Do women have sex simply to reproduce or display their affection? When University of Texas at Austin clinical psychologist Cindy M. Meston and evolutionary psychologist David M. Buss joined forces to investigate the underlying sexual motivations of women, what they found astonished them.
Through the voices of real women, Meston and Buss reveal the motivations that guide women's sexual decisions and explain the deep-seated psychology and biology that often unwittingly drive women's desires - sometimes in pursuit of health or pleasure, or sometimes for darker, disturbing reasons that a woman may not fully recognize. Drawing on more than a thousand intensive interviews conducted solely for the book, as well as their pioneering research on physiological response and evolutionary emotions, Why Women Have Sex uncovers an amazingly complex and nuanced portrait of female sexuality. They delve into the use of sex as a defensive tactic against a mate's infidelity (protection), as a ploy to boost self-confidence (status), as a barter for gifts or household chores (resource acquisition), or as a cure for a migraine headache (medication).
Why Women Have Sex stands as the richest and deepest psychological understanding of female sexuality yet achieved and promises to inform every woman's (and her partner's) awareness of her relationship to sex and her sexuality.
©2009 Cindy M. Meston and David M. Buss; (P)2009 Tantor Media
aimed at a female audience, but not overtly so. as a guy i had no trouble following the narrative, to my dismay. the biggest thing i got from this book was that most women seem to view sex as something they can do as much as something they want to do. a gift, a weapon, a token for trade, a duty, a show of mercy, a way of acting out... the title is very well worded. this book is not about what turns women on, though it does touch on that. but to women, it seems being turned on isn't really a prerequisite to having sex. if you're a male like me, expect to have your rico suave bubble busted. but enlightenment is like that sometimes. for me personally, ignorance is not bliss. i am glad i listened to this book.
I disagree with the previous reviewer completely. I found this not only an interesting book (for men and women), but it was well-written and perfectly narrated. Would highly recommend it. I learned a lot of things that now seem so obvious.
This book is exactly what the title says...it covers all the reasons women have sex. It does this by turning a scientific research study into a very entertaining book. You will finish the book with a more well rounded understanding if your a guy and if your a girl you may finally understand why you slept with some of the guys you did. It is not a how to sleep with women book (guys), but you can learn to understand women better and if you pay attention why women sleep with certain men for certain reasons (this book covers about all of them), you can pick what motivations you want to give woman and emulate that.
Overall a great book and a great narrative, I wish they reported all scientific research studies in this format!
Read this book because several women -- friends, girlfriends, spouse, etc. -- in my life have had issues with sex, and for some, are only now (in their 40's and 50's) really coming to terms with their sexuality. Wish I'd had this book fifteen years ago -- it is a well-researched and effectively reported discourse on the myriad emotions and physical needs that motivate sex... and the avoidance of sex. As the authors cover the subject, they include comments from the women they interviewed, offering a unique insight.
This book, along with Ian Koerner's "She Comes First" and Gail Sheehy's "Sex and the Seasoned Woman" form a great basis for both understanding sexual issues and positively, lovingly resolving those issues.
Besides incessant listening to audiobooks, I also read on my Kindle at night, birdwatch, garden (roses, daylilies), and do genealogy.
First, let me say how exellent the narrator is. She made a research-oriented book come to life and remain interesting all the way through.
The book had some unexpected, sometimes amusing, important, and always interesting findings that could be of benefit to everyone, women and men alike. It was very easy to listen to, and I would highly recommend it.
This is a fairly interesting book, and I have learned much about feminine psychology, but I find this book a little repetitive, one wonders if the book cannot be make shorter.
Enlightening and rich in details, the books only down-fall is that it seems to be written more for a female rather than a male audience. This is fine since us guys can extrapolate so much for the betterment of our relationships and answer the “What Do Women Want” riddle once and for all!
I am an English teacher in China and can now read and write some Chinese.I have been to 13 countries on 4 continents.I am an avid audiophile
I listened to this while exploring Sri Lanka.I live in Asia.I did learn a great deal of things about the differences between various women.I also feel like men are really jerks,so it is women that end up bearing the brunt of indiscretions of men.Perhaps we men need sex a bit more than women do biologically.We never hear of women raping men for instance.At 45 and formerly divorced I really wanted to understand how women see things.Maybe we just mature differently.Young women between 20-40 have a short window into having children safely,so they do a great deal to lure the right kind of man.The problem is men don't really seem to reach stability until after 40,which runs against women's instincts for security.Just as we reach our peak earning years they reach their declining child bearing years.It wasn't a spectacular listen,but I learned a few things that could perhaps make me more sensitive to the needs of the opposite sex and perhaps the drives that push my own sex.
Excellent, excellent book. I wish I had read this book before I got married. It's sort of like reading your wife or girlfriend's Cosmo when no one is looking.
Nothing has ever gotten me closer to understanding the behavior and feelings of women until this book. Although it is written about why women have sex (literally), there is so much here that explains so many behaviors.
I will never understand my wife completely. But this book answers (between the lines) a lof of "why" questions about her behavior and motivations. I admit I have used the information to benefit myself - but only because I understand and can adequately address her needs better. In that respect, she has benefitted equally.
I’m a guy and I don’t know how many times I caught myself nodding my head and thinking “Isn’t that the truth!” while listening to this book. Want to have a little sexual insight into your woman? Listen to this book and have some fun while you do.
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