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Congratulations! You have a teenager in your home. Life will never quite be the same again (of course, you already know that). But it can be better than you’ve ever dreamed. In fact, you’re just five days away from your teenager asking, “What can I do to help?” Guaranteed! With his signature wit and commonsense psychology, internationally recognized family expert and New York Times best-selling author Dr. Kevin Leman will help you:
With Dr. Leman’s instinct and insight, plus an index with gutsy advice on 75 hot-button issues that keep parents up at night, Have a New Teenager by Friday will help you get real results - real fast.
©2011 Kevin Leman (P)2011 Oasis Audio
This book is okay. I've read many parenting books and there's little here that's good that I haven't heard before...but some of what's on here is just...not good.
Example: The writer portrays a parenting scenario of a child being disrespectful to her mother on a Saturday morning. The parent does nothing, keeping a cool head and ignoring the teen. Saturday evening when the teen asks for mom's car keys, mom has made sure to have them in her pocket, and says "no." "But why," the girl inquires? "Because I didn't like being disrespected this morning," the parent replies.
This is supposed to be an example of an effective deterrent...waiting 9 hours to stick it to a kid is not likely to improve their relationship, or teach self-control or respect, in my opinion. And there are a number of similar suggestions that I might find laughable in a parenting book, if it wasn't all so disappointing.
Then there's the fact that the author mentions your child may need to be moved to a different school or even a different city for any changes to work with him/her...so much for having a new teen by Friday.
While I like Dr. Leman, the title and premise of this book is ridiculous, unethical and dishonest. You cannot change anyone, including yourself and especially your teenager within 5 days. Dr. Leman states that parents hold all the cards to change the teen. This is not true. While parents hold significant influence, parents are not the only variables in the lives of teenagers.
Some good practical advice but often simplistic answers. Again, I like Dr. Leman as a person and therapist, but parents should not believe this is all that needs to happen for significant change to occur. Beware of parental guilt if things do not work out by Friday afternoon.
Respond don't react!
The 5 Love Languages of Teenagers by Gary Chapman. Both books remind parents that our teens are going through many changes and we should be there to "guide" them to adulthood, not "dictate" them to it. Both books are Christian based without being "preachy".
"Purposive behavior" - what is it my teen wants to accomplish from her behavior?
My boys are 14, 12, and 10 years old. This book has suggestions that I have used for all three boys, and they have worked! My only regret is that I didn't know about Kevin Leman years ago. I cannot wait to start the birth order book next!
I was able to listen to this book while I was doing my daily chores. The only reason why the formants didn't get a five from me was the recording was a bit robotic. Otherwise the narator did a great job telling the story.
This is an excellent resource for anyone who wants a "great" relationship with their children-even if you didn't grow up with the best example. This book will truly guide you in how to raise competent children. A real keeper!
I don't know the print version, but I think it probably is.
Change YOUR life by Friday... a parents best friend
"Have a new teenager by Friday ....I. Wish!"
Easy to listen too and entertaining .some things difficult verges on homophobia
So loses credibility .my teenager got worse !
Love your kid; use your common sense. Realistic scenarios with unrealistic outcomes. This book is not to be confused with James Lehman's views on more effective parenting for parents of difficult teenagers.
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