The rules for living in the real world have changed, because the world we live in has changed. Much of the conventional wisdom the last generation has passed on just doesn't apply like it once did. If you want to win, and win big, and, more importantly, keep what you work so hard for, you need a crystal-clear view of how the real world works - not how you wish it worked, but how it actually works.
In Life Code: The New Rules for Winning in the Real World, six-time New York Times number-one best-selling author Dr. Phil McGraw abandons traditional thinking and tells you the ugly truth about the users, abusers, and overall "bad guys" we all have in our lives. He also reveals the secrets of how they think and how they get to and exploit you and those you love. You'll gain incredible insight into these negative people, which he refers to as BAITERs (Backstabbers, Abusers, Imposters, Takers, Exploiters, Reckless), and you'll gain the tools to protect yourself from their assaults. Dr. Phil gives you the "Evil Eight" identifiers so you can see them coming from a mile away, as well as their "Secret Playbook", which contains the "Nefarious 15" tactics they use to exploit you and take what is yours mentally, physically, socially, and professionally. Life Code then focuses on you and your playbook, which contains the "Sweet 16" tactics for winning in the real world.
Edgy, controversial and sometimes irreverent, Dr. Phil again abandons convention to prepare you to claim what you deserve and claim it now. You take flying lessons to learn to fly, swimming lessons to learn to swim, and singing lessons to learn to sing. So, why not take winning lessons to learn to win?
©2012 Phillip C. McGraw (P)2012 Phillip C. McGraw
I REALLY think this is a great book. I think EVERY woman (especially Southern) should read it, since we are taught to be polite over anything else. Be polite, but DO NOT GIVE THE BENEFIT OF THE DOUBT. Very interesting points and I liked the spirit of the information. Highly recommended. Even though I think he mentions it WAY TOO much on his show.
words of wisdom
many of the relationship and self help classics but a big difference is the focus is not on getting along well with others as being wise to people who would wish to undermine you no matter how positive, helpful and essential good you are to them and others
Enjoyed listening to his voice and funny texas sayings. Listening to the book over and over helped the information stick. I enjoy listening while driving or working. It gives extra exposure that I wouldn't get by setting down to read.
Getting specific information on dealing with conflict and using it in my life and watching the person attempt to use many of the negative attacking behaviors toward me that I was not only prepared for but very clear on my desired outcome. The experience was the most positive I have ever had in dealing with a difficult person. I was totally prepared and clear on my desired outcome and did not get off course by their response. I feel more confident in my ability to deal better in the future with difficult people and catching situations immediately instead of letting it fester because "I cant believe they said or did that". Now I am more aware that "oh yes I can beleive they would be capable of saying or doing that" and I won't be caught unaware again.
I would just to recap on some key strategies
Made no opologies for puting your own outcomes above others
Far too long was spent ( a whole chapter I think) on telling you what he was going to tell you and how important what he was going to impart was. I realise that this is part of the training model of Tell em what you are going to em, tell em, and then tell em what you told them. But I found it a annoying
Painfully, audible has formatted their reviews which makes writing a good review very difficult. But my three words would be TEDIOUS - McGraws introduction, which drags on and on and on, is very difficult to takeUSEFUL - McGraw resummarizes specialty reading for professionals by highlighting the antisocial and personality disordered individuals in terms non professionals can relate to - he calls them 'baiters'WORTHY - worth your time to listen even though you may be aware of some or much of the advice he dispenses
McGraw calls the antisocial personality disordered (narcissists, borderlines and sociopaths in professional terms accounting for up to 30% of the general population) BAITERS which refers to Backstabbers, Abusers, Imposters, Takers, Exploiters, Reckless- people who will hurt you in life. He describes them so that you might recognize them, which he calls the "tools" to recognize them - which he calls the “Evil Eight” (identifiers) so you can see them coming, and identifies their “Secret Playbook,” which contains the “Nefarious 15” tactics they use to exploit you and take what is yours mentally, physically, socially and professionally. McGraw then focuses on you (and your 'playbook'), which contains the “Sweet 16” tactics for winning in life and the real world.Basically, trust no one, recognize and understand the narcissistic and self serving deceit and manipulations of antisocially disordered people. McGraw never gives statistics but sub clinical antisocials account for at least 16-18% of the population and clinical antisocials about 8%, which is quite a large number of people. As McGraw said, you might be married to one, and you surely know several.McGraw then gives advice to 'get with it' and develop a positive goal oriented, competitively based series of personal goals for you to accomplish in life those things to maximize your own potential.
