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Come as You Are Audiobook

Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life

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Publisher's Summary

An essential exploration of why and how women's sexuality works - based on groundbreaking research and brain science - that will radically transform your sex life into one filled with confidence and joy.

Researchers have spent the last decade trying to develop a "pink pill" for women to function like Viagra does for men. So where is it? Well, for reasons this book makes crystal clear, that pill will never exist - but as a result of the research that's gone into it, scientists in the last few years have learned more about how women's sexuality works than we ever thought possible, and Come as You Are explains it all....

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©2015 Emily Nagoski, Ph.D. All rights reserved. (P)2015 Simon & Schuster, Inc. All rights reserved.

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    Kendra Holliday St Louis, MO 01-31-16
    Kendra Holliday St Louis, MO 01-31-16 Member Since 2015

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    "Positive, Encouraging, Exciting"
    Would you recommend this audiobook to a friend? If so, why?

    As a sex educator, I encounter many couples with mismatched libido and women who feel like they are "broken." This book taught me SOOO many new concepts I am eager to share! It is easy to understand, eye opening, based on science, and encouraging. ALL women should read it, and all men should, too! We need to come to a common understanding of how society skews male and female sexuality. We all have the same parts, they're just organized in different ways and women have to deal with so many challenges.


    Who was your favorite character and why?

    The author Emily reads the audio version and lends such a positive, upbeat attitude to the learning process. You can visualize the smile on her face as she shares insight. Very comforting and pleasant.


    What does Emily Nagoski bring to the story that you wouldn’t experience if you just read the book?

    I ended up buying a paperback version so I could mark it up - there were so many key points I wanted to remember. I kept rewinding and listening again. Invaluable info.


    Was there a moment in the book that particularly moved you?

    If someone listens carefully to this book, it can change their life. It can help them accept who they are, which is key to being comfortable with your sexuality.


    Any additional comments?

    This book can change lives for the better. So sympathetic, helpful, comprehensive, positive. I'm so impressed with the information shared.

    4 of 4 people found this review helpful
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    Hillarie Jill Gowers 06-10-15 Member Since 2013
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    "Please stop what you are doing and read this book."

    Every one should read this book. I know it is geared towards women, but really anyone who has a vulva or is interested in spending time with one should read it.

    10 of 12 people found this review helpful
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    Noelle Austin, TX United States 09-14-15
    Noelle Austin, TX United States 09-14-15

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    "BUY THIS BOOK!"
    Would you listen to Come as You Are again? Why?

    YES! I finished it and the next day started at the beginning again.


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    I have read about six books on the topic of "sex self help" in the past several months and this one changed EVERYTHING! Emily is funny and smart and relatable and nonjudgmental. Her advice completely changed the way I think about my sexuality and may just end up saving my marriage. I am SO grateful. Buy this book! Buy it now!

    5 of 6 people found this review helpful
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    Cesar Ghisilieri Photography 08-17-15 Member Since 2016
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    "this needs to be the new standard for sex ed"

    this whole book took me by surprise! Very useful and very applicable to my life as well as my loved ones. I'm definitely recommending this to all my friends!

    2 of 2 people found this review helpful
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    Jeffrey Herndon, Virginia, United States 06-22-15
    Jeffrey Herndon, Virginia, United States 06-22-15 Member Since 2013
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    "A must-read book for anyone who's a member of the human race"

    This book covers so much and you can learn a tremendous amount from it. Learn how we are all the same, and yet all unique, made up of the same parts, with accelerators and brakes, who need the proper context and may be sexually concordat and how in the end we're all normal, we're all wonderful!

    4 of 5 people found this review helpful
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    M. Gutierrez 07-03-15

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    "This book is amzing!!!!"

    Im a male. This really opens your thought process on a womens mind. A must read for people in relationships with sexual troubles

    6 of 8 people found this review helpful
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    Tamara Pincus 07-06-15 Member Since 2014
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    "Amazing and transformative"

    As a sex therapist I think I know things about sex. This book taught me more than I thought possible. It makes research understandable. Read it!

    8 of 11 people found this review helpful
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    "A Masterpiece!"

    I loved listening to this audiobook. I will be buying the actual book because I want to go back and read it, study it, and make my own notes. Every woman should read this book, Emily did a great job in presenting the information in a way that is easy to understand. Because some research has lied to us, we need to undo de damage by educating ourselves and others. I will share this book with all the women I know. Thanks, Emily!

    1 of 1 people found this review helpful
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    Fremont 01-27-16
    Fremont 01-27-16 Member Since 2014
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    "a book for all to read"

    if you are a person who has interacted with sexuality in your self or others . read this book. much to learn

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    Aaron 08-01-15
    Aaron 08-01-15 Member Since 2015
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    "very educational!"

    As a man who has always been fascinated by the fairer sex, I absolutely loved this audio book. It's a treasure trove of information that I had never heard before, and how it's explained is easy to understand. The performance was very well done as well. 10/10 and I might just have to buy the hard copy as well

    1 of 1 people found this review helpful

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