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"Few people understand this idea as well as Melody Beattie, an author recovering successfully from a variety of addictive disorders and entanglements." (AudioFile)
"Bettie understands being overboard, which helps her throw best-selling lifelines to those still adrift." (Time)
Melody really humanizes Codependence in this book but using her own experiences. I found it very informative. Very helpful if you have been in a relationship with an alcoholic/addict or are one yourself.
I found it very difficult to follow the message of this book or get any real help from it. The author indicates there are a number of causes of co-dependency but seems to try to discuss them all at the same time. As a result, I found myself sorting through all of the causes and situations that did not pertain to me to try and find what did. The book would be much better and helpful if each cause, or similar causes, and resulting behaviors were grouped together in one or more chapters and discussed from start to finish.
This book reminds me to take care of ME first. We get spun into a circle of making sure everyone is cared for, nurtured,loved, fed, and their egos are boosted while silently fuming that our own needs go unmet. Why do I have to always be the one to reach out? This book helps to remind us that WE must take care of OUR needs first in order to be of any value to anyone else. I had forgotten that along the way.
I hate you! dont leave me!
No, this book needs to be taken in sections and absorbed, if you race thru it you miss so much. it is the book you want to listen to 50 times because you learn something you missed on time 30 by rushing.
Seriously it should be required reading in school.
It is a very clear review on codependency, its characteristics and some tools to manage it to get "better" which will reflect in a more fulfilling life
I thought the book was timeless. Finally I have a name for my personality type. Now I can identify my ‘rescue’ efforts I can try and control my impulse to help everybody. I so can not be bothered. I am like a magnet for the weak and vulnerable. You build them up – and off they fly with someone else. I definitely want to have relationships that aren’t based around the other person’s tragedies. I have carried too many people too far and I am emotional barren and always feel like the door mat. Fancy me being codependent on that! I thought they were on me and I was stuck having to support them. I have just got rid of my last ‘lost puppy’. I love dogs more than humans for sure, so now I’m just happy to give and take with my pooch. At least my time will be my own, I will have money in the back saved! And she will love me and always be there for me when I need her [not turn all woes back to focus on their problems all the time]. 36 now, hopefully this book has now woken me enough to stop taking on other people stuff….because after all it’s none of my business
Love good motivational books and books about business. I sell real estate and have since 2001. Love being a mother of a little boy and love my 2 dogs!
I loved the story and could relate to it in many ways. There was more about chemical dependency than I was expecting but it was still very applicable.
loved the book ...opened my eyes.
narration was easy to listen to.
this book made the top of my list!!!
she hits the nail on the head and I hope she continues sharing her insights! the narrator made it seem as though it was someone who connects with the author's work. I enjoyed Both!
"Every mother, wife, woman should own a copy"
This book was recommended to me by a counselor while I was suffering from Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. It is one woman's manual to overcoming struggles and although the book has a heavy emphasis on dealing with alcoholics, and people with dependency issues, something that was not necessarily true for me, it taught me a massive amount about my own thought process and really how I bet myself up way too much mentally.It genuinely changed me for the better and made me feel understood and more aware of my strengths.I purchased the audio version as I really did not feel like reading some "self help" crap, if I'm honest. However I think I made the right choice, the narrator is perfect and I have listened to some chapters over and over.I recommend this if you ever feel your kindness is taken advantage of, you feel under appreciated, you say yes to things because you feel guilty saying no or you have any sort of hurtful, or dysfunctional relationships in your life,You will finally understand everything,
It is written in a non-preachy way, it is not condescending and unlike other self help books, this can sometimes make you mad, but at yourself. It took me on a journey I will never forget.
Christina Moore is excellent. It feels like a chat rather than someone reading to you, I cannot recommend her highly enough
No, but it is a book you will ALWAYS go back to
If your in doubt, but other books are telling you the same old positive thinking diatribe..I cant emphasize enough, this book is a massive seller for a reason, and its one you will pass on
"Very good for recovery"
For me, personally, this (audio)book is one of the best I have listened to (read) recently. It not only points out to eventual causes of the disfunction but also to possible ways of recovering from it.
Very good reading style.
Many moments: couple of them are "feel what you feel", about anger, grief, 12 Step work and other
Genuinly, "high" on my priority list.
Whether you think you need this book or not, YOU NEED IT!! Very insightful and understandable. I can't recommend it enough.
"Brilliant. Wish I had found this sooner"
Covers everything. I didn't even know I was codependent. I just kept attracting the same relationships
I thought that this book was to over published, she does not have a PHD IN PSYCHOLOGY AND FOUND SOME SENTENCES REPEATABLE . ITS OKAY FOR THE LIGHT READER . BUT ITS NOT FOR EVERYONE. SURE IT WILL HELP PEOPLE IN SIMULATIVE CIRCUMSTANCES. ONLY GOT A LITTLE OUT OF IT MYSELF. SORRY....
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