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Help! I’m in Love with a Narcissist

By: Steven Carter,Julia Sokol
Narrated by: Steven Menasche
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"Narcissism - the relationship issue of our times." In Help! I’m in Love With a Narcissist, narrated with tender concern and in a helpful and plainspoken way by Steven Menasche, the listener who loves someone who love themselves more is cordially counseled on the different ways to build a workable, long-term relationship with such significant others obsessed with their own self.

Several different narcissistic relationship scenarios are told and discussed, ultimately leading to this self-help audiobook’s viewpoint that the road to loving a narcissist isn’t easy, but it’s navigable. Written by the best-selling authors of Men Who Can’t Love.

Publisher's summary

Written with the compassionate language that people have come to rely upon and expect from these proven relationship experts, this book goes beyond an explanation of the condition to help men and women avoid the self-destructive permanence of remaining with people incapable of loving anyone but themselves.

©2005 Steven Carter and Julia Sokol Coopersmith (P)2012 Audible, Inc.

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You will find some healing with this book.

This is one of several very useful books when coming to terms with having had a narcissistic relationship. I highly recommend this book as it did provide some useful information that I did not find elsewhere.

After having such a profound and traumatic experience, don't limit yourself to one book. Buy this one and a few others so that you can get golden nuggets from each of them.

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Very spot on and thorough!

Loved this audible. It was thorough and informative and VALIDATING!! I would totally recommend this book to anyone who has suffered from the abuse of a narcissist.

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Excellent, excellent, excellent

This book saved me and brought me into reality. I can't begin to tell you how helpful this book is, I would have to write a book myself. If you are or think you are involved with a narcissist this is a must read.

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Where Was This Book 2 Years Ago?!

I'm dragging myself out of a 2 year ride with one of the biggest narcissists on the planet and it is Hell. I cried listening to this book because it was so accurate. My heart is broken but at least I know I'm not crazy, disgusting, and alone which is how he makes me feel. I'll definitely be listening to this as my process continues.

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Must listen if you are with a narcissist

Would you recommend this audiobook to a friend? If so, why?

Yes if my friend is dealing with a narcissist. It is written in plain English with lots of relate able examples.

Have you listened to any of Steven Menasche’s other performances before? How does this one compare?

I haven't listen to any of Steven Manasche's before. His performance for this book is excellent.

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I am more aware of what Narcissist does and can control my emotions and reactions much better.

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I think it's one of the best book on narcissism. I thoroughly enjoy listening to it.

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A must read for every mother and a daughter

Where does Help! I’m in Love with a Narcissist rank among all the audiobooks you’ve listened to so far?

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My husband has recently been diagnosed with NPD.
This booked both shocked and scared me.
Shocked - because it is as if it was written about and partly by my husband, who could be the textbook examples of how Narcissistic think and act and what dramas they cause.

It scared me - because, it undermined my understanding of the idea, that people are able to make rational decisions and choices in their behaviours.

It is as if Narcissists emotional responses were limited to a set number or pre programmed reactions, none of which are rational,

This book spells hard but honest truth about Narcissists and the nature of their disorder, and it should be the Must Read for every mother to be and every teenage son or daughter, prior to their first relationship.


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Everyone should learn about NPD BEFORE dating!

I dated a narcissist and this book perfectly describes his personality--handsome, charming, funny, manipulative, shallow, and oh, so toxic. I didn't have the heartache of a long relationship or an emotional breakup, but if I had been much younger (I'm a senior citien), dating someone with NPD could have been an emotional trainwreck. At my age, I'm just happy to have a block feature on my phone. LOL. Now I encourage my nephews and neices to read about NPD, boundaries, and dating. Who they choose to share their life with is one of the most important decisions they'll make and books like this are excellent educational tools to help them make good choices.

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The help I needed!

The book was written from a loving place. I've read many books on personality disorders and this is one of my favorite on the subject. The authors seem to understand exactly what I've been going through.

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The hard truth...you got to hear.

I enjoyed this book very much so. This is a time in my life when leaving my extremely toxic narcissist boyfriend is a must. My brain has known for so long but my heart refuses to let go. This book hopefully will help me go get the professional help that I need in order to finally just walk away. I would have listened to the whole book in one setting but I couldn't. I have been very excited to listen to more stories each time I pressed play. My story wasn't in there until ch. 14. Anyone who is in Love with these monsters, is bound to hear their own story and it's very eye opening. Thank you for your stories and life changing suggestions!!

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very helpful

very helpful to let me face the reality of my situation. I will seek I person counsel as well

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