Healing the Shame That Binds You is the most enduring work of family relationship expert and New York Times best-selling author John Bradshaw. In it, he shows how unhealthy toxic shame, often learned young and maintained into adulthood, is the core component in our compulsions, co-dependencies, addictions and drive to superachieve. While positive shame empowers us and sustains the fabric of our social system, inappropriate or misdirected shame results in the breakdown of our self-esteem, the destruction of the family system, and an inability to move forward with our lives. In an honest and emotionally revealing style based largely on his personal experience with addiction and his decades as a counselor, John Bradshaw moves from the source and manifestation of toxic shame to the practical tools---affirmations, visualizations, inner voice and feeling work, guided meditations, and other healing techniques---that will release the shame that binds us to our past.
©1988 John Bradshaw, Renewed 2005 by John Bradshaw (P)2011 Tantor
I am , it's difficult to follow everything so I'm listening to it again.
It's not that type of book - this is a textbook really
I am able to identify where I have carried shame in my own life.
Again, this is pretty much a text book. Don't expect it to roll like the catcher in the rye. There are parts that won't apply to you but the parts that do may make it all worth it.
If you have experienced tragedy, in any way in your life, THEN READING THIS BOOK IS A MUST. It opens your eyes to understanding what you went through, why you went through it, and how to not only survive it, but overcome it and prosper. Great Book.
Yes ---held my attention----my mind tends to wonder when I read and I find myself rereading certain parts
the truth about shame --the toxic
Really like Pruden's presentation-----the manner the book was read helped me visualize so many of the concepts
Both....cry primarily ----I truly identified with the writings and work of James Bradshaw
Truly the book I have searched for years to answer my questions about why I and others responds to situations the way we do-----Thank you so much for this informative and interesting audio book! I listened whenever I had a spare moment---then listened to the audio book a second time.....
There were more very extreme gruesome examples than necessary, which seemed more harmful than informative at times. These examples were honestly haunting and did not have enough resolution or education information attached to them to be helpful/informative.
I think the book might actually be re-traumatizing for many survivors. This is really unfortunate, as there is some very good information that otherwise could be helpful.
listen then evaluate the context without over processing you life.
....then listen again an again for your thoughts and move through the process of healing shame an embrace the intended purpose of your inner person.
The first half is utterly boring. The second half is alright, but just with few good moments for its length. The audiobook points you to graphs even though you may be listening to it in your car. It is also a bit too religious for my taste.
This book was suggested by my therapist. It's pretty deep and heady. At times I wished the author would speak more to the regular fellow vs the psychologist, but still a great read.
The prologue was long and I almost stopped listening. Finally, there were some great pearls of wisdom. I really enjoyed and learned a lot. And then the final chapters talked so much about spirituality and higher powers, so I skipped that too. But the meat of the book, the parts about shame and childhood were enlightening.
I believe this book is like a perfect recipe.
Finding the why then now what and what to do
His articulation and voice tone
Stay in the now
Schools should integrate books like this one into their program. Start sooner then later
This it seems taboo subject is well tacked by Bradshaw. The book covers many elements of shame and will assist the reader who needs greater insights into how such a powerful debilitating emotion can grip ones life. First steps to healing are in understanding.
I really really enjoyed the book and found it helpful to understand my issues I was struggling with.
"A Genuinely Enlightening Experience"
Bradshaw combines his many experiences and knowledge into a real, raw and gut churning adventure into oneself. I became aware of parts of me I hadn't noticed before but recognised instantly. The way Bradshaw identifies the spiritual malady is excruciatingly accurate and painful, I felt forced to stop listening on many occasions so that I could process the information and come to terms with the newly discovered parts of myself.
The good news is that the second half of the book is all about solutions and healing. It's worth persevering, I thank myself for doing so.
To summarise, Bradshaw beat the crap out of me emotionally by waking me up to my inner shame and then taught me how to heal my psychological wounds.
I now have the confidence to look forward to enjoying my life by using the techniques provided in this book.
Thank you John Bradshaw RIP
"One of the most profound soul searching books there is"
I am amazed by the depth of this book and the knowledge it contains. This is an absolute must read for those in search of deep meaning of life. I have particularly enjoyed the solutions healing techniques offered by the author. The book left me with the sense of self-acceptance and inner peace.
I have recommended the text version of this book to clients for many years. It was good to revisit some of the thoughts, theories, ideas put forward and the exercises. The author offers a vast array of research to underpin his approach, however, I did find the reliance (perhaps more the presentation) on others research took away from the author's own extensive knowledge in this area.
"Seriously good and detailed"
this book was really good it outlines key principles around shame toxic shame and various methods and lots of research on how to heal. I would definitely recommend this to anyone who has a terrible past and wishes to move forward.
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