Deal Breakers is about getting out of this "relationship purgatory": where the present is unfulfilling and the future is the only thing you can hope for. But there is no magic future. If he won't work on problems today, it's unlikely they'll ever be resolved. And passively hoping for change will only cost you years of depression or expensive therapy.
Dr. Bethany Marshall is here to remind women that relationships, like business relationships, are deals. In the business world, a deal breaker is the one non-negotiable term that, if not agreed to, means the deal is off. But in the world of relationships, identifying your deal breaker can be much more promising, as it holds out the possibility of helping you to understand where the relationship has gone wrong, what needs to be done in order to make it better, and when to walk away because you're doing more work than him to fix it.
©2007 Dr. Bethany Marshall; (P)2007 Tantor Media Inc.
I can't really explain how helpful this book was.
I've been grappling with some serious issues with my husband of 12 years and this book really put so much into perspective.
Thank you so very much.
As with any book listen to the very end for more explanation and clarification on that.
Also, some of that inward reflection by the reader should have been more prevalent through the book. As a man I read it for that inward looking perspective. A very good book.
Helped to define and have things click or make sense as to what kind of men I have chosen and why. As well as defining when to work on and when to walk away.
No substance. It was as though a high school teenie bopper wrote this. Boring, uninsightful, based on nothing more than light weight observations.
No, there are some really good books, but don't waste time on phony, money making junk like this.
I am an avid listener and have been so since the days of Books-on-Tape. This is the first book that I have listened to then immediately downloaded the Kindle version so that I could go back and reference some of the parts that I wanted to study more closely. I did enjoy the interview with the author after the book so that is a bonus over the print version.
I am in the throes of a breakup now and found this helpful. I downloaded the print so that now I can have a copy to look at once I start dating again. I think this book would be helpful to anyone dating or even thinking about dating.
I would also focus on the other side of things, what women do wrong as well. This book comes across as very biased towards women being right and men being wrong. Even myself, as a woman, knows that there are 2 sides.
I would because it discusses how you know things are deal breakers for you, how to spot them easily and how to be ok with breaking it off with the person who is breaking the deal. It also talks about how to know if it is worth working on.
Fine, nondescript, nothing stood out good or bad
Yes, from the man's side
The author does clarify at the end in an interview that she has met many men who were more the victims in their relationships and the women were the bullies, but that she just wanted to primarily focus on the one side.
Yes, I need to refresh every now and again about relationships status'
It helped me to identify the situation I was in and make the decision to face the fact that my boyfriend was NOT the one for me.....
I found this book too general and metaphoric to be helpful. Many of the stories offered as examples seem overly obvious. And the tone of the reading sounds too informal to build trust or confidence. It is also targeted specifically to women. And it seems to be aimed at those who are looking for a justification to leave their relationship. I only made it through a couple of chapters before I stopped. I will be returning this book. I would recommend "Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay" as a more helpful book if you are ambivalent about your relationship and need help deciding.
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