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Deal Breakers: When to Work on a Relationship and When to Walk Away | [Dr. Bethany Marshall]

Deal Breakers: When to Work on a Relationship and When to Walk Away

This is a book about men. Not all men, just emotionally unhealthy men. The ones who make you question, "Is it him or is it me? Am I making too big a deal out of this? I try to tell him how I feel, but he says I'm overreacting or needy or it's all my fault". Relationships are hard work, but how hard should they be? When do you know you are struggling too hard to make a relationship succeed?
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Publisher's Summary

This is a book about men. Not all men, just emotionally unhealthy men. The ones who make you ask, "Is it him or is it me? Am I making too big a deal out of this? I try to tell him how I feel, but he says I'm overreacting or needy or it's all my fault". Relationships are hard work, but how hard should they be? When do you know you are struggling too hard to make a relationship succeed?

Deal Breakers is about getting out of this "relationship purgatory": where the present is unfulfilling and the future is the only thing you can hope for. But there is no magic future. If he won't work on problems today, it's unlikely they'll ever be resolved. And passively hoping for change will only cost you years of depression or expensive therapy.

Dr. Bethany Marshall is here to remind women that relationships, like business relationships, are deals. In the business world, a deal breaker is the one non-negotiable term that, if not agreed to, means the deal is off. But in the world of relationships, identifying your deal breaker can be much more promising, as it holds out the possibility of helping you to understand where the relationship has gone wrong, what needs to be done in order to make it better, and when to walk away because you're doing more work than him to fix it.

©2007 Dr. Bethany Marshall; (P)2007 Tantor Media Inc.

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    Rhonda Houston, TX, USA 06-12-08
    Rhonda Houston, TX, USA 06-12-08
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    "Deal Breakers"

    This book started out good but then it kind of goes off into this males bashing deal. I didnt like it at all...

    4 of 7 people found this review helpful
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    Kira Volpi 06-05-15
    Kira Volpi 06-05-15

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    Enjoyed and learned quite a bit.
    Many insightful points of view.
    I would recommend to others.

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    David 05-22-15
    David 05-22-15 Member Since 2015
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    "You may listen and think that women are perfect..."

    As with any book listen to the very end for more explanation and clarification on that.
    Also, some of that inward reflection by the reader should have been more prevalent through the book. As a man I read it for that inward looking perspective. A very good book.

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    TheBaxterBear Charlotte NC Metro 03-07-15
    TheBaxterBear Charlotte NC Metro 03-07-15 Member Since 2015
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    "Insightful"

    Helped to define and have things click or make sense as to what kind of men I have chosen and why. As well as defining when to work on and when to walk away.

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    Sammy Slugger 06-15-14
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    "Light Weight, Superficial, Waste of Time and Money"
    What disappointed you about Deal Breakers?

    No substance. It was as though a high school teenie bopper wrote this. Boring, uninsightful, based on nothing more than light weight observations.


    Has Deal Breakers turned you off from other books in this genre?

    No, there are some really good books, but don't waste time on phony, money making junk like this.


    0 of 0 people found this review helpful
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    mary 11-17-13
    mary 11-17-13
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    "I listened then bought the Kindle version"
    Would you consider the audio edition of Deal Breakers to be better than the print version?

    I am an avid listener and have been so since the days of Books-on-Tape. This is the first book that I have listened to then immediately downloaded the Kindle version so that I could go back and reference some of the parts that I wanted to study more closely. I did enjoy the interview with the author after the book so that is a bonus over the print version.


    What did you like best about this story?

    I am in the throes of a breakup now and found this helpful. I downloaded the print so that now I can have a copy to look at once I start dating again. I think this book would be helpful to anyone dating or even thinking about dating.


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    Maria 09-25-13
    Maria 09-25-13
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    "Great for determining what are your deal breakers"
    Is there anything you would change about this book?

    I would also focus on the other side of things, what women do wrong as well. This book comes across as very biased towards women being right and men being wrong. Even myself, as a woman, knows that there are 2 sides.


    Would you recommend Deal Breakers to your friends? Why or why not?

    I would because it discusses how you know things are deal breakers for you, how to spot them easily and how to be ok with breaking it off with the person who is breaking the deal. It also talks about how to know if it is worth working on.


    What three words best describe Renée Raudman’s voice?

    Fine, nondescript, nothing stood out good or bad


    Do you think Deal Breakers needs a follow-up book? Why or why not?

    Yes, from the man's side


    Any additional comments?

    The author does clarify at the end in an interview that she has met many men who were more the victims in their relationships and the women were the bullies, but that she just wanted to primarily focus on the one side.

    0 of 0 people found this review helpful
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    Cynthia Fort Mill S.C. United States 04-01-13
    Cynthia Fort Mill S.C. United States 04-01-13
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    "Excellent Book For Relationships"
    Would you listen to Deal Breakers again? Why?

    Yes, I need to refresh every now and again about relationships status'


    What did you like best about this story?

    It helped me to identify the situation I was in and make the decision to face the fact that my boyfriend was NOT the one for me.....


    0 of 0 people found this review helpful
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    Angelmarie 03-24-13
    Angelmarie 03-24-13

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    "If you already know it's no go"

    I found this book too general and metaphoric to be helpful. Many of the stories offered as examples seem overly obvious. And the tone of the reading sounds too informal to build trust or confidence. It is also targeted specifically to women. And it seems to be aimed at those who are looking for a justification to leave their relationship. I only made it through a couple of chapters before I stopped. I will be returning this book. I would recommend "Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay" as a more helpful book if you are ambivalent about your relationship and need help deciding.

    0 of 0 people found this review helpful
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    Korena MORGANTOWN, WV, United States 02-11-13
    Korena MORGANTOWN, WV, United States 02-11-13 Member Since 2011
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    "Very Helpful book"
    What did you love best about Deal Breakers?

    There were a lot of scenarios in this book that rang true to what I am currently going through and have gone through in the past


    What insight do you think you’ll apply from Deal Breakers?

    I will pay more attention to red flags that I see in situations rather than overlook them for the way I feel in the moment.


    0 of 0 people found this review helpful

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