Boundaries in Dating

By: Dr. John Townsend, Dr. Henry Cloud

Narrated by: Dr. Henry Cloud, Dr. John Townsend

Length: 2 hrs and 28 mins

Publisher's summary

This abridged audio edition of Boundaries in Dating offers illuminating insights for romance that can help you grow in freedom, honesty, and self-control as you pursue healthy dating limits that can lead to a happy marriage.

Dating can be fun, but it's not easy. Meeting people is just the first step. Once you've met someone, then what? Should you move on, pursue a simple friendship, or more? How do you set smart limits on your physical relationship? How much do you get involved financially? And how do you know if you've found your future spouse?

In Boundaries in Dating, Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend, counselors and authors of the New York Times bestseller Boundaries, answer all of these questions and more. Helping you bridge the pitfalls of dating, Drs. Cloud and Townsend share their practical advice for adding healthy boundaries to your dating life.

Boundaries in Dating unfolds a wise, biblical path to developing self-control, freedom, and intimacy. Let Drs. Cloud and Townsend help you get to know yourself, solve problems, and enjoy the journey of dating and finding your life partner.

Full of insightful, real-life examples, this much-needed book will give you the tools you need to:

• Recognize and choose quality over perfection in a dating partner
• Prioritize friendship within your relationship
• Preserve friendships by separating between platonic relationships and romantic interest
• Move past denial to handle real relational problems in a realistic and hopeful way
• Enjoy this season of life

Don't forget to check out the Boundaries collection of books and workbooks dedicated to key areas of your life, including dating, marriage, parenting kids, raising teenagers, and leadership.

©2000 Henry Cloud and John Townsend (P)2000 The Zondervan Corporation

DARE TO DESIRE

God teaches that a hope deferred makes the heart sick, but a desire accomplished is a tree of life. Dr Henry Cloud studied hundreds of accomplished single women who were not dating, not daring to desire a husband. Many rationalized that being married was not what God wanted for them as He had failed to deliver a suitable, biblical helper for them. Henry reminded them that they used their strengths, but they hid their weakness, of being vulnerable, approachable, and available behind the fig leaf of fear. Dr. Cloud's books are spreckled with humor and scripture, a fun listen. He challenges each single person DARING TO DESIRE a change in their marital status to CHANGE their behavior, their pattern of where they go, of who they hang with, and to intentionally travel to places where they would meet, not date, five new singles per week. OBVIOUS LESSON: God does His part, but we must "do" our part with actions and faith while trusting our indwelt guide. Funny thing about "waiting on the Lord" is that he teaches us to be active while we are waiting. FOR 38 YEARS a disabled and broken hearted man sat by the pool at Bethesda hoping that the rumored angel would heal him and he would walk again. The desperate gathered daily and waited in silence for a miracle. Days, months, years passed without speaking, without reaching out for relationship. With any kind of self-deception or if we are deceived by someone we are in relationship with, we never can trust what reality is. I have been self-deceived for 33 years waiting on God to deliver a suitable husband. THIS BOOK is AWESOME as it gives you HOPE and a PLAN to date with wisdom. Enjoy the journey to the chapel. Who placed the talent in your soul? Who gave you the desire of your heart? Is your answer God the Creator of all that is good? Then WHY NOT DARE TO DESIRE a family, be married, write a book, build a home, compose music, be a speaker, sing? Use this book as a guide, date with boundaries and confidence.

Must Read For Any Singles

Highly recommend! Something is so freeing about learning how to set boundaries. I read this book early on in my dating life in my early 20s, definitely needed a refresher almost 10yrs later. Read and re-read!

Excellent

Talks about integrity. Has a hard religious angle regarding sex and dating. A very useful book about integrity, authenticity and fairness. I highly recommend it.

Must read!

Great information and key points to healthy dating. Must read if you want to achieve going beyond dating the right way.

For Christians

Would you say that listening to this book was time well-spent? Why or why not?

If your not a Christian its hard to choke down but if you can get past the religious aspect its very informative.

Would you recommend Boundaries in Dating to your friends? Why or why not?

Wouldn't recommend as there must be other good books out there that doesn't have a religious aspect.

What aspect of Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend ’s performance would you have changed?

Can be written without Christianity.

Could you see Boundaries in Dating being made into a movie or a TV series? Who should the stars be?

No

Delightful & Enlightening-The Best!

Where does Boundaries in Dating rank among all the audiobooks you’ve listened to so far?

It's tops! Insights into human relationships; it's pitfalls, cautions, and success when done right.

What was one of the most memorable moments of Boundaries in Dating?

Because Henry and John are professional counselors with many years of experience in relationships they have so many experiences they've shared that are good. Most memorable is indicators on how to determine if someone is trustworthy and if this person is worth pursuing.

What does Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend bring to the story that you wouldn’t experience if you just read the book?

Very pleasant voice and delivery.

What did you learn from Boundaries in Dating that you would use in your daily life?

How to relate to others with proper boundaries and what I can do to effect healthy relationships in my life, no matter what the other person may do.

Any additional comments?

I think this book is excellent and would listen to it many times, there is so much to glean. With Jesus Christ in the center of our life, you are given discernment and wisdom to add to all this good advice and you have a a wonderful platform to find your life mate.

The Truth speaks for itself.

Excellent a real eye opener.
Everyone should read this before entering into any type of relationship.

Great. simple. straightforward. enlightening.

Loved it. Read it in one day. Recommended for anyone dating, no matter what age. A blessing.