NO question about it - the intro drags and drags on with what this book is going to do for you. My advice - suffer through it by doing something else while you listen. When he gets serious then listen more carefully.
Most people have not had serious run ins with antisocially disordered people or have failed to recognize past problems as such. And most don't know that these problems are caused by deceitful, manipulative predatory personalities. Dr. Phil gives you and me everyday tools to recognize the antisocial BAITERS and concepts to avoid or deal with them effectively.
A freeform comment area might be a better means to relay the audible content than this self-limiting format. Also, except for the ruthless self promotion of the book in the beginning, which is tedious, McGraw is effective as a narrator emphasizing useful and relevant concepts as he presents them.
Yes. Lots of information about the toxic people in our lives.
Stop giving people the benefit of the doubt.
Life is a competition and we have to work hard to stay in the game.
I will listen to this a second time.
While his love of himself grates on me, I saw Dr. Phil on OWN doing a Lifeclass about this book. I enjoyed the points he shared and decided to buy the book here. I may have to return this title if he doesn't stop what he starts in the first 5 minutes of listening. You get to hear how amazing HIS career has been and how terrific HIS success in life is. They you have to hear about HIS wonderful marriage and HIS two amazingly successful sons. HELLO? PAGING PHIL MCGRAW... THIS BOOK ISN'T ABOUT HOW WONDERFUL YOU THINK YOU ARE.
I have not because of this very fear, that McGraw would make the entire book like his television appearances, about himself and his love for himself.
Self-Centered and annoying. He actually works for Oprah Winfrey still and she has a hand in pretty much any "product" with his name. While she can have flashes of self importance it is amazing to me she hasn't sat him down and told him to take the spotlight off himself and shine it on HIS AUDIENCE.
Dr. Phil McGraw.
I feel this book HAS good information in it but so far it buried so far under McGraw's self congratulatory tone it is grating.
Generally, this man is too mushy-feely for me, but this is firm straight talk that rings true in my heart.
Yes. He offers a fresh outlook and unique action plans.
Still a little negative. He says he is just keeping it real. He may be right, I just hope not.
What he says about infidelity was wise.
I think it has. The Dr. Phil Show.
If you like this book, read 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Covey. Dr. Phil borrowed heavily from him.
Nothing really new here. Same popular topics, re-branded with Dr. Phil's own label. My guess, just a re-wrap of topics to work in tandem with Dr. Phil's television topics. All and all, good common sense .... read it here, or in any other self-help book.
Probably not. I don't accept his premise that, just because someone might be trying to engage me in a competitive game, that I have no choice but to join in and try to beat them at their own game.
He is too much in love with the idea of winners and losers, and that to be a winner, you have to make someone else a loser. Yes, American society is dominated by that paradigm, so he says rightly, "That's just how the world is." But the only reason that is how it is, is because that's how people choose to think. In my opinion, it's a sick paradigm that only benefits a very few people, and may be turning us into a nation of extremists. It may "work" for a few people, but not society as a whole.
Through the insights he unwittingly provides, I realize that Dr. Phil is trying to engage us all in HIS game, the game he knows how to win. You don't really think someone who thinks this way is just trying to help us out of the goodness of his heart, do you? I can't help but wonder if there is more than just book royalties at stake here.
No. Maybe in McGraw's game, you would have to attack someone to prevent them from taking something from us that is not theirs to take, but there are other games. There are other paradigms that serve as road maps to success and fulfillment, and we DO have a choice, just as we can choose whether to play football, or run a marathon.
It does, however, help to learn to recognize when someone is trying to con you, so I do at least appreciate some of the information provided in the book.
"Life Code is excellent"
Listening to the audio of Dr Phil McGraw was really interesting, it felt like he was in the same room, just talking to me and putting his point across.
The truthfulness of Dr Phil McGraw words and examples.
I enjoyed listening to the first part which outlines what type of person we sometimes deal with whether it be in the office or at home.
It has been a long time since I've actually listened to an audio and actually agreed with the writer. This is a five star book.
I would recommend this book to those people who been treated badly whether at work or at home and feel it was their fault. This book will change your mind.
There are no listener reviews for this title yet.
Report Inappropriate Content