Enter Dr. Sue Johnson, developer of Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy and "the best couple therapist in the world," according to best-selling relationship expert Dr. John Gottman. In Hold Me Tight, Dr. Johnson shares her groundbreaking and remarkably successful program for creating stronger, more secure relationships.
The message of Hold Me Tight is simple: Forget about learning how to argue better, analyzing your early childhood, making grand romantic gestures, or experimenting with new sexual positions. Instead, get to the emotional underpinnings of your relationship by recognizing that you are emotionally attached to and dependent on your partner in much the same way that a child is on a parent for nurturing, soothing, and protection.
Dr. Johnson teaches that the way to enhance or save a relationship is to be open, attuned, and responsive to each other and to reestablish emotional connection. With this in mind, she focuses on key moments in a relationship - from "Recognizing the Demon Dialogues" to "Forgiving Injuries" - and uses them as touch points for seven healing conversations. These conversations give you insight into the defining moments in your relationship and guide you in reshaping these moments to create a secure and lasting bond.
©2008 Dr. Sue Johnson; (P)2008 Brilliance Audio
This book has improved our 27 years of bad communication. We aren't great at it, but can identify issues sooner. You will get what you put in. We were lucky to have a weekend workshop using the books conversations
This book will save your relationship, or prevent it from ever going critical. Everyone should take it in!
This and others together help you understand common pitfalls and communcation faults which are really a big part of relationship troubles. Do listen and get what you can from this and the other common self relationship help books. They all add up to informing you and enlighting you and can help. Go for it.
I bought this book YEARS ago, and never actually read it until now. When I started it I obviously wasn't in a place to hear it. After being married for some time, it hits home. This book along with What makes love last are two of the best relationship books on the market. If you are willing to put in the work, it will save your marriage.
Which book is better? I say buy both! If you can't and you can only buy one - look at your problems.
If you are getting stuck on the same arguements over and over, or there has been an affair, or you feel like you are going to try to do it on your own - I suggest What makes love last.
If you have decent communication, and you want a better relationship - this book is worth the buy.
Both are great books - and you wont be disappointing with either. There is a reason that both books are highly recommended by MFT (marriage family therapist) all over the world - worth the buy.
Me - it has helped my marriage
All of it.
Relationships are not always perfect - with work they can be better.
I believe this work is at the heart of relational issues, both with one's self and others.
It was nice to learn that needs are ok and are a healthy part of being whole and honest.
I have always been hopeful to have healing take place in my relationships. This book teaches me how.
Sue Johnson's book is excellent. The narration is difficult to listen to and feels monotonous. It was all I could do to finish listening to the book. It is best listened to in short increments.
This book was very well done. A counselor my husband and I are seeing recommended it. It was excellent, and honestly something I probably could listen to 4 or 5x and get something different each time. Highly recommend it!
listening to this book I thought it would never end. But the information is real and definitely helpful whether you are currently in a relationship or not. I also think this book is unique in that it dared to define love and how it impacts the world. I highly recommend it if you want to know what love is, why you do the things you do to your partners and attempt to make a positive change in that department.
After reading/listening to this book I have a better understanding of the root of the issues affecting my marriage. It helped me understand the root of my own feelings, complaints, and reactions when my needs weren't met. It also help me better understand my spouse. Most of all, I've learned that I wasn't hearing what she was asking for all along. I'm able to see how much easier it is to deal with our issues, when we have a better undestanding of what we're really asking for.
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