A call to dads to step up to the plate to become the loving, actively engaged father that a daughter needs for life and relational success. The relationship that matters most to your daughter isn't the one with her mother - it's the one with you, Dad. Her self-esteem, choices, behavior, character, and even her ideas about or choice of a marriage partner are all directly tied to you, as the most important representative to her of the male species. In Be the Dad She Needs You to Be Dr. Kevin Leman, internationally-known psychologist, New York Times best-selling author, and father of four daughters, will show you not only how to get the fathering job done and done well, but also how to:
With some effort on your part (and very few dollars), you can gain the kind of relationship you dream of with your daughter - one based on mutual love and respect. The simple yet profound suggestions will transform you into the kind of man your daughter needs...for a lifetime.
©2014 Thomas Nelson (P)2014 Thomas Nelson
I don't know how to father a daughter - how would I? My relationship with my own father was not good, and even if it were, that is still father-son experience, not father-daughter experience.
Your daughter will look to you for encouragement, support, and unconditional love. Us men are better at fixing emotions than patiently bearing them with our loved ones. Similarly, the women in our lives don't always realize (how would they?) that keeping emotions under the hood is our way of protecting them, that is, our way of keeping from becoming too emotional ourselves and losing our sense of judgment, and then doing something stupid.
Nevertheless, we mustn't be afraid of feeling our emotions when we are and daughters. Keeping a cold distance from them, compensated by random bouts of "warmness," is both confusing and damaging to their development.
In "Be the Dad She Needs You to Be," by Kevin Leman, we learn how to protect our daughters without being overbearing, defend our daughters without becoming overly-defensive, and engage our daughters with love that is sympathetic and forbearing. Our daughters can be crazy, fun, adventurous, studious, capitulating, stoic, and everything in between; but at the end of the day, we Fathers are the ones who get to walk through those most difficult times in early life with them as reliable guides and rocks of refuge.
We can make it harder, by not understanding, or we can make it easier, by setting our own hurts aside and realizing that our childhood is completely irrelevant to their childhood. These daughters of ours are their own people who will someday head out into the world, and we can leave a good imprint on them, or a bad imprint on them, but we will leave an imprint, and the choice is up to us.
There is something within all of us that makes things which we would never consider doing to our friends or acquaintances seem somehow okay to do to our own family members. I don't know what this nature is, but I know it's wrong, and that circumspect guidance from people like Dr. Kevin Leman is essential if we want to be proud of the decisions we made when we look back upon our lives from our deathbeds.
This book has helped me look at my and the legacy I'm leaving with my four daughters. He provides examples that you can implement in your relationships. This will definitely be a book that I come back to again. Thank you for telling us your story
I'm going through a divorce right now not by choice I encourage all dad's to read this book and educate themselves on becoming a better father even if your already a great father
I have the audio, will need to listen again and take notes. great book a lot of info to try and apply but gotta start somewhere.
Practical. I am challenged to be that dad. Thanks Dr Leman! You've given me some great tools to work with.
I listened to this entire book on a Saturday working on my landscaping duties. It made me stop every couple of chapters and wipe some of tears from my eyes. Very inspiring for all fathers who or will have daughters. Highly recommend this book. The humor intertwined makes it a very enjoyable read.
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