• Wired for Love

  • How Understanding Your Partner's Brain and Attachment Style Can Help You Defuse Conflict and Build a Secure Relationship
  • By: Stan Tatkin PsyD MFT
  • Narrated by: Michael Hinton
  • Length: 7 hrs and 37 mins
  • 4.6 out of 5 stars (1,181 ratings)

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Wired for Love

By: Stan Tatkin PsyD MFT
Narrated by: Michael Hinton
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"What the heck is my partner thinking?" is a common refrain in romantic relationships and with good reason. Every person is wired for love differently, with different habits, needs, and reactions to conflict. The good news is that most people's minds work in predictable ways and respond well to security, attachment, and rituals, making it possible to actually neurologically prime the brain for greater love and fewer conflicts.

Wired for Love is an innovative guide to understanding your partner's brain and enjoying a romantic relationship built on love and trust. Synthesizing research findings drawn from neuroscience, attachment theory, and emotion regulation, this audiobook presents 10 guiding principles that can improve any relationship.

©2011 Stan Tatkin (P)2015 Tantor

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"A marvelous resource." (Rick Hanson, PhD, author of Buddha's Brain)

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No PDF = 1 star

Any audio book that has exercises but the production team cannot be bothered to create and add a PDF of those exercises for listeners, is to me, and in my opinion should be to you, a one star showing. In fact you’ve already written it and printed it. Greedy and not showing up for the people.who paid you for your work. That aside this would have been a 4 or 5 star review.

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Excellent book and based on science

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Loved this book, plan to listen to it again. I love how the author incorporates major attachment theorists as well as recent research on interpersonal neurobiology. Is written in a way that people not in the psychology field can understand the concepts. The book also has a really great narrator. Have recommended the book to patients.

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This book saved my relationship

If you always thought that the 'men are from Mars and women are from Venus" books were hokie and based on a lot of subjective opinions then this is the book for you! based on a lot of research and science of the brain the author very clearly and in layman's terms lays out how the brain is literally wired for love and why we do the things we do in relationships.

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Finally, a book on making relationships work that is based on science and not standard marriage counseling BS.

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Excellent Book for Successful Relationship!

Loved it! Great book to read as a couple if you want to have a successful relationship. simply said, we don't come with instruction manuals. Very important to understand how each person is designed and how our brains are wired... and why we are the way we are. I now have a deeper appreciation of my mate, a wave, as well as better understanding of myself, the island. Just wish it gave better direction for exact ways to overcome some of the underlying battles an island faces.

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For the next one...

This book was amazing and very painful, in a good way. I feel better armed for love in the future, I understand better what frustrated me in my former marriage and also where I failed as a husband.

This is really a must read. It won’t just affect romantic relationships: it’ll make you a better parent, boss, employee, friend, sibling, etc.

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Good narration horrible scientific term pronunciation

Sits a gold boom that has a lot of useful info. However, the narrator (and the recording crew) had no clue how to pronounce scientific terms. It was SO BAD as to completely distract from the points being made/info being conveyed.
Re-record those sections where brain science is discussed.

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Game changer

If you really want lasting, positive results, listen and follow the instructions herein. I've listened to this book more times than any other. It's a great companion and ally for my ambassadors.

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well worth the time

this book cut through the fluff and provided direct advice on how to approach and how to improve relationships.
the suggestions were logical and can be used on both romantic and non romantic relationships.

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Mostly boring and difficult to listen to.

I definitely struggled to finish this. The narrator was not very good, plus a lot of the content of the book was extremely boring with a lot of history and scientific based chapters. I skipped over a good portion of this book trying to get to the helpful stuff. There is some helpful stuff, but I really wouldn't recommend this book.

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