It is estimated that as many as 34 million people grew up in alcoholic homes. But what about the rest of us? What about families that had no alcoholism, but did have perfectionism, workaholism, compulsive overeating, intimacy problems, depression, problems in expressing feelings, plus all the other personality traits that can produce a family system much like an alcoholic one?
Countless millions of us struggle with these kinds of dysfunctions every day, and until very recently we struggled alone. Pulling together both theory and clinical practice, John and Linda Friel provide a listenable explanation of what happened to us and how we can rectify it.
©1988, 2010 John and Linda Friel (P)2013 Audible, Inc.
My favorite book thus far. Any fan of Alice Miller must listen to this book.
The body never lies - alice miller
I identified incredibly with their stories. Their observations and thoughts allowed me to recognize many aspects of my childhood as abusive and heavily dysfunctional. I had a lot of anger and resentment for what felt like a lost childhood from absentee parents but had trouble identifying how exactly I experienced the abuse. This book allowed me to identify the abuse and gave me much needed confirmation of my feelings. Thank you
This isn't some hokey book for saps. It's informative and brings concepts to everyday language and also metaphor. This is the first I've read on the subject, but I feel it's a very important one. Give it a try if this is something in your life.
I had a paperback as well as the audio book. I found that very useful to "read" the book quickly 1 day and a bit, and highlight the important bits to me.
The deep in the analysis
all the histories shown matters
the clarity of his voice
the familiar environment
This book was not very insightful, for me at least.
Couldn't keep my attention
using facts more so than solutions
"Addictive in a wholesome way!"
I found this book one of the most 'must listen to' books I have, to date, in my Audible library. I identified with so many aspects described in it and found it very helpful in terms of promoting self discovery and insight.
The 'characters' in this book that I most enjoyed were the ones I could identify within my own life. Both through aspects applicable to myself and to characteristics I could see in others close to me. This developed a greater insight into why I think/act the way I do, but in a refreshing way that helped me to reframe my thinking on certain life events.
Easy to listen to and authentic.
Definitely! I will read it again as there is much to gain from it!
Highly recommend this book for anyone whether you have come from a dysfunctional home or know someone who has. It may surprise you to know how common these traits are!
Everyone should read/listen to this book as not everyone had perfect parenting since our parents are only human beings and make mistakes as they have their own insecurities, therefore, they project their junk onto us and/or raise us in dysfunctional ways which make us grow up as adult children.
For those who really came from dysfunctional families, the remedy is continuing with this kind of readings plus 12 step groups for adult children and therapy if you have the money for it.
"Brief, warm, enlightening."
Recommended reading for adults of dysfunctional families and overcoming addiction, dysfunction and isolation. Part of a growing body of useable psychology.
"Packed with insighrs"
You'll know immediately if this is relevant to you. If it is, you're in for some hard truths... but invaluable insights.
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