Enter Dr. Sue Johnson, developer of Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy and "the best couple therapist in the world," according to best-selling relationship expert Dr. John Gottman. In Hold Me Tight, Dr. Johnson shares her groundbreaking and remarkably successful program for creating stronger, more secure relationships.
The message of Hold Me Tight is simple: Forget about learning how to argue better, analyzing your early childhood, making grand romantic gestures, or experimenting with new sexual positions. Instead, get to the emotional underpinnings of your relationship by recognizing that you are emotionally attached to and dependent on your partner in much the same way that a child is on a parent for nurturing, soothing, and protection.
Dr. Johnson teaches that the way to enhance or save a relationship is to be open, attuned, and responsive to each other and to reestablish emotional connection. With this in mind, she focuses on key moments in a relationship - from "Recognizing the Demon Dialogues" to "Forgiving Injuries" - and uses them as touch points for seven healing conversations. These conversations give you insight into the defining moments in your relationship and guide you in reshaping these moments to create a secure and lasting bond.
©2008 Dr. Sue Johnson; (P)2008 Brilliance Audio
This and others together help you understand common pitfalls and communcation faults which are really a big part of relationship troubles. Do listen and get what you can from this and the other common self relationship help books. They all add up to informing you and enlighting you and can help. Go for it.
I don't know, maybe the theories of relationship outlined in this book are new ideas for people, but I found it pretty obvious. The stories used to illustrate the relationship styles are repeated over and over... I found myself saying "ok ok I get it already!" in my head while listening. I realize the author/narrator was trying to make the performance interesting for listeners but I found her voice overly emotive and dramatic and it got on my nerves. I couldn't finish this book, I got about half way through before acknowledging I had not learned anything new and gave up.
Useful in helping me to understand my wife and people in general. Book was recommended by my counselor. My marriage is strengthened as a result of the tools and examples found in this book.
The content itself is really good. I enjoy the Emotionally Focus Therapy mode and have used it in couples counseling. However, the narrator is terrible.
I bought the audible without checking the sample audio first. At first I thought the narration was done by an analog robot.
I have both the paper and audio-copy of this. I would just get the book and skip the audible.
I enjoy Sue Johnson's Emotionally Focus Therapy.
I started reading this book and then thought, "maybe there's an audio book." Got the audio book and started listening. It was awful. Made this book, written by an educated professional, sound like it was written by a crazy fanatic. Went back to reading the printed version and felt sane again.
Best author on marriage --- based on profound research into human development and adult attachment patterns. This book is easy to understand and incredibly helpful for lay audiences and professional marriage therapists. But this narrator is so corny, saccharine, even sexist in her portrayal of women as sounding whiny/wimpy and men as sounding emotionally clueless, she ruins the audio book version.....
As a student in a Clinical Mental Heath Counseling/Marriage and Family Therapy program, I can honestly say this book is a God-send! It has changed my own relationship with my wife, kids, and family & friend as well as my clients.
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