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Trapped in the Mirror Audiobook

Trapped in the Mirror: Adult Children of Narcissists in Their Struggle for Self

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Publisher's Summary

The difficulties experienced by adult children of narcissists can manifest themselves in many ways - for example, physical self-loathing that takes the form of overeating, anorexia, or bulimia; a self-destructive streak that causes poor job performance and rocky personal relationships; or a struggle with the self that is perpetuated in the adult's interaction with his or her own children. These dilemmas are both common and correctable, Elan Golomb tells us.

With an empathic blend of scholarship and case studies, along with her own personal narrative of her fight for self, Dr. Golomb plumbs the depths of this problem, revealing its mysterious hold on the affairs of otherwise bright, aware, motivated, and worthy people.

Trapped in the Mirror explores:

  • The nature of the paralysis and lack of motivation so many adults feel
  • Stress and its role in exacerbating childhood wrongs
  • Why so many of our relationships seem to be reruns of the past
  • How anger must be acknowledged to be overcome
  • And, most important, how even the most traumatized self can be healed

©1992 Elan Colomb, PhD (P)2016 Tantor

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    AlyssaMarieBeauty 10-13-16 Member Since 2016
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    "Great book!"

    I really, really enjoyed this book. Very eye opening. My one and only gripe would be that I wish it gave a little more insight into how to fix, or change, the traits/feelings/etc that we have due to our narcissistic parents. She makes suggestions here and there, but being more straight forward would be helpful. Overall great book though. Worth reading!

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    D. Villalpando USA 10-11-16
    D. Villalpando USA 10-11-16 Member Since 2016
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    What would have made Trapped in the Mirror better?

    I have read many books related to emotional abuse and BPD lately, and I was actually quite excited to learn more about NPD. It may be that this book either wasn't relevant to my situation or, perhaps, it's too relevant and thus I was blinded. I found most of it to be a long whine and condemnation without regard to the cause of the NPD parent. Terms relating to narcissism are thrown out as denigrations left and right without any real exploration as to the cause - beyond essentially stating that "their parents were awful narcissists too!" The case studies were similarly boring and whiney, not to mention overlong. The author's explaining away of lesbianism at one point I found particularly off putting as if the book were written in the 19th century. All in all, I found the book unhelpful and not particularly informative, although I understand I'm in the minority


    Would you ever listen to anything by Elan Golomb again?

    I certainly would give her other works a chance. She is erudite to say the least.


    How could the performance have been better?

    Maybe it's just me, but the performance was one of the worst I've heard. It was completely unpalatable and absolutely added to the abrasiveness of the text, and, in the end, made me feel like I was being scolded for the entire presentation. The nervous mannerisms and cadence led me to believe that the narrator was far from a professional in the field. More practice and a conversational tone would certainly have improved the performance.


    If you could play editor, what scene or scenes would you have cut from Trapped in the Mirror?

    I would have trimmed all the case studies to the relevant points without all the derogatory accusations. I would have cut the section on lesbianism. I understand that perhaps in some cases it can be a reaction as described, but I thought she painted those portions with far too broad a brush - essentially saying "Lesbianism is usually a reaction to this bad thing or that bad thing."


    Any additional comments?

    I'm concerned that this book came highly recommended and I found it not helpful, informative or interesting. It makes me wonder if I would have gotten more from it by reading it in print.

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    A. Guhl Hanford, CA United States 08-26-16
    A. Guhl Hanford, CA United States 08-26-16 Member Since 2015
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    "Groundbreaking book!"
    Would you recommend this audiobook to a friend? If so, why?

    I would recommend this book because of the excellent experience and insights of the author. It is an excellent look into the minds and hearts of the children of narcissists.


    What does Angela Brazil bring to the story that you wouldn’t experience if you just read the book?

    I love audio books in general because of my busy life. Angela's reading style is unique and I can understand how some might find it difficult but I did not. Angela's diction is excellent and her style of reading helped keep me focused on the content of the book. It helped me think through the word she was saying so that I can integrate the concepts into my life.


    Any additional comments?

    I'm listening to it a second time already after just finishing it. It is that important to me.

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