tell them at the beginning my history and that I have always had trouble committing. When I was younger I didn't realize it. I just thought she wasn't " the right one" ( usually after we started getting more intimate) .
Nowadays I do not force them to try to pull that information out of me. I tell them. I do not push for sex. I let them decide if they want to get to know me. I don't consider myself a bad person for being a CP. I believe events from my childhood led me to be this way. But I think for some of us CPs it's not going to change. Dr Kelley discusses in her book about a manner of dealing with a CP that may change him. The operant word there is 'may'. For myself, I'm not sure if anything you do, how long you hold off on sex, how aloof you are, etc etc would change my inability to make a durable commitment over time. At some point the aloofness and holding off has to end. I'm speaking for myself, not saying it can't happen. The best I can do is try to be as honest as possible from the beginning and try not to hurt anyone. I've been told by some women I'm too honest. But I think it seems to be the right thing. Maybe women should assume all men are CP until proven otherwise.
Then again, maybe everything I say here would fly out the window if I met " the right woman" :)

Humour, the best medicine!

What made the experience of listening to How to Cure a Commitment Phobic the most enjoyable?

Advice spiced with humour guaranteed to take away the pain of being with a CP - and perhaps see the last of him!

Was this a book you wanted to listen to all in one sitting?

Yes!

Any additional comments?

Power to all women!

A Good Read

I think Lynn's advice is wonderful, and she is very knowledgeable on the topic, as well. However, I believe the title is misleading. I don't believe the specific advice given can "cure a commitment phobic". I believe it is great advice for dating men that are afraid of commitment, and how to get them to commit better to a relationship, but a commitment phobic is a completely different story. The title is misleading, but her information is spot on about the characteristics of these types of men. A very good listen, as most of her books are. But, again, as many of her books are, the information is repetitive. HOWEVER, she is helpful and smart.

First Time

I needed to do something for ME. I needed to hear these words. Thank you.

Great advice!

Good for helping you make some good decisons before you make some very bad ones.

Thank You!

What made the experience of listening to How to Cure a Commitment Phobic the most enjoyable?

Dr. Lyn's bold, honest, straight talk.

What other book might you compare How to Cure a Commitment Phobic to and why?

I've read several of her other books -- I really liked How to Turn a Player Into a Stayer.

Which scene was your favorite?

Her own stories.

If you were to make a film of this book, what would be the tag line be?

Bad D--k, Good Jane!

Any additional comments?

I don’t know what I would have done without this book when I was in too deep with a commitment phobic. Dr. Lyn has inspired me to use my inner strength to communicate with men in ways that get me the results I want. Thank you!!

Omg this was on the money!

It just didn’t talk about what a commitment phobe is or does, she goes in depth on how to handle every type of situation. You will feel great and in control after reading this. I just finished it and I’m about to start it all over until it’s pounded in my head and I know what to do without forgetting one thing.

nothing new. Kelley's tone is a bit arrogant

When it comes to psychological matter, advice and examples from real life are more appreciated than recipes

One liner

The book basically advices women to play hard to get. That’s about the depth of it.