In this compelling book, the authors present an innovative therapeutic model for understanding and treating adults from emotionally abusive or neglectful families - families the authors call narcissistic. Narcissistic families have a parental system that is, for whatever reason (job stress, alcoholism, drug abuse, mental illness, physical disability, lack of parenting skills, self-centered immaturity), primarily involved in getting its own needs met. The children in such narcissistic family systems try to earn love, attention, and approval by satisfying their parents' needs, thus never developing the ability to recognize their own needs or create strategies for getting them met. By outlining the theoretical framework of their model and using dozens of illustrative clinical examples, the authors clearly illuminate specific practice guidelines for treating these individuals.
About the authors: Stephanie Donaldson-Pressman is a therapist, consultant, and trainer. She is known for her work with dysfunctional families, particularly with survivors of incest. Robert M. Pressman is the editor-in-chief and president of the Joint Commission for the Development of the Treatment and Statistical Manual for Behavioral and Mental Disorders.
©1994 Stephanie Donaldson-Pressman and Robert M. Pressman (P)2012 Audible, Inc.
yes, i could relate to many of the stories and see my own situation and the book helped me to accept my own (Lack Of) relationship with my parents.
I enjoyed the variety of examples and the way in which they were told.
i was more at peace after reading this book and more able to let go of the "fantasy" of family that i had carried with me for so many years...thinking it could be "fixed" if only i could "fix it"... i am more prepared to just "let it be."
i would recommend this book to anyone who has has emotionally abusive parent (s)
YES,there are so much to learn about the human being behavior & the unconscious motivations for that behavior in this book.
clarity of her voice
great book for the social workers & clinical therapists and the psychologists
"It is what you read when you don't have to that determines what you will be when you can't help it." — Oscar Wilde
... I had no idea that there were others who could, not only understand what I went through as a child... & even now, but who could put it words & explain the actual issues. I'm overwhelmed with the hope that I'm not alone & I am so grateful to know that there is help! This book is a God send to my family! Thank you!!
The narrator. I wasn't as bothered by her intonation as some of the other reviewers, but it bothered me enough that I chose to skip another audiobook when I saw her name.The book itself is fine.
Some of the same things mentioned by others here -- though her voice is pleasant, I found the intonation/inflection very unnatural and robotic, to the extent that it became distracting. I also felt like the narrator injected a mild tone of annoyance into the text in some places where it was a bit odd to do so, although that was a much milder issue for me.
If you are new to this subject, this book will probably be a decent start and give you a sense of validation, which can be a lot. However, I wouldn't expect to be enlightened if you are familiar with the basics (whether through personal experience or general knowledge). If you approach it with a realistic set of expectations, it's an interesting text and worth the time.
I am visually impaired and can not "read" this book-if you can, avoid the torture of the narration and do it!
I am four chapters into the book and find the information interesting. I want desperately to continue listening but find the narration absolutely painful to listen to. I read the posted reviews before I bought the book and a reviewer wrote a great deal about the poor narration. I thought "It can't possibly be THAT bad!" Well, it can-and it is almost unbearable. This is an academic book and the narrator has added sighs and irritation into lines that are supposed to be coming from a therapist. Throughout most of the book the words are disjointed and robotic. It sounds like a "type to talk" communication device for the disabled. I need the information being provided but I may have to look for a different version from another vendor because I don't think I can stand this for another 5.5 hours. Finally. to the previous reviewer who warned me-I wish I had listened!
Good information on the subject being presented.
ANYONE!!!!! Although in fairness, part of the problem is the disjointed recording,
I don't know if I will get through the book listening to this narrator, The book may be good-but no amount of knowledge may be worth the audio pain I am experiencing.
Separate track listings. Better narration.
Narration for this book sounded automated, like it was made with voice rendering software. Once in a while I'd hear something human, like breathing and a natural, flowing voice, but most of the time the cadence sounded completely artificial and inhuman. It's very difficult to listen to a 7-hour audiobook like this, and I'm not sure how much longer I'm going to make it.
Not worth the $19.
This book is very deep, and if you're listening to it because of your own family, you will want to parse it out. The exercises are useful, and the examples give clear direction.
Great! Insightful, informative and quite possibly lifechanging! I will listen to this again and again as it was very comforting to me to realize exactly why my FOO operates how it does. adult relates to w engrained into me.
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