• Come as You Are

  • The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life
  • By: Emily Nagoski
  • Narrated by: Emily Nagoski
  • Length: 11 hrs and 53 mins
  • 4.7 out of 5 stars (4,155 ratings)

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Come as You Are

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An essential exploration of why and how women's sexuality works - based on groundbreaking research and brain science - that will radically transform your sex life into one filled with confidence and joy.

Researchers have spent the last decade trying to develop a "pink pill" for women to function like Viagra does for men. So where is it? Well, for reasons this book makes crystal clear, that pill will never exist - but as a result of the research that's gone into it, scientists in the last few years have learned more about how women's sexuality works than we ever thought possible, and Come as You Are explains it all....

PLEASE NOTE: When you purchase this title, the accompanying PDF will be available in your Audible Library along with the audio.

©2015 Emily Nagoski, Ph.D. All rights reserved. (P)2015 Simon & Schuster, Inc. All rights reserved.

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YES! I finished it and the next day started at the beginning again.

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I have read about six books on the topic of "sex self help" in the past several months and this one changed EVERYTHING! Emily is funny and smart and relatable and nonjudgmental. Her advice completely changed the way I think about my sexuality and may just end up saving my marriage. I am SO grateful. Buy this book! Buy it now!

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GREAT, but if she said the feels one more time.


For ladies, the men that love them and couples. Some language is extremely redundant, which becomes annoying by the third chapter.

Arthur does an extraordinary job of crushing myths and b*******.

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Required Reading for EVERYONe

One of the best books I've read. The science is clear, topic fascinating, and author authentic. Men need to read this to understand their partners but more importantly to understand themselves. Though this book is about women's sexuality, the lessons here are applicable to all sexes and in multiple areas of your life. It should be mandatory reading to all people when they turn 16.

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New Perspective.

Loved it. New perspective on things I thought I knew. Great examples of specific ideas to Ponder. Grrrrreat read!!

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Life changing

This book changed my life, gave me hope, backed up everything with science and relevant information, and helped me grow. Every woman should read this if she wants a greater understanding of herself and the world around her, not only in relation to sex but in everything she does. A heartfelt thank you to the author- you have made a very large impact on my life!

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Feeling proud of your sexuality

You will learn about the misconceptions passed on to you from society and family. She will give you techniques to get to the truth. She will teach you how to get out of the falsehoods about sexuality. You will feel confident and will feel empowered by realizing the simple truths. She includes many references from books abs scientific research. Her experience makes her creditable for this subject. I recommend this book for women and men.

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mind blowing!!

By the time I got to the last chapter, my point of view had flipped upside down.
I mostly feel blessed to be in control of my own sexual well being, and that's only because now I understand it better than I ever thought possible.

I'm really surprised to find that science has gotten so far in understanding sexuality, and I appreciate Emily for her work in sharing her knowledge with such care for all women.
Thank you ❤️

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Excellent!

This book is a changing lifes one. Its science is awesome and discovers tons of sexuality aspects that i had no idea exist. She, the author, not only reveals but also guides you on how to acquire a better and much healthier perspective of sex. I love this book. It has also changed my life.

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Life changing

I was in complete distress about my lack of sexual “cravings” and my husband was sad and sick of being turned down. Just as we were about to throw in the towel and call it quits on being each other’s life sexual partners, we both listened to this book and it is as if the dark sex storm cloud has been lifted and we are free. This book is enlightening, entertaining and all around life changing.

I highly recommend it for anyone who was born with a vagina or wants to be in a relationship with someone who has a vagina, or even those to relate more to women in general.

Thank you Emily Nagoski for this. Really, thank you.

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Read this book!

A compulsive read for anyone who has ever had the slightest doubt or issues with their sexual being. Great themes, messages and CONTEXT!!

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