Stop being a victim and develop healthy, happy relationships A codependent lives as if what others think matters more than what they think, and as if they can please or change someone else. It' s an insidious and pervasive addiction. And there is a simple way out of it: detachment. Best-selling author Karen Casey shares the insights and tools she's discovered in her own decades of sobriety and in talking with other codependents.
Her unique treatment of this much talked about, but not clearly understood, syndrome focuses not on the cause, but on the individual's own power to detach from a bad situation and make a choice for recovery.
Casey takes readers through the steps of detaching-admitting our attachment, surrendering outcome, forgiving, focusing our attention on what works. She describes how to pay attention, be aware, and take care of ourselves, and let others-husbands, family, coworkers-be accountable for themselves.
Codependence and the Power of Detachment shows that detachment is a power anyone can claim. It is the power of sanity, of peace, of finding one's own inner strength.
©2008 Karen Casey (P)2012 Audible, Inc.
Karen Casey is obviously a wise and compassionate woman who has grown tremendously through her life experience with alcoholism, codependency, and 12 step recovery. In this book, Casey is great at describing what recovery from codependence looks like but not so good at actually conveying how to set the boundaries required to get there (as the subtitle promises), except to repeatedly tell people to "detach" (again, without giving much guidance on how to do this) and go to 12 step meetings. As such, the book often reads more like an advertisement for Al Anon or CoDA -- and maybe that's the whole point -- than a true self-help manual, much as her last book often felt like a trailer for A Course in Miracles.
Bottom line is that while I enjoyed listening to the many stories of people's lives (lots to reflect on here), and even gleaned something of value from many of them, I wish Casey offered more explicit guidance for recovering codependents than simply telling people to go to 12 step meetings. (She begins to touch on this a bit toward the end in her discussion of the twelve steps themselves, but it's not much to work with.) On the plus side, I did find this book more helpful than her previous title ("Change Your Mind and Your Life Will Follow") and Joyce Bean's narration vastly improved, so I'd still recommend giving it a listen.
One massive Al Anon advertisement. Author gives multiple scenarios of Co dependence and provides absolutely NO helpful advice to moving through these situations, only solutions given are "Go to Al Anon meeting"????
This book was a God send. I have read it again and again and again. It helps me remember what's important when I feel weak or confused and outlines the most valuable principle of codependency recovery.
I have never written a review before but I am so moved to share my experience with this book.
I will listen to it as a reminder of what is real whenever I feel weak or confused.
Thank you so much to the author for writing this book.
"I expected more from the author"
The book, in my opinion, is rather a compilation of stories with relatively little elaboration and quite a lot of repetitions from the authors other book I listened to.
Significantly less interesting with little new insights
Reading was gook
I am rather disappointed with this work of the author from whom I expected more insights and after having listened to her other book on detachment.
"personal stories that will touch you"
The personal stories of her own friends' lives that Karen shares with the reader are what will really touch you. These stories will ring true for you and although she isn't trying to "teach" us any "lesson", you might just get a profound understand of the message that she is trying to convey. Give this a listen and you will learn to hear your own voice better that is telling you what is best for you.
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