Do your kids think that clean, folded clothes magically appear in their drawers? Do they roll their eyes when you suggest they clean the bathroom? Do you think it's your job to pave their road to success? As parents, so often we hover, race in to save, and do everything we can for our kids - unintentionally reinforcing their belief that the world revolves around them.
When Kay Wyma realized that an attitude of entitlement had crept into her home, this mother of five got some attitude of her own. Cleaning House is her account of a year-long campaign to introduce her kids to basic life skills. From making beds to grocery shopping to refinishing a deck chair, the Wyma family experienced for themselves the ways meaningful work can transform self-absorption into earned self-confidence and concern for others.
With irresistible humor and refreshing insights, Kay candidly details the ups and downs of removing her own kids from the center of the universe. The changes that take place in her household will inspire you to launch your own campaign against youth entitlement. As Kay says, "Here's to seeing what can happen when we tell our kids, 'I believe in you, and I'm going to prove it by putting you to work."
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I chose it to read because I'm on a 12-months of "xyz"-kick right now ... but as a mother of young children, I bump up against this entitlement stuph on a regular basis. I found myself shouting YES!! to her philosophy and statements (after admitting to the error of her ways prior to the project) and cheering her and her family on throughout the book. I feel so strongly about the points and quality of this book that I am purchasing it for every member (40!) of my Mothers of PreSchoolers group this year!
when she recounts a friend's son putting in a sprinkler system himself (including research and purchasing), and when she had one (clueless) kid pump gas ...
there are 12 categories - I think my favorite 'scenes' are when she explains the different ways her different-personaly-ed crew handled the challenges.
give kids the tools, and step back. self-esteem is created when you give them the opportunities to succeed (and sometimes fail), not when you pave the way, fix the results, or prevent failure/experience altogether!
I liked the idea of this book and the comparison stories but the story is basically the same every month. Maybe it is the wordage used over and over.
Maybe not using the same words, basic story line each month.
YES, It made me realize my 20 YOA son is still reaping the benefits.....Not now!
This was a good book just a bit redundant. What this book preaches about entitlement is all factual and makes you realize you need to CUT OUT ENABLING!
I am a working mom who loves to squeeze in listening to books while walking, doing chores or commuting.
I would recommend this book to families with children at home. It is thought provoking and is a good guide on how to restructure chores. I would caution my friends though that this author has a much less protective approach to child safety than I do. I did not agree that letting children take off alone on bicycles or other community outings is part of building self-sufficient children. Letting toddlers access dangerous playground equipment and letting them learn the hard way if they get hurt seems irresponsible. Children are vulnerable and there are a lot of bad people and dangers out there. At times, I felt that the author was weary of parenting 5 children and was largely motivated by her own need to have the children self-sufficient at an early age. I did not implement this type of program yet, raised three very well adjusted self-sufficient children. The author doesn't factor in maturity as a real physiological process and part of brain functions with aging. She does seem to be rushing her children and it seems they were pretty stressed. I know moms with 5 plus children and it does seem that these moms are much more ready to have their children self-sufficient earlier out of necessity.
Yes, as above. The book has lots of good ideas. She also quotes scripture and seems to be striving to be a Godly mother.
No one scene stands out. The book is full of scenes about how the authors children responded to her new mandates.
My children are raised, but I can implements some of the ideas with future grand-children. It is a nice concept.
The narrator is superb!
This book could have had the children's voices spoken by actual children. Her children did not want to be mentioned by name in this book and were given hilarious aliases. It's nice to be able to listen to someone's life who does not work, does not teach her own children, has financial security on one income, and who can roll with childhood behavior with amazing disrespect. The parental disrespect actions are always mild, but in the context of the near complete lack of empathetic actions towards the parents the household is a model of what entitled parents and children look like.
Oh, not at all, just if you think that this is going to help you get your household in loving order, it will only be a great model of what not to do. In listening to this book my children kept stopping the play to tell me what a great mom I am because I don't "act as the enforcer" among many other actions.
Tavia Gilbert was wonderful to listen to, I would love to listen to her more.
This book was like satire. We ended up listening to it as a family, especially sections where the parents handled entitlement issues by paying out of family people to do the work -- cooking days handled by the child ordering fast food, gardening chores delegated to a yard crew, and many other throw money at the problem fixes.
What a contrast from Hold on to Your Kids, which is the sort of book I wanted more of.
When I started this book I thought it would be about how to get your kids to pick up after themselves. I was wrong and I was right. Yes it is about how to get your kids to do pitch in and help but it’s also about what message am I sending to my kids when I do it for them or don’t allow them to grow and learn. It opened my eyes to see how my meaningful intentions of helping my children actually may have caused some of the problems in the first place. For a mom/wife/friend or relative of kids you might just get something out of this book that will help you to connect with your kids on a level I didn’t know was there. Mrs. Wyma really spoke to my heart in this book and understanding that loving my kids sometimes means stepping back and letting go. Thank you Mrs. Wyma for this book I recommend it to all of my friends.
It would be more like a reality TV series on families that raising respondsible children.
No. Her whiny kid voices set my teeth on edge.
Irritation. I couldn't wait for it to end.
If the author had said one more time, "Have I mentioned I'm _______?" or "Future Hoarders of America..." my head might have exploded.
Yes. Yes you have mentioned it. Several times. Too many times.
The names (pseudonyms) of her kids are ridiculous. Snopes? Really?
I have kids. Not everything out of their mouths is an irritating whine. In this rendition, every time a child spoke it was like nails on a chalkboard.
The Wyma's have money.
Lots of Bible quotes and Jesus references. I guess I should have done my homework. If I had known this was a "Christian" book, I would have never gotten it.
I think it's a sin to let your kids drink Dr. Pepper (or any soft drink for that matter).
My wife got this book and I knew I wasn't going to read it so I got it in audio to know what she was going to talk about. I didn't like it at all: my feeling is that this could have been a good magazine article, no longer than a few pages. She started reading it and dropped it after a few pages.
My general impression is that there wasn't enough substance, that you could get the same level of information/knowledge in an informal talk with any mom. The subject of youth entitlement is attractive for me as a parent, but I'd look for more info elsewhere.
Sorry to be hard with this review, I respect the time/effort that involves the creation of a book, but I'm totally disappointed in this audio.
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